AboutDr.Sunu Sundar Expertise I can answer questions from rape victims who are desperate to find a source for inner healing. All my answers will focus on soothing the victims of rape ultimately leading to inner healing.
Experience I have been in counselling for last seven years. I have been counseling adults,teenagers and children who are abused and raped in various situations.
Education/Credentials I have a master degree in Psychology and another in Sociology
Question "Hi there, i have a current problem that i hope you can help me with. When i lost my virginity i was raped i was 15 and at a party and there was too much alcohol involved. Since this experience several reacurances have happened. I have been involved in lesbian love making, threesomes, gang bangs with 5 men or more at the time, affairs and cheating. When i was 22 i was raped again in my own bed again substance abuse was a main cause. Then when i was 23 i went out for the night and remember waking up in a strange house and i know id had sex the night before. I think i managed throughout my life not respecting myself and dissregarding sex and just allowing my self to have no strings attatched sex. I have recently been seeing a guy who is amazing and from the start i told him EVERYTHING. We have a few issues with sex and me thinking that he was the same as every other man, cheating lieing and untrustworthy but we have managed to improve this and my sex drive has returned after a few cousolling sessions. Thing is now i think ive told him too much he still thinks i might have the capability to be how i was, to cheat and live a double life and i want nothing but hence finally finding the man i want to spend my life with i worry i may have damaged our relationship by being too honest. please help we're nearly at breaking point. Kind regards x"
Answer Dear Kelly,
I very well understand your scenario.
It is good that you were totally honest with this guy about your past. Otherwise he will find about your past and once again you will be dumped
You say that the guy you have been seeing now is a amazing guy. May be it is true, however my question here is , is he really a loving and caring guy? If not, this guy will also cheat you eventually and will leave you
You have been honest with him, and yet he, after some time has started doubting your genuineness.If his relationship to you is based on real love, then he will not think about leaving you so soon.
