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Question Hey Hilary, my boyfriend and i have been talking about having sex and i dont exactly know what to do. im only a freshman and he is the first guy ive ever been serious with. i dated a guy last year but we never "clicked". But now im dating him and i REALLY like him but we've only been dating for a little over 4 months and i dont know if i exactly know the difference between Love and Lust since im not really experienced. and he has told me the same thing, he doesn't know exactly what it is, but he's pretty sure he wants to go that far with me. I'd like to say i love him, but i dont exactly know, and i want to make sure it's for the right reasons, ya know. Now when it comes to actually having sex, i dont really know what to do. Do i just let him take the lead and do whatever? or do i try to participate? what? (by the way, we are both virgins, so were both unexperienced.) i know about using protection and all that which i will defiantly do. but i dont even really know how to start it all out. weve talked about doing other things which are safer than straight out sex, like anal. but that just sounds painfull and kind of grouses me out. we've also talked about oral, but i dont exactly know how comfortable i would be with that, and he even said that even if i wanted too, he probably wouldn't let me because he doesn't really like the sound of that, which really surprized me. So actuall intercourse is what weve come down to. And i want to, i do, but i just dont know if its for the rights reasons or if it's to soon or what. And i dont really know how to be prepared for it, i know to use protection, but iv'e herd it can hurt some girls if theyre not totally ready, but how do you know when you are? iv herd masturbating can help with being prepared but that just seems really awkward and strange to me. and if we do "do it" what am i supposed to do during it all? do i just lay their and let him do everything or do i somehow try to pleasure him to? i really have no idea, i would extremely appreciate your help, thanks.
Answer If you do chose to have sex, don't just lay there. That's unfair. The best way to prevent it is to be on top. It will probably feel better for him that way. In that position it will be easier to insert him. It will be difficult, and have him help you. It's all a human instinct. I don't believe in giving too much help for first timers--it's something that can be awkward and fun, and I wouldn't want to take the mystery out of it.
If you're on top. You WILL be tired afterward. Sex is extremely tiring.
