Expert: Dr.Sunu Sundar - 9/10/2009

Question
I not sure if I was raped.It all happen meeting a guy last night at work I meet alot of tourist people.A guy from London ask me out for some drinks after work I excepted the invitation.We talk for hours we ended up going up to his room.He ended up having sex,but then later on he want to have sex again and I told him no because he didnt have anymore condoms.I was still naked and he said come on its just a quick one I told him no again then he force my legs open and I was telling him no stop please Im been serious he did listen as I push away he grab my two arms with force as I fought more he grew stronger.He force himself into me and I kept on telling him to stop that he was hurting me to get off me that he was scaring me.He did stop he wouldnt say anything he just kept on going I starting to cry I dont know if he heard me but then he finish and he came inside me.after he got off I got up quick start to put my clothes on and he ask me where was I going that what was rong.I just told him I couldnt believe what he had just done.I walk out of the room and he called saying what was rong.He didnt think that he force himself on me that to please cum back to his room so he could take me to breafast .It seem that he didnt realise what he was doing.He kept on calling telling me if he hurt me in some kind of way that he was sorry.That he wanted to remain friends that he really liked me.I feel like its my fault I should had gone up stairs to his room with him that I should of faught harder and maybe he would of know what he was doing rong maybe I should of yelled louder.

Answer
Dear Annie,

The first sexual experience in that  room you had with him  was not a rape but  the second one  was  a rape in my opinion.

I highly  suggest you never  share  the privacy of a guy  except your husband in the future.

Have  a nice day