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Rape Counseling/Questions Answered by Expert Dr.Sunu Sundar

Subject	Date Asked
im stuck	6/14/2011
Q: As soon I turned 14 I put myself in troubles way and got druk, went into a state of paralysis and ... A: To make you understand what is going in you.............. Mental toxins created by alcohol and ...
Last night rape	6/12/2011
Q: I went out last night then to a house party afterward. I got uncharacteristically drunk because I've ... A: I apologise to you for replying without relevance that led you to misunderstand. I want to ...
I'm scared to tell my boyfriend I was raped.	6/12/2011
Q: Sundar, I've been with my boyfriend four years now and just found out I'm pregnant. I'm ... A: Tell him boldly and gently.If he truly loves you he will continue to love you.If not he will ...
Last night rape	6/11/2011
Q: I went out last night then to a house party afterward. I got uncharacteristically drunk because I've ... A: It is better to tell your BF about this rape.However you must take a vow never to drink and ...
Question about Fiance	5/25/2011
Q: Me and my fiance have been together for about a year and since we've met, a month after we got ... A: Andrew, My suggestion to this 1-Leave this girl 2-Take a vow to the Divine assuring that you will ...
rape	5/19/2011
Q: i was raped a couple of days but i dont want to go to the police to report it as i want to get on ... A: I understand your situation.Your wounds will heal only after a month long mind detoxification. Is ...
rape	5/16/2011
Q: A week ago I was hanging out with an old friend who I hadn't seen in years and he started kissing me ... A: Amelia, This is rape,atleast the first time that he did to you. If you explain to me about the ...
so confused	5/12/2011
Q: I,m very confused. when i was 16 I met a guy aged 21 on holiday. we became friends and he came to ... A: Peace be with you. I fully understand your confused state of mind which is a sign of ...
dealing with rape memories	5/9/2011
Q: I have sister who was raped at the age of 6/7 and now she is 24. she never had a problem when we ... A: Bennetia, The mental wounds of these kind will heal only after sessions of intense ...
Family crisis	5/3/2011
Q: There is a word that fits well in my, so many years of life but one that will suit 'screwed'. I have ... A: Peace be with you I empathise with your pain.I am willing to help you. I wish to communicate to ...
rape/abuse survivor	4/26/2011
Q: My sister hates me so much that she allowed me to get raped. Then years later she said she didn't ... A: Greetings to you in the loving name of Jesus. "Your enemies are of your own household" said ...
How to help my raped partner	3/6/2011
Q: My partner was raped about 4 yrs ago, just prior to us getting together. She was drugged and does ... A: Peace be with you As far as I understand from your words, I suggest that you too must meet a ...
Am I weird?	2/11/2011
Q: My name is Johnathan, and I am married to a rape victim.I dont really understand but for one reason ... A: Johnathan, You are weird.What you go through is normal. I suggest- 1-Choose a place where you ...
married to a rape victim	2/11/2011
Q: I recently got married 3 months ago and my wife and I have been fighting CONSTANTLY. We fought when ... A: I suspect that negative residues of rape are still in her.She still may bear wounds in ...
I don't know how to tell my counselor i have my brother a blowjob when i was little.	1/30/2011
Q: I've been seeing a counselor for over 5 years now, and I want to bring something up to her but I ... A: Peace be with you. I understand your inner-scenario.It is normal for you to feel gross when you ...
why would God allow this to happen	1/14/2011
Q: I have thought about my situations and how they have affected my life. I was molested as a young ... A: I empathize with you. Your question'why this happened to me?' can be answered if you have the ...
11 year old mom	12/4/2010
Q: I have my sisters permission to use her email and ask you. She's 18. On July 20 we were visiting our ... A: First of all I thank God Almighty that you have a very supportive family! Sabrina will not ...
Is this rape?	11/18/2010
Q: I am 18 year old physically disabled girl. This is the first time I am telling this to anyone. When ... A: Greetings and peace to you. Congratulations that you graduated amidst all these trials! Yes ...
Best ways to move one	11/18/2010
Q: I was raped at my friends going away party july of 2009 right before i moved away for college. I ... A: Respected Caitlyn, I understand your situation I SUGGEST YOU TO DO THE FOLLOWING THINGS... ...
abused by a family member and never told	11/17/2010
Q: My cousin used to come into my room at nigh and pleasure himself at the end of my bed. I also woke ... A: Jaclyn Do not tell your brother any thing.Tell God everything, everyday in prayer. I will be ...
why	11/17/2010
Q: Why won't it go away. I'm a rape survivor why won't the nightmares go away. I wake up screaming and ... A: I want to bring to your attention that which Psychology,Psychologist and Psychiatrist have been ...
Rape	11/12/2010
Q: I need help and i dont know what to do, i ran away from home when i was 16 with my boyfriend he was ... A: I understand the pain involved.It is a bit late that you seek help!? No worries.You will be helped ...
I didn't think I was raped	11/11/2010
Q: I am a 26 year old woman. About four years ago I was raped by a friend. At the time I didn't think ... A: I understand what you are going through. I have a few suggestions which will make you normal if ...
Afraid to ask for help	11/2/2010
Q: a few weeks ago I was babysitting some boys down the street when their older cousin and a couple ... A: I understand your pain and confusion fully.You may use pill as preventive measure.I wish that ...
Afraid to ask for help	11/1/2010
Q: a few weeks ago I was babysitting some boys down the street when their older cousin and a couple ... A: This situation needs to be dealt with much seriousness. I highly recommend you to tell the ...
How does a boyfriend usually react on his girlfriends rape.	11/1/2010
Q: I would like to know, what generally is the reaction of boyfriends on their girlfriends rape cases. ... A: I will not be able to answer you fully. But I wish to tell you a fact!!] Every boy friend ...
girl friend was raped 5 years ago	10/26/2010
Q: only after being woke up one night to her tossing and turning saying things like "please don't" and ... A: I understand the situation and your concern.Your girl friend's mind can be healed provided she ...
is this rape?	10/6/2010
Q: I have a question. so a few years ago, my mother hired a math tutor for me which happened to be ... A: Yes this is forced sex equivalent to rape. I a, willing to help you. If you do not wish to take ...
Help me please!	10/1/2010
Q: I was drugged and raped a few weeks ago, and I barely remember anything I just remember waking up ... A: I understand the situation very well. If you really wish to have a clean mind that radiates ...
My girlfriend was raped, and I feel helpless and angry	9/14/2010
Q: My girlfriend was recently raped by a man she thought was her friend, and although I told her from ... A: I am tempted to think that that whole thing happened because of her 'disobedience' to your words ...
I don't know how to handle this	9/12/2010
Q: I don't know what to call what happened to me, a friend told me rape, but when I finally told my ... A: I do not wish to answer this about 'whose fault is this?'.Leave the past. Thinking about it will ...
Recently attacked	9/6/2010
Q: Sundar - I don't really know where to begin or what to ask, I just know that I need help. I was ... A: As I type this I very well can empathize with the pain and sufferings you are in. My heart ...
Was this rape?	8/16/2010
Q: I met this guy at a bar and we started kissing and agreed that him and his friend would be able to ... A: In my view this is not rape. Even though your words said 'no' towards his sexual advancement ...
I Was Raped 8 Times	8/13/2010
Q: at the being of December this year i met some boy who i started a relationship we spoke a lot before ... A: It is unfortunate that you are taken for granted. The boy did not love you but lusted you. You ...
step dad raped my mom	7/21/2010
Q: My mom has been with mu step dad since I was 5. He is an abusive alcoholic. When I was a teenager ... A: I WILL BE ABLE TO HELP YOU IN THIS I YOU LET ME KNOW HOW THIS RAPE IS BOTHERING YOU. Tell me ...
post-rape rage	7/18/2010
Q: I'm a recent college graduate. I used to be a God-loving, caring person who did every possible thing ... A: I understand the pain you are suffering. I will help you. I wish to begin with an online ...
Emotional Link to Weight Gain	6/18/2010
Q: Sundar for taking my question. I have lost the same 30 pounds at least 10 times and I need to get ... A: Respected Kay, Peace be with you. I am happy to find elements of faith in you It is a good ...
Do I need to reopen this issue	6/17/2010
Q: I was raped when I was 15. It was my first sexual experience. It wasn't violent. I said no and ... A: You need to reopen the issue,but with God and God alone in fasting and diligent daily early ...
ex boyfriend raped me !	6/10/2010
Q: ... a t the time it happened i got dressed ran too my car and rang my best friend hysterically ... A: Greetings and peace I empathize with you. A basic correction,if done in your mind will prevent ...
what now?	5/26/2010
Q: we were off for a anniversary, had a party with friends, alcohol was involved. I was passed out on ... A: Daniel, This is perhaps a lesson that teaches you the dangers of partying and alcohol.Forgive ...
I was raped	5/25/2010
Q: I was raped by my ex boyfriend when I started seeing someone new, my boyfriend at the time was ... A: Respected X, I empathize with you. However I am sorry to tell you that misery will continue if ...
Girlfriend Rape	5/17/2010
Q: I am 15 and i have a 13 year old girlfriend who was raped at the age of 9 by a total stranger on the ... A: 1-How do i consul her on the idea of her lost baby? You cannot counsel her and do not try to ...
My wife survived child abuse and rape. How do I support her as a husband?	5/14/2010
Q: My wife was emotionally and verbally abused as a child by her father. She was also raped by a ... A: Respected Greg, I empathize with you. The only way you can help her to heal is to sacrifice ...
sexually abused	5/4/2010
Q: My husband was sexually abused as a child and problems have followed him into his adult life. When ... A: Angelena, I thank and praise God for directing you and your husband towards the Truth. You are ...
Childhood Rape	4/24/2010
Q: I was raped when I was 5 years old. My mind seemed to have blocked it from my memory for almost a ... A: I am unclear if you are a male or female. As far as I understand, you are not a monster. You ...
I was raped 9 months ago and I still can't talk about it	4/2/2010
Q: I was raped about 9 months ago by my boyfriend of the time. We had been dating for about a week and ... A: Respected Rose, I have a few questions for you lest you are used and thrown again.... How do ...
what to do for daughter	4/2/2010
Q: My 14 yr. old daughter was grabbed by 3 men just after she turned 13 as she was walking a few blocks ... A: I also have a few words to store in your heart..... Health: 1. Drink plenty of water 2. Eat ...
I don't know what to think	3/30/2010
Q: I went on a date with a guy and ended up going back to his apartment. we were cuddling and I got ... A: Jenny, What you are experiencing(anger, guilt ,lost.used etc) are signs telling you that you ...
how to counsel a rape victim	3/25/2010
Q: My girlfriend is in job somewhere else and today morning only she told me that she has been raped ... A: Tapan, Help..I mean actual help can only be given by a psychologist who has a strong ...
Just want to forget	3/24/2010
Q: When I graduated High School, I ended up with a guy that was all wrong. At the time I did not see ... A: Jess, Greetings and peace Once again I find that you are on the safer side in keeping ...
Don't know what to do?	3/24/2010
Q: Ive been dating my girlfriend for 3 years and we have never had a problem in anything. My girlfriend ... A: Perhaps she is suffering from PTSD. Only way to help her is to leave her alone for ...
Just want to forget	3/23/2010
Q: When I graduated High School, I ended up with a guy that was all wrong. At the time I did not see ... A: Jes, You are safe that you have found the Lord as your refuge. "Those who call up on the Lord ...
Help.	3/18/2010
Q: When I was 5, my half brother who is 8 years older than me and that I lived with was supposed to ... A: Kate you definitely need a specialist! I am going to recommend you to the greatest ...
is it really my fault?	3/12/2010
Q: My boyfriend is 16 and I'm 15 we have been going out for almost a year now he forced to have sex ... A: It is not your fault. You are beings used. Realize that sex is an holy act in married ...
Suppressed Rape Memories	3/2/2010
Q: I have been married for about 5 years, have known wife for 10. About 3 years ago my wife tells me ... A: Peace be with you. I understand this painful situation. seeking separation from your wife at ...
How do I stop my self destructive behavior	2/14/2010
Q: I was raped and molested when I was 6-8. I have never told anyone accept my gf and best friend, and ... A: The answer,solution is in the question itself. Yes you need psycho-spiritual therapy at all ...
help	2/14/2010
Q: my gurlfriend was raped by her farther she tells me little bits when she is upset but only little ... A: I am sorry to say that this is a serious issue.I say that she needs psychiatric help and ...
boyfriend tries to have sex with me while im asleep.	2/8/2010
Q: I have been with my boyfriend for almost 7 years. we have a daughter together. 2 years ago I got ... A: Jamie, It seems that he is developing an obsession. He needs intense psychological sessions ...
shamed	2/8/2010
Q: I was first raped when I was 27. It was date rape. I had been dating the guy for one year. I trusted ... A: Nicke, Repeated date rapes calls serious attention to the 'trust' you build on guys(even ...
My girlfriend was raped before we met..	2/4/2010
Q: I have met the most amazing and perfect girl, literally everything I could ever dream of and there ... A: Greetings young solider! Peace be with you. I understand your inner surges of love and ...
how do i deal??	2/3/2010
Q: This is a complicated question. First off, when I was 15 years old, I was abducted, raped and ... A: Porn addiction is not that easy to be 'cured'. I would say,even if a person frees himself from ...
Rohypnol	1/31/2010
Q: I was 18 and I'm now 25! I went on holiday with my parents, gran and partner of 2 yrs. I had an ... A: Jeni, I understand your pain. If you had read my profile you would have understood that I am ...
Raped at 11 now 23	1/31/2010
Q: I was raped by some family friends when I was 11 years old, I feel like I have been dealing with it ... A: Alisha, Greetings. Write to me in detail about the rape and the sufferings you go through after ...
lost trying to help	1/31/2010
Q: Sundar, I'm nineteen years old and a college freshman. My life has had it's twists and turns, I ... A: Ana, The best thing is that she needs to visit a local counselor.She cannot be helped through ...
Recovery	1/30/2010
Q: I was raped in 2006 by my daughters father. As a result of the rape I became pregnant with my second ... A: It seems there exist scars and wounds of the past in your subconscious mind. You need to go for a ...
Exploitation of a rape victim	1/30/2010
Q: I was raped 5 years ago, stalked, and raped again by the same man. He has not been apprehended. It ... A: How you feel these days? Are you able to take life easy? I have been praying for you. I have no ...
Exploitation of a rape victim	1/30/2010
Q: I was raped 5 years ago, stalked, and raped again by the same man. He has not been apprehended. It ... A: Greetings. Peace be with you. I believe that you are receiving adequate love from your ...
Incest(was I realy raped)	1/28/2010
Q: This past January 14th I was home alone with my brother who is 9 1/2 mounths older than me. He asked ... A: Collect evidences of the sexual assault using hidden camera, ipad or other devices.Call the ...
Was I raped	1/26/2010
Q: Dr. Sundar, thankyou so much for doing what you do! It is nice to get some advice from a fellow ... A: Respected Ashley, I would call these(two incidences) as sexual abuses You may seek further ...
I'm lost	1/26/2010
Q: When I was 15, I was raped by my boyfriend. He was a sweet guy who promised to never hurt me and be ... A: You say "The true realization about life? I don't understand what that means" This means one ...
Question about rape	1/25/2010
Q: I was raped when I was 12 years old I am almost 17 years old now. I relive what happened everytime I ... A: I understand what you say Rachel. Just do this every day for one hour in your private room ...
I'm lost	1/25/2010
Q: When I was 15, I was raped by my boyfriend. He was a sweet guy who promised to never hurt me and be ... A: Amanda, You have come to true realization about life. I suggest... Avoid friendship with ...
Convincing a family member to undergo therapy	1/25/2010
Q: My youngest sister came over to live with me all the way from Connecticut (I live in Illinois). I ... A: Yes Martin! Enough is enough. I think she must sacrifice her ego and go for a ...
Question about rape	1/24/2010
Q: I was raped when I was 12 years old I am almost 17 years old now. I relive what happened everytime I ... A: Did you type your e-mail Id here? It was edited I think. Regarding your query.. This is not ...
scared to get help	1/23/2010
Q: I really dont know where to start. I ran away from home at 18, because of emotional, mental sexual ... A: Yes it is painful to live with a heavy heart and anxious mind. Your life will take a U Turn ...
rape counselling	1/3/2010
Q: its was very guilty to know but my friend raped his sister when she was 8 years old and when she was ... A: Peace be with you. I pray for peace to your friend and his sister. Suicide is not a solution! If ...
I was raped when I was 15 I am now 23	12/30/2009
Q: I was raped when I was 15 and I am now 23 I feel like I still haven't got over it at all and it is ... A: Good to read the details from you. If your husband is a very loving, understanding and caring ...
My fiance has become promiscuous	12/26/2009
Q: I am a 24 year old male and at 19 i met a young woman and fell in love with her. We dated for a few ... A: I very well understand your pain.However this is a natural response of the heart and mind of a ...
trauma	12/10/2009
Q: this may be long and i do apologise before hand. I was raped at 17, through this i lost my virginity ... A: I very well understand your problem. I, in my experience have dealt with many people of similar ...
rape 25 years ago	12/6/2009
Q: When I was 14, and my almost 18 year old boyfriend's brother (who was 2 months before 17) raped me ... A: Legal system established by humans is very much complicated. I suggest you to surrender ...
rape	11/21/2009
Q: i am a 21 year old college student, i was raped about 4 years ago i have never really told anyone ... A: Greetings! Counseling is for people not to go crazy!.I think your family/parents must ...
I am unsure?	11/20/2009
Q: Sunu, I am a 23 year old girl who has learning disablities. I was in a work program for people who ... A: Know this basic fact and imprint the below written in your mind. People who has no active ...
REPRESSED MEMORIES	11/20/2009
Q: I WAS MOLESTED BY MY DAD AT 5YRS OLD AND AT 13 I WAS RAPED BY TWO MEN. MY DAD LEFT FOR YEARS And ... A: It is possible to have feelings and memories without feelings. All you have to do is to pray ...
I dont know what to do	11/20/2009
Q: Please help i don't know what to do. I'm pretty new to this i was raped 2 years ago . Life will ... A: I understand the dilemma that you are in. I wish to awaken your mind and heart towards the ...
i dont know if this was rape	11/12/2009
Q: i've been seeing this guy and we've had sex a few times before. he came over last night, and we got ... A: This is not rape, but violent sex. I have a few suggestions for your happy and healthy life. ...
do I tell him I was raped??	11/6/2009
Q: Five years ago I was in a verbally abusive relationship, but we were having a baby so I just put up ... A: What you must be careful here is not about telling the secret to the present man or hiding it.If ...
Sexual assault years ago in grade school from 3rd-5th	11/6/2009
Q: Please excuse the long post and the explanation being a bit all over the place... i'm not sure how ... A: If you believe or not God exists and God cannot be confined to any religion.I say this after my ...
How do I tell my family?	11/6/2009
Q: I am 18, and a freshman at a University. I am 900 miles away from home. I goto school about an hour ... A: I can well understand the confusion, shame and pain you go through after the rape. You need not ...
Sexual assault years ago in grade school from 3rd-5th	11/5/2009
Q: Please excuse the long post and the explanation being a bit all over the place... i'm not sure how ... A: I am happy about your long letter.That gave me an understanding of your situation. I would like ...
Was it rape? Was it my fault?	11/3/2009
Q: Was I Raped? About two years ago i was in the 7th grade and my dad had just got married. i had moved ... A: Yes this is rape. Your fault lies in playing drinking games with him.This game was a blunder ...
I think i was raped 3 years ago	11/2/2009
Q: When i was 16 i had a friend that i was very close to. he was one of my best friends for a while and ... A: The solution is simple. Avoid all kinds of drinking and night clubs. Also avoid being alone with ...
is this considered rape	11/2/2009
Q: im a freshman and college and recentally lost my virginity with this guy. We had protected sex a ... A: Yes this is rape. Kindly bear with me for the following suggestion. I say this out of my long ...
Learning to Forgive	11/1/2009
Q: Sundar, I was lonely earlier in my relationship and cheated on my partner. He raped me thrice for ... A: Peace be with you I assure there is hope for a happy life for you You say- "I am re-evaluating ...
Rape	10/30/2009
Q: I am 46 years old and when I was around 6 years old my two brothers 12 and 9 molested me for 6years ... A: Greetings. I read your long letter and could sense in me the pain you have been suffering ...
rape memory?	10/29/2009
Q: I do hope I'm not bothering you and I aplogize if I am. See for the past few weeks both in my dreams ... A: Respected Alex, Greetings! First and foremost I wish to say to you that you are not bothering me ...
How to help my fiance who was raped when i can be there.	10/27/2009
Q: First off, my fiance and I are both in the military. I am stationed overseas and shes in the states. ... A: Psychologically speaking, in my understanding, unless she gets help from a psychologist who is ...
How far a father's touch isn'e molestation?	10/12/2009
Q: I will start with that we have been together for 4 yrs now and our age difference is 18 yrs for good ... A: No doubt, as per the information shared with you, the girl in picture has been sexually abused by ...
Rape.	10/11/2009
Q: I am currently about to turn 17 years old. The summer of 2009 I believed that i was fallin in love ... A: Greetings. I am willing to get you to a new happy life First and fore most you must start ...
date rape	10/11/2009
Q: I'm a twenty year old that really likes to party. It has always been one of the things i enjoy doing ... A: Peace be with you. I understand the hurt you are carrying.What you are suffering is not of your ...
Raped by my kids dad.	10/10/2009
Q: Recently I was raped by not just a close friend of mine but the father of my oldest child. I haven't ... A: Peace be with you There is hope for a complete inner healing in your case. First and foremost I ...
Raped at 11	10/10/2009
Q: When I was 11 I was raped by a 19 year old neighbor on two occasion once when I was visiting one of ... A: Respected Cheryl, There is hope for your peaceful future. First and foremost I suggest you to ...
getting over rape?	10/3/2009
Q: I am 17 at the moment. I was raped by my boyfriend a little over a year ago. On the surface ... A: Rosie, This may be PTSD. I suggest you to give adequate time to your body to heal naturally. ...
would like some help	10/2/2009
Q: this time last year i was raped by my ex boyfriend and his friend.i need help to try get over ... A: Greetings. I pray that peace engulfs your whole being as you read this mail. It is good now that ...
was i raped?	9/16/2009
Q: I have been involved in five relationships that have not lasted me more than a year and a half...I ... A: Peace be with you Making you remembering the past is not that easy through on-line counseling.You ...
confused	9/12/2009
Q: Its a way to unburden my hrt. I'm 20 and attracted to a guy of 30 who seem to sincerely luv me. I ... A: In my opinion this is not a rape. He had sex with you when you are very much unprepared in heart ...
Preventive Health After Rape	9/11/2009
Q: I am petrified to go to any doctor because any situation that forces me to undress or that leaves me ... A: There is hope for you. Visit a physician/doctor who is specialized in Bach Flower remedies. ...
confuse	9/10/2009
Q: I not sure if I was raped.It all happen meeting a guy last night at work I meet alot of tourist ... A: The first sexual experience in that room you had with him was not a rape but the second one was ...
Roffied? or black-out?	9/9/2009
Q: I recently walked a friend home on the way back from a night out drinking. She lives about a half ... A: You have not done it willingly. He had sex with you during your inebriated state. No one will know ...
Confused, need some kind of advice for myself	9/8/2009
Q: This isn't your area of expertise but I need an honest answer from someone. Even if it's just ... A: Respected Erin, I read your mail twice and understood the situation. What you have suffered is a ...
what do i do	9/4/2009
Q: she is always down, wants to be alone, scared of going outdoors, has no confidence in what she does ... A: Face to face counseling is the first and the best thing to do. Apart from this she may go ...
please help	9/1/2009
Q: what steps can i take to counsell an adoloscent female friend who has been raped and is ... A: Show her ample love. Listen to her grief, problems regularly spending quality time with her.Make ...
i still feel dirty after 4 years.	9/1/2009
Q: im 14 years old and i was raped 4 years ago by a close friend of mines brother. it happened quick, ... A: I understand the dilemma you are in. I understand that your friend is close and important to ...
my girlfriend was raped	9/1/2009
Q: Me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 8 months now. When we first started dating we ... A: Respected Joe, Greetings. I appreciate your love for this girl. At this juncture, as a ...
Is this rape?	8/31/2009
Q: I am a married woman. My husband will try to arouse me when I am sleeping and if I don't respond he ... A: Greetings. Your husband needs counseling. Only through counseling he will be able to realize his ...
is this rape? Should I be concerned?	8/31/2009
Q: I am a married woman. My husband will try to arouse me when I am sleeping and if I don't respond he ... A: Before going to your husband, I would like to ask you if you have normal sexual drive? Are you ...
Explaining Past Sexual Assault to New Guy	8/31/2009
Q: When I was 19, I was staying at a friend's house and her, who worked with us, climbed into bed with ... A: Reading between the lines I sense that your guy is interested in knowing the detailed and ...
Raped years ago and still not over it	8/21/2009
Q: I was raped when I had just turned fifteen, I am 20 now. The rapist took my virginity. The night ... A: You can come out of the consequences of rape if you diligently pray every day for atleast one ...
molestation	8/21/2009
Q: well, i feel very insecure. nervous. alone. dirty. i procrastinate so much. i am disorganized with ... A: Greetings. Now get a picture of your scenario. I see that you are suffering some negative ...
Is this normal?	8/16/2009
Q: Since I was about 3 I have had some very disturbing rape fantasies. I get turned on by them, but I ... A: I don't think that you are suffering grave abnormality. This thoughts/fantasies will go away ...
how to deal with urges	8/15/2009
Q: I am a male who recently had sex with another male...i never thought i would do this but i did? i ... A: I will suggest you a simple therapy which will heal you fully. Go to a lonely place, raise your ...
Overcoming the past.	8/12/2009
Q: I really need your help.I'm a 23 year old man living in Malaysia and I'm a student in a local ... A: It is very easy to get healed in your case because you did no wrong in this. I suggest you a ...
ten years later	8/5/2009
Q: Ten years ago i was the victim of a push in bugler and assault. The guy was someone i had dated who ... A: If you are willing to take the 'risk' to pray diligently to God every morning loudly one hour and ...
rape	8/1/2009
Q: i have just found this site, and though you might be able to help me. i was raped 3 weeks ago, and ... A: Peace be with you. I appreciate your decision to open your problem and paint through this medium. ...
dealing with rape	7/25/2009
Q: about three months ago i was raped. earlier that day i had met a couple of guys and got chatting to ... A: Greetings and peace. I read your mail and after a short contemplation of your 'inner scenario' ...
I was raped 3 years ago and haven't come to terms with it yet.	7/9/2009
Q: I was raped three years. ago and have recently admitted to it. it was a painful experience in my ... A: Peace be with you. You have already taken the first step towards healing by trying to open your ...
please help after care	6/23/2009
Q: "Hi there, i have a current problem that i hope you can help me with. When i lost my virginity i was ... A: I very well understand your scenario. It is good that you were totally honest with this guy ...
I need help	6/22/2009
Q: this si edgar and im 17 now. i got raped when i was 8 i got an orgasm while i got raped i think im ... A: Getting raped does not make you a gay. To understand more about your inclination to same sex, ...
was i raped	6/19/2009
Q: Me and my friend met up with two guys one night. We were all expecting to have sex, i was a little ... A: I fully empathize with you. I just want to tell you that God exists and He forgives sins. If ...
Signs of a Teenager who was raped?	6/17/2009
Q: My friends daughter who is 13 years old just disclosed that she was raped at home by her uncle. ... A: First and foremost I appreciate you for considering this girl as your own daughter. As you say ...
Helping a husband cope	6/16/2009
Q: I am writing to you because I am not sure what else to do. I was raped 4 years ago and went to ... A: Peace be with you. Aversion to sex is one of the typical consequences of rape.But you need not ...
was i raped	6/14/2009
Q: Me and my friend met up with two guys one night. We were all expecting to have sex, i was a little ... A: Peace be with you Even though what was done to you cannot be strictly called as rape, yet I ...
when will i be over it?	5/19/2009
Q: i was raped 2 years ago, yet everytime the anniversay comes up i completely ruin my life, iv now for ... A: Greetings and peace. I am wiling to help you. You need not regret thinking that you left him ...
Restoring peace with God after a rape	5/13/2009
Q: Before I was coerced into a sexual assault, I had the peace of God that passes understanding. For 17 ... A: Peace be with you!! I very well understand your situation.But know this that.... "God is ...
Sharing of story...	5/11/2009
Q: How do I tell a close friend that I was raped? I've been seeing a counselor for 4 months now and I ... A: Devin, There are no right and wrong words exactly when you want to share something with someone. ...
moustation	5/5/2009
Q: what happens when a child doesn't get counseling when having a truama A: A child that experienced(s) trauma and lack of proper counseling will affect the psyche of the ...
is it rape?	4/28/2009
Q: Last year I invited my then boyfriend around to my house, he'd never been before and he was a ... A: What was done to you is a different dimension of rape.You need not feel dirty. Take this as a ...
Raped when i was pregnant would my son have known?	4/26/2009
Q: I read one of he questions posted in regards to a woman who masturbated and had fantasies and you ... A: Good you wrote a long mail From your letter I gathered lots of signals suggesting that your ...
Raped when i was pregnant would my son have none?	4/25/2009
Q: I read one of he questions posted in regards to a woman who masturbated and had fantasies and you ... A: Greetings from the desk of Dr.Sunu Sundar Peace be with you. No need to panic. With God's help ...
What could have happened to me?	4/10/2009
Q: I am now 24 years old. Growing up I can remember masturbating and having disturbing sexual ... A: Peace and Light! You need not panic. I understand the dilemma. There is hope. Once you cooperate ...
Drunk rape	4/7/2009
Q: My daughter woke up from a party where she had been drinking to find a "friend" having sex with her. ... A: Respected Dee, Greetings. I appreciate that your daughter did not hide matters from you. It is ...
Was I raped?	3/25/2009
Q: about 4 years ago I was dating my first boyfriend. I told him I wasn't ready for sex but he kept ... A: Greetings and peace I name your negative sexual experiences as violation of your rights in ...
I don't know what to call it...	3/23/2009
Q: When I was around 7 or 8 for about a month span, my brother, well I don't know if its called rape or ... A: I understand your fear.If you agree, I am willing to direct you to one of my friends in United ...
advice please	2/19/2009
Q: my name is Jessica, i'm 17 years old i have a boyfriend hes 21 we have been together a little over a ... A: Greetings. If you believe that your boy friend respects you and your body. If you believe ...
rape	2/14/2009
Q: I am 51 years old. I was brutally raped in my apartment in 2000. The man that raped me just ... A: It is ok that you felt happy. It is because of the sense of justice that dawned to you and in ...
Becoming a Qualified Rape Counselor	2/5/2009
Q: Seeing there are avenues/resources for rape victims online, (such as here), what/where would you ... A: Greetings and peace. Happy that you are willing to help others. I , at present am not in a ...
help	2/4/2009
Q: I dont know if this is even the right place i have come too.I am 19 and was raped repeatedly when i ... A: I understand the pain you are in to. However I will be happy if you could write to me in detail ...
My fiance's sexual inhibitions	1/30/2009
Q: Greetings My fiance is having problems opening up to me sexually because she said she was raped in ... A: I very well understand your love for her and the impact of her past.First and foremost your ...
help with husband's healing	1/25/2009
Q: My husband was drugged and raped by his mother a couple of weeks ago, as well as when he was young. ... A: Greetings and peace I wont recommend you to tell any thing to the eldest daughter unless I ...
stuck in one spot...	1/23/2009
Q: I was attacked when I was 14 and hanging out with the wrong crowd. It put me in a bad situation. I ... A: Good response. Can you try and open up your inner turmoil to your husband at an opportune time? ...
stuck in one spot...	1/23/2009
Q: I was attacked when I was 14 and hanging out with the wrong crowd. It put me in a bad situation. I ... A: Greetings and peace. I read your mail carefully. I am willing to help you. I will be happy if ...
help with husband's healing	1/23/2009
Q: My husband was drugged and raped by his mother a couple of weeks ago, as well as when he was young. ... A: The issue for counseling needs constant back up support by a professional for six months to one ...
scared about my wedding night	1/23/2009
Q: Hey. Back when I was 11, I was raped, and at 16-17 I was raped by the same guy. Now, I'm 22, and ... A: Peace and congratulations about your wedding. It is natural to have a little fear for women ...
rape	1/17/2009
Q: I was raped by my cousin a about 2 years ago and I'm still really depressed over it!he used to be ... A: It is not your fault that he raped you.Do not bother about his committing suicide etc now till ...
please help me	12/23/2008
Q: I'm 19 now earlier this year i was the victim of rape,at the time i was flatting with guys that ... A: Good that you wrote in many words. It helps me to understand your mind patterns and socialization ...
please help me	12/23/2008
Q: I'm 19 now earlier this year i was the victim of rape,at the time i was flatting with guys that ... A: Greetings. Yes, as I se in my other clents of rape,for you also it may take some time to ...
rape nightmares	12/12/2008
Q: I was raped and molested by a close friend of the family from the time I was 7 until I was 11. Then ... A: The question you asked now is a good one. I am not only a psychologist but also a ...
Rape	11/21/2008
Q: I was wondering if a 14 year old boy can rape someone?? i had sex once when i was 13 (20 some years ... A: Age does not matter. I would appreciate if you could mail me in clear words that which you expect ...
Past is still haunting me.	11/21/2008
Q: When I was 16, I was raped by a close friend I had a crush on. He clearly took advantage of that, ... A: You say,"I do not want help. I do not want counselling. I just want to free myself of the ...
Raped	11/19/2008
Q: I was raped when I 19 by one of my best friends. Issues continue to arise in my sexual life, i'm ... A: Greetings. Now I have a better picture about your scenario. I suggest you to meet a ...
Girlfriend got raped	11/18/2008
Q: Sunu, About a week ago my current g/f was raped by her ex boyfriend. I was devastated when I found ... A: Good that you wrote in detail. I very well empathize with you. Surely it hurts a lot when ...
Raped	11/17/2008
Q: I was raped when I 19 by one of my best friends. Issues continue to arise in my sexual life, i'm ... A: There is hope. Before I guide you towards healing I would like to know- What is your age at ...
incest victim and rape... what to do	11/8/2008
Q: When i was younger i was molested and raped from the time i was 5 or six until my early teens. ... A: I assure you of my help. You can freely talk to me through e-mails. First and fore most tell ...
how can i get past it	10/25/2008
Q: I am Ashley i asked you how i could get past my rape. on the rape counseling site. thanks for ... A: I am willing to help you. Can you, in detail(atleast 300 words)write to me all that happened to ...
how can i get over it	10/24/2008
Q: it has stopped now, but i have nightmares and flashbacks and have trouble going to sleep and ... A: I very well understand you young girl!! It is indeed painful to be abused by loved ones whom ...
I need help	10/21/2008
Q: I was raped multiple times three years ago, as well as endured a great deal of sexual harrasment at ... A: Very dear Hannah, I pray that healing and peace initiates in you as you read the first mail from ...
need clarity	10/18/2008
Q: I was violated two nights ago by a friend of a friend. I had left the apartment where I was drinking ... A: I appreciate you for the long detailed mail.It spoke a lot about your painful inner scenario. ...
hi	10/8/2008
Q: I was date raped about a month ago. I went up to a guy friends house to hang out and we drinking so ... A: Before I guide you to come out of any haunting feelings, I would like to know what more you ...
Nightmares	10/7/2008
Q: I was raped when I was 14 years old, I am now 21. I was told I was suffering from Post traumatic ... A: There is hope. Explain what are the feelings and emotions that you suffer in connection with rape ...
My girlfriend was raped...Please help me to help her	10/6/2008
Q: My girlfriend has been through ALOT in her life. Her father sexually molested her and beat her, and ... A: I very well understand the scenario of your girl friend. The following are a few guidelines 1) ...
sex while intoxicated	10/6/2008
Q: Around last May I went out with some friends to a party and I know I had a few drinks but that is ... A: It was not your fault in one way, but in some way you have also contributed to what happened ...
My uncle raped me please help me	10/3/2008
Q: I just want to know WHY this happened to me? I am a good person and I have done nothing to deserve ... A: I carefully read your mail and very well understand your pain of heart. What you are going ...
Raped 13 years ago	10/1/2008
Q: I was raped 13 years ago by my now husbands best friend. I have not ever talk to anyone regarding ... A: I assure you of my help. However you perhaps will not feel helped by one mail. You need to keep ...
I think I need help	8/31/2008
Q: A few months ago I was nearly raped and that in itself changes me I lost alot of self confidence, ... A: Please visit a counselor the earliest. If not possible write to me in detail what exactly ...
Need advice for a girl i've been seeing who's been raped	8/30/2008
Q: I am 20 and the girl is 18. We were involved with eachother when I was 18 and she was 16. We ... A: Things will be clear if she mails me or seeks suggestion from a psychologist/counselor. If you ...
helping someone heal	8/30/2008
Q: My girlfriend was 7 when her family came to the us. A day or 2 before they left her cousin raped ... A: I very well understand the painful phase that you and your girl friend are through. I very much ...
Was it MY fault?	8/24/2008
Q: My question is why do people blame the woman when she is raped? Why is the focus on HER and what she ... A: Greetings and peace to you. I won't say that you are responsible for what happened. Because you ...
Is it to early?	7/17/2008
Q: This girl and I have had feelings for months now, all the way back to march and april. Well about a ... A: Careful reading of your mail led me to the understanding that your girl still suffers from rape. I ...
Possible to Heal others?	7/11/2008
Q: My girlfriend was raped by an acquaintance at the age of 13. She is now 20. -She did not tell her ... A: I did read your mail carefully. I suggest that let her be always be in a situation where she can ...
sexual abuse	6/13/2008
Q: I am 45 years of age now and I am finally facing the abuse I endured as a small child. My father ... A: I appreciate that you took time to detail about your abusive past. I read your mail with my heart ...
What to do	6/13/2008
Q: 4 years ago I graduated from the 8th grade. My parents held a party at my school's gymnasium after ... A: I appreciate that you opened up the 'hurtful secret' atleast to me. This will initiate healing in ...
confused	6/12/2008
Q: I was raped by an acquaintance about 3 years ago. We were out drinking and he offered to walk me ... A: Greetings and peace. Thank you for the details. I very much appreciate that you have a God ...
why does this keep happening to me?	6/12/2008
Q: last november one of my supervisors at work who was also a friend called that he and his girlfriend ... A: No need to regret that you wrote a long story. It was good that you wrote a long story. This helps ...
confused	6/12/2008
Q: I was raped by an acquaintance about 3 years ago. We were out drinking and he offered to walk me ... A: Good wishes from Dr.Sunu Sundar. I got an idea of your dilemma. However I would appreciate if you ...
Nowhere to turn...	5/30/2008
Q: It's now 4:30am here in NY and it's been almost 24 hours since i was raped. I don't know ... A: I carefully read your mail using my heart. I very well understand the pain that you are in.At this ...
date rape	5/24/2008
Q: Sunu, My sister was date raped over 20 years ago while still a virgin. Neither one of us at the ... A: How I wish that your sister was given due attention immediately after the incident! Perhaps the ...

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