Expert: Sandra Sparks - 1/16/2009

Question
Dear Sandra,

My teenage son is having quite a difficult time (and making it difficult for his family).  It has been suggested by a few people that the rage he is exhibiting may be left over from a past life (as this life certainly doesn't warrant it).  One person even suggests that he reincarnated too soon and hadn't properly processed his last life.

What constitutes too soon?  And how would this happen?  If souls set up their circumstances to maximize growth potential, why would the handicap of unprocessed rage be brought in?

Answer
Your son has a symptom of rage that needs to be dealt with - don't even look at a possible past life problem, deal with the symptom. We have had a number of rage issues in my own family, the and best solution we found was to get the enraged person to accept the rage as a problem that is as uncomfortable and damaging for him as it is for everyone around him, and that there are ways to channel that excessive rage energy into things that won't damage him or anyone else. I usually don't step away from my field of expertise and advise on something else, but I know what rage is like - he must and can get control of his own situation. The best way we have found is through cognitive therapy, having him learn what situations and conditions trigger his rage, and behavior modification - learning to react in a different way when the triggering conditions occur. Please talk to a counselor and ask about these therapies. They can help.

On reincarnating too soon - I don't believe there is such a thing. I have seen people still have huge issues over lives lived thousands of years ago. My strongest issues come from a life led four hundred years ago - my last life before this one was a fairly happy one, and I reincarnated within eight years. Some I have met who have recall of even quicker turnarounds seem fine. So I don't feel the length between lives will carry any more or less trauma than we are, as individuals, inclined to carry forward.

Let me know if you have any more questions...