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Hey mr/dr Adams,

I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and our sex life is brilliant and very regular. However, sometimes i go numb when i'm having my clit rubbed, internally i'm fine and can feel all penetrative sensations, but the area around my clit goes completely numb and i can't reach orgasm. This happens about 35% of the time. I'm a bit confused as to why it happens sometimes and not all the time.
I have no problem with lubrication at any time.
Thank you for your time.

Most women dislike repetitive stimulation of the clitoris.  They prefer to employ a variety of strokes rather than to have a single one repeated over and over.  Women themselves know this but they don't always tell their male partners to employ a variety of touches.  It would help if you showed him.

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