AboutSandra Sparks Expertise I can answer questions on reincarnation, personal past life research, famous past lives, and alternative memory theories (otherwise known as: if it's not reincarnation, what is it?) I DO NOT DO PSYCHIC READINGS - there is no quick answer to who you may have been in a past lifetime. But I can help you find the ways to uncover the past life memories you have within.
Experience I have written a workbook for past life recall called Going Past, which will be re-issued in an updated version in the near future. I run a discussion group called The Reincarnation Cafe, and a comprehensive website called The Reincarnation Compendium. I have just launched a youtube channel called Far Memory, http://www.youtube.com/farmemory which offers a selection of videos on past life recall.
Publications I have new books coming out within the next few months on Amazon.com: "Psychic Sensibility," which is coming out in June 2009, and "The Waterhouse Witch," which is an account of my own past life discoveries. For other writing, you will find the most pertinent examples on the internet, at the Reincarnation Compendium: http://home.earthlink.net/~reincarnationcafe, and at The Chip Coffey Message Board, for which I am the moderator: http://chipcoffey.proboards45.com/
Education/Credentials My work in reincarnation developed as I researched my own past lives, and discovered the best ways for conducting personal past life recall. I have been writing regards reincarnation and related matters since 1997, primarily on the internet.
Question I have been married for nearly 42 years and I’ve never been unfaithful and never wanted to be. A vow is a vow and I take such things seriously. I met my wife in high school late in my senior year. I had dated another girl that I’ve know since 1956 (third grade). She and I went to both proms together. Our mothers were friends and really wanted us to be a couple. That may have been one of the contributing factors for us not getting as seriously as we should have. While this other woman and I and my wife have all remained friends, recently, she returned from an assignment out of the country and she and I got together for lunch. Talking about the past, it dawned on me that I am not nostalgic for the “good old days” or things I have experienced in the past, but for those things I’ve wanted to experience and never did and probably never will. That realization set in motion a spiritual tsunami and within 24 hours, I was hit – for lack of a better term – with a psychic wave that has had me reeling ever since. I love my family and would never do anything to hurt them; however, I know, deep inside that my old friend and I should have been together. The realization has left an enormous hole in my soul and I do not know how to address it or what to do to begin the healing. I do believe that she and I made a terrible mistake by ignoring our linked destinies and, consequently, both of us had lives that were more difficult. Although that may sound arrogant, I sense so deeply inside that our destinies were link, that I cannot pass off this feeling as some late-in-life fancy or wishful thinking. Thus, more question: is there any real hope that the two of us can spend the next life together or is it something completely out of our control?
Answer Hi, Doug!
You are so, so not alone in this realization hitting you...
But I have to tell you it is something you need to let go of, though I personally know how hard that is to do. Even though it feels like a mistake, it most likely isn't - we learn different things in different lifetimes, sometimes by going away from the souls we feel closest to and learning with different people. When it is time for us to come back together - and we do all come back together, in some way - the universe lines up everything to make it happen.
Enjoy and appreciate everyone in your life as you can according to the way your life is now. If the two of you are meant to be together, even later in this lifetime, spirit guides will arrange it. This isn't just something I am saying to you - I am surrounded by the people I have loved before, in a lifetime when I was told, when I was a child, I would spend alone. Things have always arranged to bring us together but also keep us all apart. It would be very hard for me to take, if I didn't appreciate the best of the times, and let go of the worst of the times, and make sure I love all of them with open hands. That's all the advice I can give you. I wish you the best.
