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I have been in my current relationship for 3 years. We met on one of the online singles site. Relationship went sour every now and then. My boyfriend is under huge pressure due to his financial situation, kids and ex family and so. I have tried to be very supportive emotionally. financially. I and everyone around us always believed that he loves me. I do love him very dearly. Just 2 days ago he wanted me to set up some advertisement on line. He provided his ID and password. After accomplishing his request, I tried his  Facebook account and it opened up. I wish I did not do it. All these 3 years he has been chatting with a woman of his kids age in Brazil. I was not hurt as much of his chatting. I am most hurt that I have been subject of their conversation in many times. He never said anything positive about me. He lied about everything and anything to that woman. Woman was more respective than him. I need to know why he lied about being with me, being in love with me, me being terrible? Why he lied to me, to her and to him? I wanted to leave him at list 3 times. He came back all 3 times. Why?

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Hello,

It sounds like you are dealing with a pathological liar. The problem here is- these people also lie to themselves, therefore it's nearly impossible to get to the truth. It's hard to know why he came back three times. Even if you try to come up with the reason, at best you'd be guessing. Why bother guessing, when he has provided you with so many facts. You know he is a liar, sneaky, and disrespectful. You know you deserve better. This is the only piece of information you need to focus on. You can't make sense out of nonsense. Save yourself and put as much distance between yourself and this man as possible.
Find the courage to move forward.

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I am qualified to answer any questions related to relationship recovery (Romantic, Family, Work, Friendship etc.) In addition I will answer any question related to the area of cultivating more bounce back and resilience in life. In short my specialty area includes helping people to "Get Over Broken Relationships" and "Get on with Cultivating Healthy Relationships", while growing lasting resilience in all areas life successfully.

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Sheila Robinson is a psychotherapist, author, and trainer, with over a decade of experience helping people grow and sustain the necessary tools needed to bounce back from the challenges that life and relationships can present. She has written two books that focus of life/relationship resilience “Getting Over It In Milwaukee” and “STAMINA” . She lives and works in Chicago, IL, providing workshops, therapy, customized trainings, and style-STAMINA sessions.Her mission is to help people around the globe lead more empowered lives through clear thinking, growing resilience skills, creativity, visioning, and the mighty power of the mind. For more information visit www.staminaformylife.com

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National Association of Social Workers National Association of Behavioral Therapist Toast Masters International The Theosophical Society

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Author "Getting Over It In Milwaukee" Author "Stamina" www.staminaformylife.com

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Master of Social Work - University of Illinois, May 1998 Bachelor of Science in Sociology/ Journalism - Illinois State University, May 1996 Independent Clinical Social Worker - Wisconsin Department of Regulation and Licensing 2000, and Illinois Department of Regulation and Licensing 2003 (Full Certification, 3000+ hours) Future Milwaukee Program - Leadership Milwaukee Program, May 2003

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• Future Philanthropist of Greater Milwaukee • NADEIS Networking and Delivering Excellence in Services, • University of Illinois Academic Fellowship recipient • Ann Keaton Outstanding Leadership Award

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