About Christa Expertise I am studying to become a "Loveologist". I can answer a variety of questions ranging from explaining about each category of toys, "what goes where & why", I can offer you information about how to make one toy compliment another, how to best care for your items. I do seminars and workshops for ladies and couples. I have been working in this field for 5 years now and I can respectfuly tackle whatever issue that is brought before me. No topics are taboo. As humans, we have the right to be informed on how to achieve our optimal sexual selves. And, in all honesty, if there is a subject I am unaware of, I will do the research to find the best answer. I can also give you specific names of toys and where I reccomend that you purchase them.
Experience My husband and I own X's & O's Lingerie and Gift Boutique.
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Our mission is to educate and empower ladies and couples to pursue a variety of avenues of sexual satisfaction via the help of relationship enhancements. For over 5 years, we have been fortunate to receive valuable feedback from our customers and those who have sought out our workshops. We have been considered the "Ultimate Romantic Shopping Experience" for couples in Love. Our "Blow Job Class" (yes, you heard correctly) help put a new fresh "twist" on the techniques and grips you may already be using. Humor creates a receptive environment and I heavily forcus on demystifying the male pleasure zones and anatomy. Please feel free to ask whatever questions that I may assist you with.
Publications North County Times Editorial (Easter 2006) Q & A with ME and a few readers from LOCALE MAGAZINE (Jan. 2007) Formerly a Talk Radio DeeJay on Radio Show called "Shut Up & Listen" on KKSM Palomar College Radio. X's & O's Lingerie was featured on the E!Networks show Dr. 90210...we did an informational workshop with "Violet",
Dr. Matlocks patient. Be sure to TUNE IN for the occassional re-run if you missed it! ( it originaly was filmed July 23,'07 aired on Oct. 29th,'07) We certainly showed Violet what she and her man had been missing!!!
Education/Credentials I am working toward my "Loveologist" Certification. I am also attending mainstream college courses about marriage, Family & Intimacy as well as Human Sexuality. My current GPA is 4.0! My hope is to further pursue this field by either the Radio or perhaps PodCasting as well as in future projects like writing books.
Past/Present Clients Out of respect for my customers and friends, I will allow for them to respond with their names if they wish to disclose them. The topics of sex and sexuality are very "ginger" and I recognise the HIPPA laws.
Question My boyfriend and I have been dating over a year, and have decided to become sexually active. Up until recently, we were both virgins. When I masturbate, I'm used to using toys that are 7 inches long and 1.5 inches in diameter. His measurements are 6.5 inches long and 2.5 in diameter. When we tried making love, he had a hard time fitting inside of me, and the pain was almost more than I could bear. After a few thrusts, he pulled out because he didn't want to hurt me further. I was very wet, having climaxed twice with the toy before he entered me, and he was using alot of lubricant (water base)/lubed condom. With my toy it took a week of 'getting used to' but then it felt good. My boyfriend and I have continued to try, with plenty of foreplay/lube, and I just can't seem to loosen up to accommodate for more than the toy. My question: is there a way for me to loosen up more? I love him very much, and although he insists he is happy, I want to do more.
Answer Hello Seneca,
I am unsure how to best answer your question. The only thing I can think of, if I think back to my personal history... it was not an "over night" thing for me to get comfortable with intercourse. I can remember experiencing a degree of discomfort for a prolonged period of time. I am trying to make sense of the reason why if your boyfriends "size" being a little smaller, if not very similar to that of the dimensions of the toy you described to me...why you are having better luck there than with his penis. Perhaps you are just needing to adjust to the fact that it is the actual "Act" of sex that is causing you a little fear. I am not sure what to recommend other than to practice safe sex and keep at it. Try different positions that will help you experience a variety of angles and depths. You will likely find a "sweet spot" that helps you get better results, building BOTH of your confidence levels and giving you time to create a sexual bond with your partner. As virgins, you are giving eachother a wonderful gift...exploration together and being fairly "even" on the playing field! Let me know if there is anything else I can offer you as far as help. I wish I could give you further advice...Good Luck!!
