| Subject | Date Asked |
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| rape | 11/21/2009 |
Q: i am a 21 year old college student, i was raped about 4 years ago i have never really told anyone ...
A: Greetings! Counseling is for people not to go crazy!.I think your family/parents must ...
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| I am unsure? | 11/20/2009 |
Q: Sunu, I am a 23 year old girl who has learning disablities. I was in a work program for people who ...
A: Know this basic fact and imprint the below written in your mind. People who has no active ...
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| REPRESSED MEMORIES | 11/20/2009 |
Q: I WAS MOLESTED BY MY DAD AT 5YRS OLD AND AT 13 I WAS RAPED BY TWO MEN. MY DAD LEFT FOR YEARS And ...
A: It is possible to have feelings and memories without feelings. All you have to do is to pray ...
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| I dont know what to do | 11/20/2009 |
Q: Please help i don't know what to do. I'm pretty new to this i was raped 2 years ago . Life will ...
A: I understand the dilemma that you are in. I wish to awaken your mind and heart towards the ...
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| i dont know if this was rape | 11/12/2009 |
Q: i've been seeing this guy and we've had sex a few times before. he came over last night, and we got ...
A: This is not rape, but violent sex. I have a few suggestions for your happy and healthy life. ...
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| do I tell him I was raped?? | 11/6/2009 |
Q: Five years ago I was in a verbally abusive relationship, but we were having a baby so I just put up ...
A: What you must be careful here is not about telling the secret to the present man or hiding it.If ...
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| Sexual assault years ago in grade school from 3rd-5th | 11/6/2009 |
Q: Please excuse the long post and the explanation being a bit all over the place... i'm not sure how ...
A: If you believe or not God exists and God cannot be confined to any religion.I say this after my ...
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| How do I tell my family? | 11/6/2009 |
Q: I am 18, and a freshman at a University. I am 900 miles away from home. I goto school about an hour ...
A: I can well understand the confusion, shame and pain you go through after the rape. You need not ...
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| Sexual assault years ago in grade school from 3rd-5th | 11/5/2009 |
Q: Please excuse the long post and the explanation being a bit all over the place... i'm not sure how ...
A: I am happy about your long letter.That gave me an understanding of your situation. I would like ...
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| Was it rape? Was it my fault? | 11/3/2009 |
Q: Was I Raped? About two years ago i was in the 7th grade and my dad had just got married. i had moved ...
A: Yes this is rape. Your fault lies in playing drinking games with him.This game was a blunder ...
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| I think i was raped 3 years ago | 11/2/2009 |
Q: When i was 16 i had a friend that i was very close to. he was one of my best friends for a while and ...
A: The solution is simple. Avoid all kinds of drinking and night clubs. Also avoid being alone with ...
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| is this considered rape | 11/2/2009 |
Q: im a freshman and college and recentally lost my virginity with this guy. We had protected sex a ...
A: Yes this is rape. Kindly bear with me for the following suggestion. I say this out of my long ...
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| Learning to Forgive | 11/1/2009 |
Q: Sundar, I was lonely earlier in my relationship and cheated on my partner. He raped me thrice for ...
A: Peace be with you I assure there is hope for a happy life for you You say- "I am re-evaluating ...
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| Rape | 10/30/2009 |
Q: I am 46 years old and when I was around 6 years old my two brothers 12 and 9 molested me for 6years ...
A: Greetings. I read your long letter and could sense in me the pain you have been suffering ...
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| rape memory? | 10/29/2009 |
Q: I do hope I'm not bothering you and I aplogize if I am. See for the past few weeks both in my dreams ...
A: Respected Alex, Greetings! First and foremost I wish to say to you that you are not bothering me ...
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| How to help my fiance who was raped when i can be there. | 10/27/2009 |
Q: First off, my fiance and I are both in the military. I am stationed overseas and shes in the states. ...
A: Psychologically speaking, in my understanding, unless she gets help from a psychologist who is ...
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| How far a father's touch isn'e molestation? | 10/12/2009 |
Q: I will start with that we have been together for 4 yrs now and our age difference is 18 yrs for good ...
A: No doubt, as per the information shared with you, the girl in picture has been sexually abused by ...
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| Rape. | 10/11/2009 |
Q: I am currently about to turn 17 years old. The summer of 2009 I believed that i was fallin in love ...
A: Greetings. I am willing to get you to a new happy life First and fore most you must start ...
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| date rape | 10/11/2009 |
Q: I'm a twenty year old that really likes to party. It has always been one of the things i enjoy doing ...
A: Peace be with you. I understand the hurt you are carrying.What you are suffering is not of your ...
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| Raped by my kids dad. | 10/10/2009 |
Q: Recently I was raped by not just a close friend of mine but the father of my oldest child. I haven't ...
A: Peace be with you There is hope for a complete inner healing in your case. First and foremost I ...
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| Raped at 11 | 10/10/2009 |
Q: When I was 11 I was raped by a 19 year old neighbor on two occasion once when I was visiting one of ...
A: Respected Cheryl, There is hope for your peaceful future. First and foremost I suggest you to ...
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| getting over rape? | 10/3/2009 |
Q: I am 17 at the moment. I was raped by my boyfriend a little over a year ago. On the surface ...
A: Rosie, This may be PTSD. I suggest you to give adequate time to your body to heal naturally. ...
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| would like some help | 10/2/2009 |
Q: this time last year i was raped by my ex boyfriend and his friend.i need help to try get over ...
A: Greetings. I pray that peace engulfs your whole being as you read this mail. It is good now that ...
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| was i raped? | 9/16/2009 |
Q: I have been involved in five relationships that have not lasted me more than a year and a half...I ...
A: Peace be with you Making you remembering the past is not that easy through on-line counseling.You ...
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| confused | 9/12/2009 |
Q: Its a way to unburden my hrt. I'm 20 and attracted to a guy of 30 who seem to sincerely luv me. I ...
A: In my opinion this is not a rape. He had sex with you when you are very much unprepared in heart ...
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| Preventive Health After Rape | 9/11/2009 |
Q: I am petrified to go to any doctor because any situation that forces me to undress or that leaves me ...
A: There is hope for you. Visit a physician/doctor who is specialized in Bach Flower remedies. ...
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| confuse | 9/10/2009 |
Q: I not sure if I was raped.It all happen meeting a guy last night at work I meet alot of tourist ...
A: The first sexual experience in that room you had with him was not a rape but the second one was ...
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| Roffied? or black-out? | 9/9/2009 |
Q: I recently walked a friend home on the way back from a night out drinking. She lives about a half ...
A: You have not done it willingly. He had sex with you during your inebriated state. No one will know ...
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| Confused, need some kind of advice for myself | 9/8/2009 |
Q: This isn't your area of expertise but I need an honest answer from someone. Even if it's just ...
A: Respected Erin, I read your mail twice and understood the situation. What you have suffered is a ...
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| what do i do | 9/4/2009 |
Q: she is always down, wants to be alone, scared of going outdoors, has no confidence in what she does ...
A: Face to face counseling is the first and the best thing to do. Apart from this she may go ...
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| please help | 9/1/2009 |
Q: what steps can i take to counsell an adoloscent female friend who has been raped and is ...
A: Show her ample love. Listen to her grief, problems regularly spending quality time with her.Make ...
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| i still feel dirty after 4 years. | 9/1/2009 |
Q: im 14 years old and i was raped 4 years ago by a close friend of mines brother. it happened quick, ...
A: I understand the dilemma you are in. I understand that your friend is close and important to ...
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| my girlfriend was raped | 9/1/2009 |
Q: Me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 8 months now. When we first started dating we ...
A: Respected Joe, Greetings. I appreciate your love for this girl. At this juncture, as a ...
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| Is this rape? | 8/31/2009 |
Q: I am a married woman. My husband will try to arouse me when I am sleeping and if I don't respond he ...
A: Greetings. Your husband needs counseling. Only through counseling he will be able to realize his ...
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| is this rape? Should I be concerned? | 8/31/2009 |
Q: I am a married woman. My husband will try to arouse me when I am sleeping and if I don't respond he ...
A: Before going to your husband, I would like to ask you if you have normal sexual drive? Are you ...
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| Explaining Past Sexual Assault to New Guy | 8/31/2009 |
Q: When I was 19, I was staying at a friend's house and her, who worked with us, climbed into bed with ...
A: Reading between the lines I sense that your guy is interested in knowing the detailed and ...
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| Raped years ago and still not over it | 8/21/2009 |
Q: I was raped when I had just turned fifteen, I am 20 now. The rapist took my virginity. The night ...
A: You can come out of the consequences of rape if you diligently pray every day for atleast one ...
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| molestation | 8/21/2009 |
Q: well, i feel very insecure. nervous. alone. dirty. i procrastinate so much. i am disorganized with ...
A: Greetings. Now get a picture of your scenario. I see that you are suffering some negative ...
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| Is this normal? | 8/16/2009 |
Q: Since I was about 3 I have had some very disturbing rape fantasies. I get turned on by them, but I ...
A: I don't think that you are suffering grave abnormality. This thoughts/fantasies will go away ...
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| how to deal with urges | 8/15/2009 |
Q: I am a male who recently had sex with another male...i never thought i would do this but i did? i ...
A: I will suggest you a simple therapy which will heal you fully. Go to a lonely place, raise your ...
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| Overcoming the past. | 8/12/2009 |
Q: I really need your help.I'm a 23 year old man living in Malaysia and I'm a student in a local ...
A: It is very easy to get healed in your case because you did no wrong in this. I suggest you a ...
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| ten years later | 8/5/2009 |
Q: Ten years ago i was the victim of a push in bugler and assault. The guy was someone i had dated who ...
A: If you are willing to take the 'risk' to pray diligently to God every morning loudly one hour and ...
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| rape | 8/1/2009 |
Q: i have just found this site, and though you might be able to help me. i was raped 3 weeks ago, and ...
A: Peace be with you. I appreciate your decision to open your problem and paint through this medium. ...
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| dealing with rape | 7/25/2009 |
Q: about three months ago i was raped. earlier that day i had met a couple of guys and got chatting to ...
A: Greetings and peace. I read your mail and after a short contemplation of your 'inner scenario' ...
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| I was raped 3 years ago and haven't come to terms with it yet. | 7/9/2009 |
Q: I was raped three years. ago and have recently admitted to it. it was a painful experience in my ...
A: Peace be with you. You have already taken the first step towards healing by trying to open your ...
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| please help after care | 6/23/2009 |
Q: "Hi there, i have a current problem that i hope you can help me with. When i lost my virginity i was ...
A: I very well understand your scenario. It is good that you were totally honest with this guy ...
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| I need help | 6/22/2009 |
Q: this si edgar and im 17 now. i got raped when i was 8 i got an orgasm while i got raped i think im ...
A: Getting raped does not make you a gay. To understand more about your inclination to same sex, ...
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| was i raped | 6/19/2009 |
Q: Me and my friend met up with two guys one night. We were all expecting to have sex, i was a little ...
A: I fully empathize with you. I just want to tell you that God exists and He forgives sins. If ...
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| Signs of a Teenager who was raped? | 6/17/2009 |
Q: My friends daughter who is 13 years old just disclosed that she was raped at home by her uncle. ...
A: First and foremost I appreciate you for considering this girl as your own daughter. As you say ...
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| Helping a husband cope | 6/16/2009 |
Q: I am writing to you because I am not sure what else to do. I was raped 4 years ago and went to ...
A: Peace be with you. Aversion to sex is one of the typical consequences of rape.But you need not ...
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| was i raped | 6/14/2009 |
Q: Me and my friend met up with two guys one night. We were all expecting to have sex, i was a little ...
A: Peace be with you Even though what was done to you cannot be strictly called as rape, yet I ...
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| when will i be over it? | 5/19/2009 |
Q: i was raped 2 years ago, yet everytime the anniversay comes up i completely ruin my life, iv now for ...
A: Greetings and peace. I am wiling to help you. You need not regret thinking that you left him ...
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| Restoring peace with God after a rape | 5/13/2009 |
Q: Before I was coerced into a sexual assault, I had the peace of God that passes understanding. For 17 ...
A: Peace be with you!! I very well understand your situation.But know this that.... "God is ...
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| Sharing of story... | 5/11/2009 |
Q: How do I tell a close friend that I was raped? I've been seeing a counselor for 4 months now and I ...
A: Devin, There are no right and wrong words exactly when you want to share something with someone. ...
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| moustation | 5/5/2009 |
Q: what happens when a child doesn't get counseling when having a truama
A: A child that experienced(s) trauma and lack of proper counseling will affect the psyche of the ...
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| is it rape? | 4/28/2009 |
Q: Last year I invited my then boyfriend around to my house, he'd never been before and he was a ...
A: What was done to you is a different dimension of rape.You need not feel dirty. Take this as a ...
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| Raped when i was pregnant would my son have known? | 4/26/2009 |
Q: I read one of he questions posted in regards to a woman who masturbated and had fantasies and you ...
A: Good you wrote a long mail From your letter I gathered lots of signals suggesting that your ...
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| Raped when i was pregnant would my son have none? | 4/25/2009 |
Q: I read one of he questions posted in regards to a woman who masturbated and had fantasies and you ...
A: Greetings from the desk of Dr.Sunu Sundar Peace be with you. No need to panic. With God's help ...
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| What could have happened to me? | 4/10/2009 |
Q: I am now 24 years old. Growing up I can remember masturbating and having disturbing sexual ...
A: Peace and Light! You need not panic. I understand the dilemma. There is hope. Once you cooperate ...
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| Drunk rape | 4/7/2009 |
Q: My daughter woke up from a party where she had been drinking to find a "friend" having sex with her. ...
A: Respected Dee, Greetings. I appreciate that your daughter did not hide matters from you. It is ...
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| Was I raped? | 3/25/2009 |
Q: about 4 years ago I was dating my first boyfriend. I told him I wasn't ready for sex but he kept ...
A: Greetings and peace I name your negative sexual experiences as violation of your rights in ...
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| I don't know what to call it... | 3/23/2009 |
Q: When I was around 7 or 8 for about a month span, my brother, well I don't know if its called rape or ...
A: I understand your fear.If you agree, I am willing to direct you to one of my friends in United ...
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| advice please | 2/19/2009 |
Q: my name is Jessica, i'm 17 years old i have a boyfriend hes 21 we have been together a little over a ...
A: Greetings. If you believe that your boy friend respects you and your body. If you believe ...
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| rape | 2/14/2009 |
Q: I am 51 years old. I was brutally raped in my apartment in 2000. The man that raped me just ...
A: It is ok that you felt happy. It is because of the sense of justice that dawned to you and in ...
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| Becoming a Qualified Rape Counselor | 2/5/2009 |
Q: Seeing there are avenues/resources for rape victims online, (such as here), what/where would you ...
A: Greetings and peace. Happy that you are willing to help others. I , at present am not in a ...
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| help | 2/4/2009 |
Q: I dont know if this is even the right place i have come too.I am 19 and was raped repeatedly when i ...
A: I understand the pain you are in to. However I will be happy if you could write to me in detail ...
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| My fiance's sexual inhibitions | 1/30/2009 |
Q: Greetings My fiance is having problems opening up to me sexually because she said she was raped in ...
A: I very well understand your love for her and the impact of her past.First and foremost your ...
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| help with husband's healing | 1/25/2009 |
Q: My husband was drugged and raped by his mother a couple of weeks ago, as well as when he was young. ...
A: Greetings and peace I wont recommend you to tell any thing to the eldest daughter unless I ...
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| stuck in one spot... | 1/23/2009 |
Q: I was attacked when I was 14 and hanging out with the wrong crowd. It put me in a bad situation. I ...
A: Good response. Can you try and open up your inner turmoil to your husband at an opportune time? ...
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| stuck in one spot... | 1/23/2009 |
Q: I was attacked when I was 14 and hanging out with the wrong crowd. It put me in a bad situation. I ...
A: Greetings and peace. I read your mail carefully. I am willing to help you. I will be happy if ...
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| help with husband's healing | 1/23/2009 |
Q: My husband was drugged and raped by his mother a couple of weeks ago, as well as when he was young. ...
A: The issue for counseling needs constant back up support by a professional for six months to one ...
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| scared about my wedding night | 1/23/2009 |
Q: Hey. Back when I was 11, I was raped, and at 16-17 I was raped by the same guy. Now, I'm 22, and ...
A: Peace and congratulations about your wedding. It is natural to have a little fear for women ...
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| rape | 1/17/2009 |
Q: I was raped by my cousin a about 2 years ago and I'm still really depressed over it!he used to be ...
A: It is not your fault that he raped you.Do not bother about his committing suicide etc now till ...
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| please help me | 12/23/2008 |
Q: I'm 19 now earlier this year i was the victim of rape,at the time i was flatting with guys that ...
A: Good that you wrote in many words. It helps me to understand your mind patterns and socialization ...
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| please help me | 12/23/2008 |
Q: I'm 19 now earlier this year i was the victim of rape,at the time i was flatting with guys that ...
A: Greetings. Yes, as I se in my other clents of rape,for you also it may take some time to ...
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| rape nightmares | 12/12/2008 |
Q: I was raped and molested by a close friend of the family from the time I was 7 until I was 11. Then ...
A: The question you asked now is a good one. I am not only a psychologist but also a ...
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| Rape | 11/21/2008 |
Q: I was wondering if a 14 year old boy can rape someone?? i had sex once when i was 13 (20 some years ...
A: Age does not matter. I would appreciate if you could mail me in clear words that which you expect ...
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| Past is still haunting me. | 11/21/2008 |
Q: When I was 16, I was raped by a close friend I had a crush on. He clearly took advantage of that, ...
A: You say,"I do not want help. I do not want counselling. I just want to free myself of the ...
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| Raped | 11/19/2008 |
Q: I was raped when I 19 by one of my best friends. Issues continue to arise in my sexual life, i'm ...
A: Greetings. Now I have a better picture about your scenario. I suggest you to meet a ...
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| Girlfriend got raped | 11/18/2008 |
Q: Sunu, About a week ago my current g/f was raped by her ex boyfriend. I was devastated when I found ...
A: Good that you wrote in detail. I very well empathize with you. Surely it hurts a lot when ...
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| Raped | 11/17/2008 |
Q: I was raped when I 19 by one of my best friends. Issues continue to arise in my sexual life, i'm ...
A: There is hope. Before I guide you towards healing I would like to know- What is your age at ...
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| incest victim and rape... what to do | 11/8/2008 |
Q: When i was younger i was molested and raped from the time i was 5 or six until my early teens. ...
A: I assure you of my help. You can freely talk to me through e-mails. First and fore most tell ...
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| how can i get past it | 10/25/2008 |
Q: I am Ashley i asked you how i could get past my rape. on the rape counseling site. thanks for ...
A: I am willing to help you. Can you, in detail(atleast 300 words)write to me all that happened to ...
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| how can i get over it | 10/24/2008 |
Q: it has stopped now, but i have nightmares and flashbacks and have trouble going to sleep and ...
A: I very well understand you young girl!! It is indeed painful to be abused by loved ones whom ...
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| I need help | 10/21/2008 |
Q: I was raped multiple times three years ago, as well as endured a great deal of sexual harrasment at ...
A: Very dear Hannah, I pray that healing and peace initiates in you as you read the first mail from ...
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| need clarity | 10/18/2008 |
Q: I was violated two nights ago by a friend of a friend. I had left the apartment where I was drinking ...
A: I appreciate you for the long detailed mail.It spoke a lot about your painful inner scenario. ...
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| hi | 10/8/2008 |
Q: I was date raped about a month ago. I went up to a guy friends house to hang out and we drinking so ...
A: Before I guide you to come out of any haunting feelings, I would like to know what more you ...
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| Nightmares | 10/7/2008 |
Q: I was raped when I was 14 years old, I am now 21. I was told I was suffering from Post traumatic ...
A: There is hope. Explain what are the feelings and emotions that you suffer in connection with rape ...
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| My girlfriend was raped...Please help me to help her | 10/6/2008 |
Q: My girlfriend has been through ALOT in her life. Her father sexually molested her and beat her, and ...
A: I very well understand the scenario of your girl friend. The following are a few guidelines 1) ...
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| sex while intoxicated | 10/6/2008 |
Q: Around last May I went out with some friends to a party and I know I had a few drinks but that is ...
A: It was not your fault in one way, but in some way you have also contributed to what happened ...
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| My uncle raped me please help me | 10/3/2008 |
Q: I just want to know WHY this happened to me? I am a good person and I have done nothing to deserve ...
A: I carefully read your mail and very well understand your pain of heart. What you are going ...
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| Raped 13 years ago | 10/1/2008 |
Q: I was raped 13 years ago by my now husbands best friend. I have not ever talk to anyone regarding ...
A: I assure you of my help. However you perhaps will not feel helped by one mail. You need to keep ...
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| I think I need help | 8/31/2008 |
Q: A few months ago I was nearly raped and that in itself changes me I lost alot of self confidence, ...
A: Please visit a counselor the earliest. If not possible write to me in detail what exactly ...
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| Need advice for a girl i've been seeing who's been raped | 8/30/2008 |
Q: I am 20 and the girl is 18. We were involved with eachother when I was 18 and she was 16. We ...
A: Things will be clear if she mails me or seeks suggestion from a psychologist/counselor. If you ...
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| helping someone heal | 8/30/2008 |
Q: My girlfriend was 7 when her family came to the us. A day or 2 before they left her cousin raped ...
A: I very well understand the painful phase that you and your girl friend are through. I very much ...
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| Was it MY fault? | 8/24/2008 |
Q: My question is why do people blame the woman when she is raped? Why is the focus on HER and what she ...
A: Greetings and peace to you. I won't say that you are responsible for what happened. Because you ...
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| Is it to early? | 7/17/2008 |
Q: This girl and I have had feelings for months now, all the way back to march and april. Well about a ...
A: Careful reading of your mail led me to the understanding that your girl still suffers from rape. I ...
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| Possible to Heal others? | 7/11/2008 |
Q: My girlfriend was raped by an acquaintance at the age of 13. She is now 20. -She did not tell her ...
A: I did read your mail carefully. I suggest that let her be always be in a situation where she can ...
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| sexual abuse | 6/13/2008 |
Q: I am 45 years of age now and I am finally facing the abuse I endured as a small child. My father ...
A: I appreciate that you took time to detail about your abusive past. I read your mail with my heart ...
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| What to do | 6/13/2008 |
Q: 4 years ago I graduated from the 8th grade. My parents held a party at my school's gymnasium after ...
A: I appreciate that you opened up the 'hurtful secret' atleast to me. This will initiate healing in ...
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| confused | 6/12/2008 |
Q: I was raped by an acquaintance about 3 years ago. We were out drinking and he offered to walk me ...
A: Greetings and peace. Thank you for the details. I very much appreciate that you have a God ...
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| why does this keep happening to me? | 6/12/2008 |
Q: last november one of my supervisors at work who was also a friend called that he and his girlfriend ...
A: No need to regret that you wrote a long story. It was good that you wrote a long story. This helps ...
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| confused | 6/12/2008 |
Q: I was raped by an acquaintance about 3 years ago. We were out drinking and he offered to walk me ...
A: Good wishes from Dr.Sunu Sundar. I got an idea of your dilemma. However I would appreciate if you ...
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| Nowhere to turn... | 5/30/2008 |
Q: It's now 4:30am here in NY and it's been almost 24 hours since i was raped. I don't know ...
A: I carefully read your mail using my heart. I very well understand the pain that you are in.At this ...
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| date rape | 5/24/2008 |
Q: Sunu, My sister was date raped over 20 years ago while still a virgin. Neither one of us at the ...
A: How I wish that your sister was given due attention immediately after the incident! Perhaps the ...
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