Sex Toys/Questions Answered by Expert Domina

SubjectDate Asked
sharing a Hitachi2/1/2017
  Q: My husband enjoys anal stimulation while he masturbates and likes to insert our sex toys. After ...
  A: Uhggg! That is really not nice to use someone else's toy for anal play without using a condom or ...
Discreet sex toys1/25/2017
  Q: I am a submissive woman and I am looking for a remote controlled vibrating sex toy that can be ...
  A: I would recommend the We-Vibe Sync which has won awards as the Best Couple's Vibe: ...
'Ringing' electric stimulation anal toy11/21/2016
  Q: I've seen only 2 videos in which a particular e-stim anal toy drives the guys wild. This stimulator ...
  A: Unfortunately, I've never heard of such a thing. It seems like it is being used by remote from ...
Slips out11/6/2016
  Q: i'm a (straight) male,i recently bought my first anal toy, the tantus slim. I love the feeling of ...
  A: It is probably good that you went with a slim toy to begin with, as you wouldn't have wanted ...
Canes11/3/2016
  Q: I want to buy a new cane to use on my sub. I have used several implements on her and she has a high ...
  A: Ah, canes... yes. To my knowledge, all canes can damage the skin and leave permanent marks if they ...
Personals11/1/2016
  Q: Do you know of a good sexual relationship dating site? I am tired of the fake stuff on Craigslist, ...
  A: Sorry, I can't advise on any dating sites. Yes, they have male vibrators that hold the penis. Here ...
blood flow9/1/2016
  Q: Is there any herbal treatment to increase penile/pelvic blood flow? thank you. scott, 40 years old ...
  A: There are many herbal treatments that claim to increase blood flow to the penis. L-arginine is in a ...
Bondage8/31/2016
  Q: I am a married female dominant. My husband and I enjoy bondage very much. I particularly love seeing ...
  A: Yes, he could wear chains all the time while you are home alone. You simply increase the time by a ...
Erotic Electro Stimulation(Electro Stimming the Penis)7/4/2016
  Q: Please help me if you can. I need your advice/opinion on Erotic Electro Stimulation of the Penis. I ...
  A: In all honesty, I haven't heard of this happening. However, anything, including simple masturbation ...
Oral fetish toys for men4/13/2016
  Q: I would like to know if there is a realistic vagina sex toy that would be suitable for my oral ...
  A: Yes, there are very realistic vaginas and fake breasts masturbators. They are very expensive, but ...
Toy issues4/10/2016
  Q: Hey there, I hope you're doing well. I'm a (straight) male and I recently discovered I really like ...
  A: I would recommend anything by Aneros. They make the best prostate stimulators on the planet and they ...
Turning Tom4/9/2016
  Q: I'm looking into buying a toy called turning tom. I have used toys of similar size and shape, I have ...
  A: From the reviews I have read, yes you can use this toy for anal. However, it looks like the turning ...
Orgasm3/26/2016
  Q: I am so frustrated. I cannot reach an orgasm. When I'm having sex it feels great, but not evough to ...
  A: Have you tried using a vibrator? I would recommend trying that, as most women don't get off from ...
Nipple orbs1/3/2016
  Q: I am considering getting magnetic nipple orbs. I was wondering how much pressure do they apply? Can ...
  A: I haven't tried magnetic nipple orbs myself (need to get some now!). However, I found some great ...
Toy1/3/2016
  Q: I hope your well and I hope you've enjoyed the holidays. Do you know of a prostate toy that vibrates ...
  A: There are a lot of prostate toys that vibrate. However, there isn't one that I know of that ...
Hollow Dildo with hole in tip11/30/2015
  Q: My husband has a disability that results in his penis having trouble getting and staying hard enough ...
  A: There are lots of squirting dildos on the market, but none of them that I know are hollow inside. ...
sex toys for the aging woman11/28/2015
  Q: I am a woman over 70 who has suddenly developed a libido and a desire for sex. Is this common at my ...
  A: Glad to hear your libido is still going strong. Yes, it is common for women of your age to still ...
Silicone Free Dildo?9/24/2015
  Q: I am allergic to silicone. In lubricants, as well as toys; it gives me an allergic reaction. This ...
  A: Well, that is a bummer. To be honest, most quality sex toys are made out of 100% medical grade ...
damage?8/16/2015
  Q: My husband and i have had pretty normal sex for most of our marriage. Sometimes.. most times i dont ...
  A: No, you won't get permanently damaged by putting a dildo and a penis in your vagina at the same ...
Anal Vibrating Toys8/11/2015
  Q: I have been using a vibrating toy for anal stimulation for about year now and simply love it. The ...
  A: The closest thing I could find matching your description is the Billy Massager from Lelo. It says ...
Masturbation7/22/2015
  Q: I've been masturbating for a while using mostly my hands and the shower head. It's difficult for me ...
  A: Without purchasing anything, that doesn't leave you with a lot of options. However, here is a good ...
anal6/27/2015
  Q: IM A BIG BLACK MASCULINE GAY MALE KIND OF CHUBBY AND I ONLY LIKE TO BE SUBMISSIVE I JUST WANT TO ...
  A: There aren't too many choices when it comes to dildo machines and they are very expensive. Most of ...
Don't want to frighten6/22/2015
  Q: I have a somewhat uncomfortable question, I am a male and I for a long time I've fantasized about ...
  A: Congratulations on talking to your wife about your turn-ons. It sometimes takes a lot of courage to ...
First Toy6/21/2015
  Q: I am in my early 20's and still a virgin. I have masturbated a little, but would like something more ...
  A: You want to start with something small, like a pocket rocket, mini wand, or rabbit ears toy like the ...
complicated question?5/31/2015
  Q: are there a list of dildos that are completely latex free and how long age wise before they have to ...
  A: Yes, there are lots of body-safe, latex-free sex toy materials. The best soft material is silicone ...
Chastity belt5/11/2015
  Q: I am a dominant in the bedroom and my husband loves to play the submissive role. We have ...
  A: I don't think there is a specific time limit for male chastity. It would depend on how tight the ...
Do vibrators work on a man's penis as well?5/8/2015
  Q: I've heard that if a guy uses one of those vibrators (found in Walgreens) on the underside of his ...
  A: For some men, vibration does work to help stimulate them to orgasm. For some men, it doesn't do ...
ability to cum3/4/2015
  Q: I have a question it may sound corny but I am concerned. I am an avid masterbator on a daily basis ...
  A: Well, the male human body can only produce so much semen. If you masturbate a lot, then it may take ...
Custom blow up dolls12/14/2014
  Q: I had an idea for a blow up doll of Norm from Cheers one can put at the table in their dinning room. ...
  A: I don't know of any company who makes custom blow up dolls. However, Pipedreams and Topco are the ...
New toys12/3/2014
  Q: How does one suggest ideas for new toys?
  A: I assume you want to know how to introduce /suggest toys into your relationship? Sex toys are ...
toys11/14/2014
  Q: I am wonting my wife to use a strap on on me she has before but not as much as I would like she ...
  A: Finding a good strap-on can be difficult because everyone is different and there fore may need ...
sex toys11/7/2014
  Q: So my wife wanted to try pegging I was unsure about it but wanted to make her happy and try ...
  A: Congrats to you for being brave and trying something new in the bedroom. But to answer your ...
Eroscillator10/30/2014
  Q: I have a question about the eroscillator. I read on the internet that the eroscillator is a real ...
  A: Yes, the Eroscillator is a very good sex toy, excellent for clitoral stimulation, and is one of the ...
lube10/21/2014
  Q: im a straight, 21 year old, married male and I feel pretty awkward saying it but I really like ...
  A: No need to feel awkward about enjoying anal pleasure. For men, anal pleasure can be exquisite as ...
Cleaning My New Anal Toy10/16/2014
  Q: I recently purchased a UR3 6 Inch Anal Starter in Blush ...
  A: These are all great questions. First of all your toy is made of UR3, which is not silicone. UR3 is ...
Clit & G-Spot Vib7/27/2014
  Q: My very first sex toy..Im really trying to orgasm for the first time period and ive been having sex ...
  A: If you haven't had an orgasm before I suggest starting with the clitoris for many, many reasons and ...
Sexuality after sexual violence.6/22/2014
  Q: I've been struggling my whole life to discover my own sexuality and to feel comfortable with my own ...
  A: I am very saddened by your story. It is terrible that you have been made to feel ashamed of your ...
strap on5/11/2014
  Q: you have provided me with useful advice in regards to pegging are there strap ons that also ...
  A: Glad I was able to help you before. Yes, there are strap-ons that give pleasure to her as well. ...
Sex Toy Discoloration4/8/2014
  Q: I have a sex toy that I haven't used for a while. When I went to get it, I noticed some ...
  A: It sounds like some of the color from the black toy rubbed off on your plastic toy. This can happen ...
toys4/2/2014
  Q: What are the most common toys that straight guys purchase for themselves? Also by chance do you ...
  A: The most common toys that straight men purchase for themselves would be masturbators. There are all ...
homemade male sex toys?3/16/2014
  Q: What are some good homemade male masturbators/ sex toys? I like ones that simulate vaginas and that ...
  A: There are a few homemade sex toys out there. But I've never used them or know anyone who has. These ...
penis pumps n vibrators2/5/2014
  Q: I am 59 yrs old and have ED. I can't take viagra because I have high blood pressure. My wife and I ...
  A: Yes, the thing with penis pumps is that usually, the higher the price the better the product. That ...
anal toy1/23/2014
  Q: my wife has brought up the idea of using a toy on me, I don't want to refuse, ( i am even slightly ...
  A: These are all very good questions, so don't feel weird asking them at all. I think your wife wants ...
first sex toy - lelo, which one?1/17/2014
  Q: so I'm looking to buy a sex toy, and in my search I found Lelo. All the products look absolutely ...
  A: Lelo products are amazing products and are very well made. That being said, they are not usually ...
Large anal toys1/13/2014
  Q: I almost feel silly asking this, it's well past my skill level as a virgin, but... are really big ...
  A: In my opinion, no... really big toys are not "safe" for anal play. That is because the anus is not ...
First Vibrator Advice?1/9/2014
  Q: So I've never had an orgasm and would like to change that. I hear they're great stress relief which ...
  A: No, you are not being totally awkward. This is a great question if you haven't used a vibrator ...
dildo11/3/2013
  Q: I was wondering what dildo would you recommend for a first time user. Don't get me wrong I have and ...
  A: Well, I'm going to assume you are not a virgin :) So, any type dildo may be suitable for you, but ...
Toys10/30/2013
  Q: So my wife is wonting to try some sex toys she has her mind set up on what kinda you it's a little ...
  A: There is no "normal" when it comes to sexual preferences. It all depends on what you and your ...
Sex toy10/26/2013
  Q: I am male, 34, 180 lbs, and feel very well. Due to ulcerative colitis, I had my entire large colon ...
  A: From the little that I have read about your condition and having anal stimulation after surgery, it ...
Getting Turned On10/24/2013
  Q: I've got some serious PTSD, and it's really getting in the way of being even remotely interested in ...
  A: It really depends on what kind of stimulation you want, as there are various types of toys that ...
How to find real not online stores?10/24/2013
  Q: Yellow pages didn't help, any clues? Thanks
  A: There must be some brick and mortar sex toy stores in NJ. I found this on Yelp- ...
Sexual Dilemma10/1/2013
  Q: My name is Jen and I have been dating this guy for about four months now. We get all hot and ...
  A: 1) Why was I able to fit my ex and not my current bf? Well, our sexual organs are all shaped ...
help please!9/12/2013
  Q: I an 24 years old, Im in my first long term relationship and we live together and we got pregnant ...
  A: It sounds like you have a few different problems. 1. Masturbation and trying to find the right ...
g spot toys9/9/2013
  Q: Hey I kinda need some help.what type of "toy" would you suggest me using to get my wife to have one ...
  A: Glad you are interested in helping your wife become more orgasmic. The first thing to consider is ...
underwear fetish9/3/2013
  Q: I believe I have an underwear fetish. I have a collection of revealing underwear, ones that have ...
  A: Fetishes tend to be particular to particular people. So, it is hard to say if a certain fetish is ...
cock rings8/21/2013
  Q: Im planning to buy a cock ring for my boyfriend and Im wondering how would it work. would it not be ...
  A: Cock rings are a great couple's toy that have the added benefit of keeping him harder longer. By ...
Vibrators and Menstrual Cycle6/25/2013
  Q: . I'm a female, 41 years of age. Just a month back i bought a body massager. I used the smallest ...
  A: Using a vibrator has nothing to do with your menstrual cycle. It cannot affect when you cycle or ...
sex toy4/29/2013
  Q: I'm not sure if you remember me, you've helped me in the past. my wife once brought up the idea of ...
  A: If she is asking, sounds like she is curious to try it on you. There is a lot of information now ...
vib v.s. dildo4/9/2013
  Q: Heya, I just read your vibrator review- I'm 21 but haven't been able to get myself to orgasm since ...
  A: Yes you can go through periods where you can orgasm easier. This can be due to several things, your ...
Sex toys and UTI3/28/2013
  Q: Can a male get a UTI from using a pocket pussy without lube?
  A: Yes, a guy could get a UTI from using a pocket pussy. Not because there is no lube used, but if the ...
Jack hammer Jesus3/18/2013
  Q: Would this toy be good to use in my anus?
  A: Yes, the Jack Hammer Jesus can be used as an anal toy as it has the cross near the end, so safe to ...
sturbators for men3/9/2013
  Q: what kind on toys do you think a man can get pleasure with . sone thing to use on the penus
  A: Both Tenga- ...
flogger dilema3/6/2013
  Q: i have never purchased a flogger before. i don't mind spending up to $200 but i want a reputable ...
  A: Spending $200 on your first flogger is quite a lot and a big commitment. Personally, I haven't used ...
Anal Balls2/28/2013
  Q: Where can I buy large anal balls (on a string)? I want them to be around 2" in diameter. I have ...
  A: Yes, you can find larger anal beads here- ...
we vibe not recharging2/15/2013
  Q: I have recently bought a we-vibe3 and followed the directions for use and maintenance. After 3 ...
  A: Unfortunately, once a vibrator starts doing that, you really can't fix it, unless you send it back ...
First toy but not a virgin2/10/2013
  Q: I am 22 years old and am in a committed relationship of 4 years. I lost my virginity at 16, but I ...
  A: Personally, I like the small body wand massagers that are on the market. They have a bit more power ...
Vibrator1/22/2013
  Q: I am 44 yrs. old with hypoganism with approx. a 4" penis. My wife is 37, we have two children 5/2. ...
  A: The Hitachi Magic Wand is the strongest vibrator on the market. For some women who have a hard time ...
nipple clamps1/21/2013
  Q: I'm a weenie as far as pain goes, my nipples are extremely sensitive but highly stimulating. I've ...
  A: Yes, the image in my article is actually showing the wrong way to put on a nipple clamp. I took that ...
best toy to try12/12/2012
  Q: I am a 53 year old male and was interested in trying having sex with another man both oral and anal, ...
  A: Yes, there are toys that can prepare you for real anal sex with a partner. In fact, it is a very ...
My wife is pleasuring herself with a massive dildo12/10/2012
  Q: Morning Domina, I feel embarrased typing this but i wanted to ask your thoughts on the following ...
  A: So sorry to hear you are having trouble with your relationship. I can't say why your wife wants to ...
Sex Toy12/8/2012
  Q: Trying to replace a dual vibrator for my wife that no longer exists. She likes the clitoral ...
  A: There are thousands of dual vibrators on the market, so it would be a bit difficult to narrow it ...
Vibrators11/20/2012
  Q: this follow-up question is on a separate subject so I'm giving this a new title. My question is ...
  A: Always a pleasure to help! My answers below >> 1. Vibrator for my girlfriend. My gf has the most ...
Follow-Up Questions about Dildos, etc.11/19/2012
  Q: this is a follow-up to my questions that you answered on November 9, 2012. I hope this makes it ...
  A: Good to hear back from you. My answers >> 1. In looking at the lengths of dildos, I noted a wide ...
Re: Eroscillator11/14/2012
  Q: Thaks for the answer. I agree, it's very difficult to find the point of no return. How can I find it ...
  A: Sorry, I really don't have time to chat in private. What you need to do is really just practice and ...
eroscillator11/14/2012
  Q: I'm very curious about the eroscillator. I read something about it on the internet but I'm not sure ...
  A: Your English is just fine! The Eroscillator is an amazing sex toy actually. Everyone I know who ...
Questions about dildos and harness11/9/2012
  Q: I'm in my 50s and have a gf about 20 years younger than I. I'm from the U.S. and now live in Central ...
  A: This is extremely helpful to me, to help guide you on the right track. There are two types of ...
e-stim of the balls11/2/2012
  Q: What are the long lasting of using e-stim on my balls. I like to put tens pads on either side of my ...
  A: Sorry you did not feel I answered your question to your satisfaction. Basically there is no answer ...
sex toy virgin10/14/2012
  Q: i am 23 a virgin and wanting to give my gf the best ever 'first time' what do you suggest? and would ...
  A: Sex toys are great for anyone, whether you are a virgin or a seasoned pro at sex. They add a bit of ...
Vibrator help9/18/2012
  Q: I'm a virgin looking for a good vibrator. Suggestions?
  A: Because most women get off on clitoral stimulation (70%), I am going to suggest a clitoral vibe to ...
Best clit stimulator for woman over 609/8/2012
  Q: I recently had the most intense multiple orgasms through self clit stimulation. I am now shopping ...
  A: In my experience the best clitoral stimulators are either rockets or wands. If you haven't tried ...
G-spot9/7/2012
  Q: I've been interested in trying to find my G-spot, but I've read that not everyone has one? Is that ...
  A: Yes, there is a lot of hype and misinformation surrounding the G-spot. The good thing is, is that ...
Urine After Vibrator Use8/30/2012
  Q: Greetings! My boyfriend bought a vibrator for the both of us to use during intercourse, however, ...
  A: First of all, don't discard that the fluid may indeed be female ejaculate. It can have different ...
Toys8/29/2012
  Q: the question I have is two fold. I am a 54 y.o. male and my wife is about to turn 50, she is in ...
  A: For your first question, yes a c-ring can help you stay harder and last longer during sex. I would ...
lube8/23/2012
  Q: I am really sensitive to any types of soaps, condoms and lubes. Can you recommend something that ...
  A: Yes, I can recommend a few lubricants that are body-safe and won't irritate you. First, you'll want ...
Selling Adult Product8/23/2012
  Q: Domina, Do you have any advice on how to get an adult product that my company manufactures onto ...
  A: You could start by adding your product to sextoymarketplace.com. This site is owned by CNV and ...

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I am your Personal Pleasure Guide and I can answer questions about any sex toy on the market, including toys for women, men, transgender, bi, gay, lesbian or other. My specialties include women's sexuality, sexual pleasure and sex toys for women, including the G-spot, body safe lubricants, sex toy materials, including those to avoid. I also know a lot about men's sex toys include dolls, c-rings, prostate stimulators, anal toys, and masturbators. I have extensive knowledge about bondage and kink toys including proper and safe usage, as well as sex toys for couples and romance products to help spice up and enhance your relationship. In addition to sex toys, I am very knowledgeable about sexuality, the sexual response cycle, and sexual anatomy, so can advise you on the best toys for specific body parts and how to use them for maximum benefit. I have tested numerous sensation and stimulating creams as well, so can advise on these type of products, if they work, how to use them, and what products to avoid. If you are wondering about a product comparison, I can give you my honest opinion on many varieties of a similar toy type, including pros and cons of each. In addition to sex toy questions, I do have a lot of knowledge about human sexuality and relationships as well and have answered questions about open relationships, erectile dysfunction, and other issues. If I don't have the answer myself, I will find it for you, as well as other resources to check out. My G+ Profile is here- https://plus.google.com/u/0/116207828728706505588?rel=author

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As as pleasure consultant, I have worked for 6 years in various sex toy shops, including brick and mortar shops where I advised customers on what types of toys they may like to purchase, as well as educating them on the toys and sexuality in general. For the past 5 years I have honestly reviewed over 1000 sex toy products, including creating a guide to body safe lubes (paraben and glycerin free), written articles on sex toy materials and some known toxins, sex toy safety, glass toys and their safety, Eco-friendly sex toys, sex toys for women, men and couples to share. I have an established sex toy review blog with over 5000 articles, reviews and sexual information posts, and have gained a reputation as a sex toy expert.

Organizations
Society for Human Sexuality, San Francisco Club Cal Exotics Xbiz Real Sex Toy Reviews

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PopMyCherryReview.com, Sex Life Canada, BlogHer.com, the Sex Carnival, Whiplash!, SMUT, Divine Caroline, Carnal nation, Good Vibes magazine, Lover Magazine, Broken Pencil, AltSexTalk, Ezine Articles, Real Sex Toy Reviews, Boinkology, Examiner, Vibrator.com, and many more.

Education/Credentials
6 years working in the sex toy industry 5 years reviewing sex toys and writing articles on sexuality BFA and a BA Numerous workshops on sexuality and sex toys in general.

Awards and Honors
Governor General's Award for the highest GPA

Past/Present Clients
My main emphasis is writing sex educational review of sexuality products for the adult public via my blog and various other publications. I have also written articles and product descriptions for various sex toys shops including Sextoy.com, TabuToys, Pink Cherry, Babeland, Good Vibes, Vibrator.com, MyTickleSpot, as well as numerous specialty shops and manufacturers of quality sex toy products. Manufacturers include Lelo, We-Vibe, Cal Exotics, Pipedreams, Sportsheets, Ruby Glass, Happy Valley, Fun Factory, Vibratex, Liberator, Adam & Eve, Dr Laura Berman Intimate Basics, Big Teaze Toys, Tantus and more.

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