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Hi, you have provided me with useful advice in regards to pegging are there strap ons that also stimulate the woman ( giving) so she can receive pleasure as well?  Also are there special lubricants that work better for anal sex?

Hello Steve,

Thank you for your question.  Glad I was able to help you before.

Yes, there are strap-ons that give pleasure to her as well.  They are called strapless strapons and they have a bulb part that inserts in her to wear, which stimulates her G-spot as she wears it.  Here are a bunch of strapless strapons-

The pros and cons are:
-they help build up the PC muscles in her so she can achieve stronger G-spot orgasms
-she needs to have a fairly strong PC muscle to hold it in, as it is held in place by squeezing the PC muscle
-she can also use this type of strap on with an ordinary harness to help keep it in place
-because there are no straps, there is a greater intimacy created during partner sex and more skin on skin feel.
-she would be able to wield it more intuitively than a regular strap on because it feels more like it is her own penis

I definitely do recommend them.  The two most popular are the Feeldoe and the Share.  The Feeldoe is a bit sturdier than the Share, so easier to use.  Also, the Feeldoe has a vibrator inside the bulb that inserts in her for additional stimulation.

Anal Lubes tend to be much thicker than ordinary lubes and also last longer.  You'll want to use a good, thick anal lube for prostate play and pegging, and lots of it.  I recommend this one here-

I don't recommend using anal lubes that have desensitizers in them or anal eaze.  These type of lubes are used to numb that anal canal, which can be dangerous.  You need to be able to feel what is going on inside there to prevent injury.  And, what's the point, if you can't feel it?  It would take away from the pleasure.

Let me know if you need any more information.

Happy Orgasms!  

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