Question QUESTION: I am a 53 year old male and was interested in trying having sex with another man both oral and anal, but i am nervous about receiving anal for the first time. My quetion is are there any anal toys which could prepare me as to how the anal sex with the man would feel and which one is the best for my situation. Thank you.
ANSWER: Hello Steve,
Thank you for your question.
Yes, there are toys that can prepare you for real anal sex with a partner. In fact, it is a very good idea to try anal pleasure by yourself for the first few times, to ensure that you can go slow and enjoy it, and so you don't feel pressured by a partner.
With that said, you could start with an anal training kit. Since it is your first time, this is a good option, because a training kit starts you off with a very small, slim butt plug first. Then you can gradually increase size as you grow more accustomed to the feeling of having something in your anus, and feel more comfortable with that.
As you can see the kits starts off with a very small, slim butt plug and then gradually increases to the largest size (5” length x 2” girth). With the average penis size being 5-6" in length and 3 1/2" girth, the largest size should get you used to being penetrated by something almost the size of an actual penis.
If you are looking for something a bit more realistic and which would feel more like a real penis, I would go with a flanged dildo that can be used for anal penetration. You want to make sure that any toy you choose has a flared or flanged base, to protect you from it slipping inside.
The American Whopper is a very popular dildo and has an insert-able length of 5 1/2" with a girth of 4", so slightly larger than the biggest anal plug in the kit above. This would allow you to get a more realistic feeling of what a real penis would be like and help prepare you better. You only have to insert as much as you like, or feel comfortable with, so you don't have to worry about it being too big to begin with. Only take in what feels good and go slow. Also, the head is slim and it gradually gets thicker so this allows you to slowly stretch the anus sphincter, to where-ever you feel comfortable, going more gradually each time.
It goes into detail on how to prepare, safety issues like wearing condoms, and things to do and not do during anal sex.
I hope this information has helped you. If you have any further questions, let me know and I'd be happy to answer them for you.
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QUESTION: Thanks Domina your answer was very helpful,the only other question i have for u is the place u gave me for the toys (they looked perfect to start with) how discreetly do they ship them to u? Thanks again
Answer Hello Steve,
Glad I could help.
This is from the site:
Products are shipped in plain boxes or envelopes with a nondescript return address.
So you see, the shipping is very discreet. I buy stuff from there all the time, and the boxes are just plain and ordinary. No one but you would know what is in them.
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Thanks again your information was very helpful in helping me make a decision of what i am going to do.
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