About Karen Expertise I can answer questions about healing after trauma.
I can answer questions about the physical and mental/emotional effects of trauma.
I am able to give general advice to those who have been hurt in the past.
I am not a professional and my advice is to be considered friendly support and not therapy. I'm here to help with healing!
I cannot give answers that would be considered medical advice. I can, however, reply with helpful links about medicines and such.
I cannot directly answer legal questions but I can do my best to help someone find the right answer using the internet.
Experience I am an abuse survivor myself. I used the internet as a resource for years to help heal myself as I didn’t feel comfortable letting my parents know. So, I understand those fears quite well.
I’ve spent over 5 years working on support groups on MSN and Yahoo and a handful of chat rooms. (Generally the majority of the same group, relocating over time.)
This included holding chats for the groups and answering personal emails or posts on the forums.
Education/Credentials I am in my first year of Psychology and Sociology. I’ve read multiple books and articles about the matter.
The most important thing to know is that you are NOT ALONE and it is NEVER too late to start healing!
Question 10 years ago my friend held an 18th birthday party for me at her house. I got very drunk and think I passed out on the sofa. Meanwhile my friends went upstairs with their boyfriends and went to bed. My next memories are very jumbled as I was very drunk.
I vaguely remember being helped up the stairs and I was standing in her brother's bedroom in nothing but a T-shirt and it wasn't mine. I think I faded in and out as I only have small glimpses of what happened.
I remember him having sex with me and I wasn't able to move very much or shout. I tried to throw him off but couldn't and I don't know if he noticed me trying to push him off.
When I woke up I staggered downstairs and locked myself in the bathroom to hide.
He wasn't at the party to start with and I don't remember him coming home during the party.
I've never been able to accept that it was rape as I am unsure if it could be classed as such. I've always felt that because I was drunk it was my fault. Also because I wasn't able to make my wishes very well known Maybe he didn't understand that I din't want it to happen.
I really don't feel I can move on until I have a definitive answer either way and am stuck in limbo. Any opinion would be greatly appreciated.
Many thanks
Louise
Answer I'm sorry you're in such a bad situation!
Let me link you to a few websites that explain what rape and sexual assault are and let you come to your own conclusions. It is hard for me, on the other side of a computer to answer you without being there and knowing everything.
