About Alina Neal Expertise I can answer many different questions from how to take the next step in a relationship to how to decide if you want to break up or not, any questions pertaining relationships, breakups, how to flirt etc.
Experience Being a classic flirt I think I can answer all of these questions, having went through so many dates, literally over 51 first dates until I found my husband. I was also a counselor and am quite good with human psychology.
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Expert: Alina Neal Date: 6/25/2008 Subject: First trip?
Question Hi Alina,
I am 20 years old, and I have been dating a guy (he is 24) for a month now, and a few days ago he asked me to go on a trip to Vegas with him, his best friend, and a girl his best friend is bringing. Things between us have been amazing so far, he has a lot of qualities I like in a guy, and I think the feeling's mutual.
My concern is, since we've only known each other for a month, would it be appropriate to go away with him? It would be 3 days and 2 nights. I really want to go, but I am afraid by going away with him so soon might jeopardize our future potentially great relationship.
What are your thoughts? If i should refuse, how should I phrase it so that he knows I'm still interested in him, and perhaps we can go away together another time?
Thanks so much for any tips you can give me
Adelina N.
Answer Adelina
I see no problem on going away on a trip with him however you need to look within yourself if you feel its wrong then don't do it.
Also this could intensify any sexual feelings he has if you have not had sex as of yet. Tell him that you feel it would rushing things but that you would definitely like a rain check OR if you do happen to go perhaps the girls could stay in one room and the guys could stay in the other OR guys sleep on a cot woman sleep on the bed.
Ask yourself if you are scared for safety reasons, if you have any fears any doubts, do not do it! Do it because you feel safe, because it feels right, don't be pressured. And always always be safe whether that is sexually, physically or spiritually.
