AboutSandra Sparks Expertise I can answer questions on reincarnation, personal past life research, famous past lives, and alternative memory theories (otherwise known as: if it's not reincarnation, what is it?) I DO NOT DO PSYCHIC READINGS - there is no quick answer to who you may have been in a past lifetime. But I can help you find the ways to uncover the past life memories you have within.
Experience I have written a workbook for past life recall called Going Past, which will be re-issued in an updated version in the near future. I run a discussion group called The Reincarnation Cafe, and a comprehensive website called The Reincarnation Compendium. I have just launched a youtube channel called Far Memory, http://www.youtube.com/farmemory which offers a selection of videos on past life recall.
Publications I have new books coming out within the next few months on Amazon.com: "Psychic Sensibility," which is coming out in June 2009, and "The Waterhouse Witch," which is an account of my own past life discoveries. For other writing, you will find the most pertinent examples on the internet, at the Reincarnation Compendium: http://home.earthlink.net/~reincarnationcafe, and at The Chip Coffey Message Board, for which I am the moderator: http://chipcoffey.proboards45.com/
Education/Credentials My work in reincarnation developed as I researched my own past lives, and discovered the best ways for conducting personal past life recall. I have been writing regards reincarnation and related matters since 1997, primarily on the internet.
Question For as long as I can remember I have been afraid of someone breaking into my house at night even though nothing remotely like this has ever happened to me. Touch wood, I have not once been the victim of any sort of crime. When I was a child I used to check under all the beds religiously, and then if I woke during the night I would be frozen as every noise I heard I would be convinced was someone breaking in. This has not really changed and I am now 41. There are specific circumstances that I am afraid: ie. if there is no other adult in the house and only between roughly midnight and 4am. As soon as day breaks I am fine. When I lived by myself in a tiny unit I was fine as I knew there was only one way in and out and it was deadbolted. I now live in a big house with my children and I dread when my husband goes away as I know I will be scared half the night. I envy people who don't give it a second thought! Do you think this could be the result of a past life experience and how can I cure it?
Answer Hi, Ally!
I can't tell you based on just the phobia itself, though it's very possible. The important part is curing it. As a person who has had some very bad phobias, I can tell you the only way to get over a phobia is to face it, go through it, and gradually learn to change how you react to the events that trigger the phobia.
The first thing to do is learn to not be afraid of the phobia itself. We double up on our panic when we are simply afraid of being afraid. Most people don't realize that!
The second most important thing is decide for yourself what thing you want to do when faced with the trigger. The trigger is being left alone. Right now, you react by being afraid. Find yourself something you can do each time, with the intention of bleeding off all the fear into it. It could be as simple a thing as reciting a poem or prayer that you have decided will relieve the fear as you say it, gradually letting the fear go. It could be an activity that is small, easy to do, and comforting, that you could do whenever you need it most. Make it the same activity each time you are faced with the fear. By doing this, you retrain your reactions. This is called behavior modification.
The main thing is to understand that even though it now makes you feel helpless, you really do have control of your fears. Just start working on changing your reactions and be patient with your progress. I once couldn't walk within 20 feet of a high edge, because of my fear of heights; I haven't thought about the fear since I worked my way up to walking over a mile high swinging bridge. It took awhile, but I did it! And the feeling when I made it to the center of that bridge and the fear left me for good, was indescribable.
