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I almost feel silly asking this, it's well past my skill level as a virgin, but... are really big toys safe?

I mostly ask because I've seen guys taking 10+ inches like it's nothing, and I... honestly... kinda... want to try it. I mean, obviously not immediately, I know you've gotta take stuff slowly, but... still feel the need to ask.

Hello Colin,

Thank you for your question.

In my opinion, no... really big toys are not "safe" for anal play.  That is because the anus is not meant to stretch as much as the vagina can.  So, if you use large toys a lot, you can loose the normal elasticity of the anus, which "could" eventually lead to prolapse, or incontinence of the bowels.  Also, you could tear the anal tissue which is very dangerous as well...

However, many men and women do use and enjoy very large toys up their anus.  I think it is bad for you in the long run personally.  

Also, I don't think you have to stretch out your anus in order to feel pleasure.  And, the prostate is only 2-3 inches inside, which is one of the main sources of pleasure for men via anal sex.  So, it is unnecessary to use huge toys.

I think this is also a fad, for guys and women to outdo each other in how much they can take.  And, I think more porn stars do this that real people, although real people do as well...

But, it is very prevalent in porn, so not a stupid question.  But I wouldn't feel pressured in doing it unless you really want to, and then you would want to go very slowly and work yourself up in size.  And, weigh the consequences of doing it with your long term health.

Hope that helps!

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