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Hi. I am in my early thirties, but have had little dating experience. This is because I have had low self-esteem most of my life, as well as anxiety. However, I have been getting help with this through therapy and medication, and I think it is helping a great deal. Here is my situation: I am in my first sexual relationship, it is still new, and we have had sex a few times. My boyfriend always drinks some alcohol right before sex, enough to get him buzzed. I am wondering-Does this mean he does not truly find me attractive and desirable??  He is not a shy person at all, and was sober when he first asked me out.  When we have sex, he really wants to pleasure me and make sure that I orgasm as well.  This is driving me crazy. What are your thoughts on this?  Thank you.

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Hi Holly,

First, always believe that you are beautiful and very desirable.   His having a drink or to is almost certainly bout him.  A great many men, even those with loads of self confidence, will have a drink or several to lower inhibitions.  That allows us to do things with more abandon, more passion than we might be able to sober.

Enjoy,

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