Expert: Sandra Sparks - 8/11/2009

Question
Hi Sandra,

In the last 2 years I have had various bits and pieces of information about past lives come through into my current consciousness.

I started being afraid of flying suddenly in my early 20's.  I am now 40 and still get extremely (to the point of paralysis) afraid of flying.  

I did some cranio-sacral somato-emotional releases that seemed to tie this fear to how I died in battle in a previous life.  While I did try to release this fear, my fear of flying persists, even though it has lessened.  Is there anything else I can do to release this fear?  Perhaps I died in a plane crash in another life in addition to this one?

Any advice is appreciated.  Thanks.

Answer
Hi, Kara!

I think it's best if you concentrate on the fear of flying itself. I have had severe phobias myself, mostly of heights, which also may be past life related. But finding out the past life could not get rid of the fear as much as what I did, everything in small steps, deliberately making myself face the fear again and again until I was able to let it go while in the middle of an episode of feeling that fear.

Letting go of a fear of heights is a lot less expensive than getting on airplanes - ;D - but because of the height thing I also had a fear of flying. In order to get over that, I took flying lessons.

Don't panic! I'm not suggesting you do that! I happened to have a father who was a pilot, and that helped a lot! But - if there is a way you can arrange to go to a flight school and request that you have a special course using a flight simulator, or go spend time around a small airport, talking to pilots, anything like that - something that would get you up into experiencing your fear so that you can completely let the fear go DURING the act of experiencing it. That seems to be really important.

My fear of heights finally went completely away when I faced walking across the mile high swinging bridge at Grandfather Mountain, North Carolina. I was preparing myself to go out on it at the same time I saw a woman clinging to the side - and I found out she was trying to do the same thing! We held hands and went together, and I completely lost my fear in the act of helping her get across, too.

That is the last part of my advice to you: get together, if only online, with others who go through the same fear. It helps to know you are not alone...

Let me know if you have any other questions...