Expert: Hilary - 5/4/2009

Question
hey hillary

me and my girlfriend have been dating for awhile now and, were both virgins and were gonna keep it that way. but i wanna give her the best orgasm ever and i wanna make her cum. she says shes "squirted" before but that really dousnt appeal to either of us. cant girls just cum WITHOUT shooting out everywhere? i know of the g spot and where it is and all but havent actually used it yet.
i have gotten her extremely excited before and it was great but...things interupted us a little soon.
and also, ive asked her what she likes and stuff but, she dousnt really know cuz shes never really been with sumone in a sexual relationship like this. so she dousnt really know and, i guess its just difficult for her to explain things like that and stuff.
just wondering if 1. its possible for girls to really cum and climax without squirting 2. how??? 3. any tips on oral/fingering? 4. any advice to her on how to be more..."detailed"? like...ill ask her if sumthing was good or ill ask her to tell me more about sumthing, more details ya know? she just always gives yes or no answers and... i just want more ya know?

sorry for being extremely long, please answer them all if u can,

thanks, greg

Answer
1) I personally don't refer to it as cumming, but yes, girls can orgasm without squirting. It's much more common to orgasm without squirting.
2) See answer 3.
3) Pay attention to her clitoris, as well as penetration. Giving much more detail than that isn't really what I do. To me, sex is something natural and instinctive.
4) Ask her more specific questions. What was her favourite part, how did it make her feel, was it better than before? Where does it feel the best when you touch her? Don't ask her yes/no questions. Avoid them.