Relationship Recovery and Resilience/Crush acting weird

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Okay,so 2 yrs ago this guy had asked me out and even after I refused to date him,he used to pester me and wait outside my class for me.After I lost contact with him,he inquired about me from my friends.Now we recently met after 2 years and he used to call me regularly.
On our second date we made out.We din't have sex but did a lot of kissing and touching.
After that incident he has been avoiding me.
Anyways we had planned to meet after a month and I don't know how to get his affection back.Can you help me.

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Hello,

I don't think he deserves to have your affection back. Beyond words what his behavior communicating is- "I am not interested and rather than be honorable and let you know there is a change in my feelings, I'll just leave you dangling."

As difficult as it may be- and rejection in all forms is a challenge- ask yourself if this is the kind of guy you want to be involved with.

Your attachment to him at this point is minimal, which makes it easier to cut bait and walk away. You can always chalk it up to a lesson in listening to your gut instinct. I bet there was a reason you refused to date him way back when. Maybe you sensed he was a jerk. In either case you were right to avoid him then and right to do the same thing now.

He honestly sounds like a guy who simply enjoys the hunt and playing game. Well your body and emotions are not his playground.

Good Luck.  

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I am qualified to answer any questions related to relationship recovery (Romantic, Family, Work, Friendship etc.) In addition I will answer any question related to the area of cultivating more bounce back and resilience in life. In short my specialty area includes helping people to "Get Over Broken Relationships" and "Get on with Cultivating Healthy Relationships", while growing lasting resilience in all areas life successfully.

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Sheila Robinson is a psychotherapist, author, and trainer, with over a decade of experience helping people grow and sustain the necessary tools needed to bounce back from the challenges that life and relationships can present. She has written two books that focus of life/relationship resilience “Getting Over It In Milwaukee” and “STAMINA” . She lives and works in Chicago, IL, providing workshops, therapy, customized trainings, and style-STAMINA sessions.Her mission is to help people around the globe lead more empowered lives through clear thinking, growing resilience skills, creativity, visioning, and the mighty power of the mind. For more information visit www.staminaformylife.com

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Master of Social Work - University of Illinois, May 1998 Bachelor of Science in Sociology/ Journalism - Illinois State University, May 1996 Independent Clinical Social Worker - Wisconsin Department of Regulation and Licensing 2000, and Illinois Department of Regulation and Licensing 2003 (Full Certification, 3000+ hours) Future Milwaukee Program - Leadership Milwaukee Program, May 2003

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