Expert: Dr.Sunu Sundar - 9/16/2009

Question
I have been involved in five relationships that have not lasted me more than a year and a half...I always break these relationships due to the same reason...i get bored with the other half..hate being around them and feel unsafe...I started having these bits and pieces of things from my past and part of it was remembering my uncle putting me in a sleeping bag and making me hold his private parts...I was a young girl maybe at the age of 5 or 6.I try to remember more of that time but the only thing that comes clear most time is the one above...When i try to go deep in thought so as to remember more i get scared and stop..So when all this is happening i then start to  hate being around man and just feel dirty for getting myself involved in relationships..This has happened in all the relationships i have had and one person said that i ad two personalities..one that hates man with a passion because of what happened and one that wants to be happy and lead a normal life..This has affected my whole life because i cry myself to sleep when i think of what might have happened to me as a child...Am i being haunted by my past...i need something or someone to help me remember because then i will be at peace with myself..

Answer
Dear Happie,

Peace be with you


Making you remembering the past is not that easy through on-line counseling.You need to visit   counselor for face to  face counseling
I would suggest you to engage yourself in regular, diligent prayers and regular  meditation for cleansing your  heart and mind from the  negative impact of the past.This  alone  will help you  to  forgive and forget the past and  enable you to live  a productive life.

Have  a nice day

Dr.Sunu Sundar