Sex Advice/Oral Sex/Please help me
Okay, so I'm a 35 year old male. I am currently single, having been dumped by my fiancee (who I was with for 6 years) about a year ago. She moved on, which I'm glad that she can find someone who makes her happy, but she is the only woman I have ever truly been in love with. I promised her my virginity (she was not a virgin, but I didn't care) after we would have gotten married; but as I said, she took solace in another. I have every intention of keeping that promise, despite that we are no longer engaged. The problem is, I always think about her (not just sexually), especially when I notice women who have similar physical and personality traits to her. These thoughts usually come paired with strong sexual, emotional, and intimate urges; but I can't entertain these thoughts. How do I stop these urges from happening?
I think you need to move past this woman who was with you for six years. You might need help from a competent relationship counseling professional to do this. I would suggest that you meet a wide variety of women and don't pursue women who remind you too much of your ex. But that is only my advice. Do what your professional counselor tells you.