About Christa Expertise I am studying to become a "Loveologist". I can answer a variety of questions ranging from explaining about each category of toys, "what goes where & why", I can offer you information about how to make one toy compliment another, how to best care for your items. I do seminars and workshops for ladies and couples. I have been working in this field for 5 years now and I can respectfuly tackle whatever issue that is brought before me. No topics are taboo. As humans, we have the right to be informed on how to achieve our optimal sexual selves. And, in all honesty, if there is a subject I am unaware of, I will do the research to find the best answer. I can also give you specific names of toys and where I reccomend that you purchase them.
Experience My husband and I own X's & O's Lingerie and Gift Boutique.
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Our mission is to educate and empower ladies and couples to pursue a variety of avenues of sexual satisfaction via the help of relationship enhancements. For over 5 years, we have been fortunate to receive valuable feedback from our customers and those who have sought out our workshops. We have been considered the "Ultimate Romantic Shopping Experience" for couples in Love. Our "Blow Job Class" (yes, you heard correctly) help put a new fresh "twist" on the techniques and grips you may already be using. Humor creates a receptive environment and I heavily forcus on demystifying the male pleasure zones and anatomy. Please feel free to ask whatever questions that I may assist you with.
Publications North County Times Editorial (Easter 2006) Q & A with ME and a few readers from LOCALE MAGAZINE (Jan. 2007) Formerly a Talk Radio DeeJay on Radio Show called "Shut Up & Listen" on KKSM Palomar College Radio. X's & O's Lingerie was featured on the E!Networks show Dr. 90210...we did an informational workshop with "Violet",
Dr. Matlocks patient. Be sure to TUNE IN for the occassional re-run if you missed it! ( it originaly was filmed July 23,'07 aired on Oct. 29th,'07) We certainly showed Violet what she and her man had been missing!!!
Education/Credentials I am working toward my "Loveologist" Certification. I am also attending mainstream college courses about marriage, Family & Intimacy as well as Human Sexuality. My current GPA is 4.0! My hope is to further pursue this field by either the Radio or perhaps PodCasting as well as in future projects like writing books.
Past/Present Clients Out of respect for my customers and friends, I will allow for them to respond with their names if they wish to disclose them. The topics of sex and sexuality are very "ginger" and I recognise the HIPPA laws.
Impressed with your profile. So much so I feel confident asking a question.
Since my divorce over 4 years ago, I've been fortunate to be able to date often and be the most sexual in years. One thing I've found is that while the total emotional, affectionate, lovemaking can be pleasing to women, they differ in their orgasms. Some reach it easily, others take months while others struggle to ever get there. As difficult as it is not to doubt yourself as a man, their stories of other men not taking them to that special moment make me realize I'm not the only schmuck.
With some women, I've found if the emotional connection is strong enough, we find a way for them to orgasm, the cherry on top or icing on the cake moment before cuddling, kissing and enjoying the afterglow.
But other women, well, wow, I feel like such a failure. We get close but can't get over the hump. I never, ever mention climaxing to them as to not focus on that or make them feel pressured but any advice on technique?\r
I am romantic and am big into flirting and non-sexual touching but I give myself something short of an "A" when it comes to the rest.
Thanks for your understanding and best wishes on your business.
Mike
Answer Hi Mike,
You, my friend, are a breath of fresh air. Many men tend to pressure women and question them and that adds to the stress of not having optimal freedom to enjoy the romantic evening as a whole. Thank you so much for your patience and willingness to set a woman at ease with your compassion and want to avoid pressuring them.
You are correct, if there is a strong emotional connection, many women can easily arrive at the climax. You also have to take into consideration that many women have issues climaxing because of their emotional baggage and for lack of a better word "damage" that occurred to them in their lives that contribute to their inability to finish or be vulnerable to allowing themselves to "let go" and fully take in the sexual intimacy. (try your best to avoid taking it personal...you are too sweet for that!)
I can only tell you that you are on the right track. The best thing that I can advise you (overall) is to really look for the "right girl" to invest a lot of quality time into. You can't rescue the ladies that need to actually address and deal with personal issues. You will most definitely leave a lasting impression on the ladies who have never had a partner that holds the qualities you have. As for techniques, I would tell you to look into buying a few great books written by Dr.Sadie Allison. "Tickle Your Fancy" is all about self pleasuring for HER, "Toy-Gasms" is all about Toy play for BOTH guys & gals, "Ride'em CowGirl" her newest book is all about positions. I can assist you if you'd like to order any of these. They are easy to read and non threatening. I highly recommend her books (until I finish writing MY OWN, that is!! LOL). If I can offer you further assistance, please do not hesitate to contact me here at AllExperts OR at my boutique X's & O's Lingerie via email
xs-and-os@sbcglobal.net (remind me that we chatted here). You can also check out my website (www.xsandoslingerie.com) if it would help you get additional ideas for expanding upon your skills or broaden your horizons!
Mike, it was GREAT hearing from you. PLEASE do not hesitate to contact me again. I hope I have helped you in someway. Best of luck to you!!
