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are there a list of dildos that are completely latex free and how long age wise before they have to be replaced?
my boyfriend has low testosterone, works hard (tired) and is suggesting I get one.  I'm not comfortable with the idea, having some issues with bringing a third party into the bedroom as:
1.  undermining his masculinity
2.  being unable to orgasm with just him after using toys
3.  comfort of using a toy due to scarring (clitoral has to be super soft and is great for a quick start but not satisfying- more frustrating without penetration)
4.  allergic to latex or adhesive materials that seem to be used in toys
5.  noise!!  very small house with children

Hello me,

Thank you for your questions.

Yes, there are lots of body-safe, latex-free sex toy materials.  The best soft material is silicone and is completely body-safe and doesn't contain latex. However, you have to make sure you purchase a good brand of toy, like Lelo, Tantus or Fun Factory, to be sure you are getting a toy that is 100% premium silicone.  There are lots of other manufacturers that make substandard silicone-hybred toys with questionable materials.  A silicone toy will last forever with proper care, cleaning and use.

If your boyfriend is suggesting you get a dildo, then I don't think you will be undermining his masculinity. After all, he suggested it.  Just make sure he is part of your arousal, and you can get him to penetrate you with the dildo.  There are even strap-ons for men, if he is open to trying that, which feels very much like you are doing the real thing.

Using toys to orgasm will not take away from experiencing orgasm with him.  It is just another way to achieve orgasm.

If you are using a dildo, it would be for vaginal penetration only, so wouldn't be used on the clitoris.  A vibrator, on the other hand, is used for clitoral stimulation.  There are lots of small, quiet vibrators, that have a range of power settings, so can be quite gentle on the clitoris. Look for ones that are made of ABS plastic and silicone.  And, read reviews about noise rating before you purchase.  If possible, go to a sex shop in person and ask them to show you various vibrators so you can check out the noise level.  Many are whisper quiet.

Hope this helps answer your questions.  If you have any more, let me know.

Happy Orgasms!

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