Expert: Sandra Sparks - 4/26/2008

Question
My son died 12/02/07 he was 22,death ruled out accidental prescription drugs/alcohol related.I had a medium contact me after his death she said Matthew was with her and he wanted her to contact me.She ask for no money and told me to write down what he was saying.she said Matt said he was with the babies and the babies were his.(other things as well).My question is could my son have possibly come into my nephew that was born 12/22/07.
Ethan Matthew,my nices son is the most remarkable infant I have ever seen,this baby and I have a connection That I cant even begin to decribe.He looks at you and studys you,he is like a adult in a infants body.I will talk to him and say things like are you looking at Matt,are you talking to the angles ect...he knows what I mean I'm serious.He also also resembles my son.My niece has said somethings as to the baby staring at Matt picture in her living room and just some odd things are going on.
I'm not trying to see this in the baby,ok? Everyone in the family say that Ethan and i have an usual relationship.My niece says Ethan says lets go see my Aunt it's strange. i hope you can give some reason to this unusual baby.

Answer
Hello, Christina.

Losing a child is a terrible thing, and I am sorry for your loss. Although it is not out of the realm of possibility for a reincarnation to happen so quickly (researcher Carol Bowman has documented cases of children claiming they had been people who died while the children were already in utero) instances of recall of a situation like this seem to be rare.

You say the death and birth occurred in December 2007 - how can Ethan be saying anything at the age of four - five months? Give Ethan time to grow. Yes, the adults we were before can show through at that age. But whether he was your son or someone your son contacted or can contact would not be clear yet.

By the time Ethan is two years old (which is an age when children can start recalling past lives) you will have time to let go of your son. This is very important, because, no matter if Ethan is his reincarnation, Ethan is a new life for a very new little boy, and you must let him be who he is now. If he remembers anything it will be to help him grow into who he is now by remembering the past.

My longtime companion died in 1988 and was reborn two years ago. I love seeing the little boy, and am so glad to watch him discover the world all, but I never forget that he is a different person, with a different life. My companion is within him and is part of his history, but the boy's life and needs are now - not in the past. Please remember that. Please learn that for yourself. For both your sakes. The best way to remember your son is to go on with your life now, and let your son's existence continue as it will.

You already know that your son can keep in touch. Enjoy the touches you both can make. But do not hold him. Do not let him hold you. Be glad we all go on after death. We do not stay who we were before, even if we do reincarnate.

Let me know if you have any more questions.