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| Do I give a gift for the shower and wedding? | 7/23/2008 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: My step-nephew is getting married for the second time (I attended the first wedding, but was not ...
A: Dead Diane, You are never required to give a gift for any celebration. No one ever has to pay for ...
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| 50th wedding anniversary gift | 7/23/2008 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: We have been invited to a 50th wedding anniversary for parents of relatively close friends. Should ...
A: After 50 years of marriage,they have probably accumulated all of the "stuff" they need. You are not ...
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| 60th anniversary dinner | 7/23/2008 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: My husband and his siblings are going to have a 60th anniv. dinner for their parents at a nice ...
A: No one should ever be required to pay for the privilege of being invited as a guest. Please consider ...
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| receiving wedding invitation | 7/23/2008 | Jay Remer |
Q: I recently received a wedding invitation addressed to me on the envelope. Inside the invitation was ...
A: Generic RSVP cards can be problematic and in your case misleading. In fact, if the invitation is ...
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| wedding invite | 7/22/2008 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: I am invited to my cousins wedding however my 6 year old daughters soccer final and award ceremony ...
A: Explain the situation to your cousin so that there will be no room for misunderstanding or hurt ...
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| social dinner invite | 7/22/2008 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: I am having a bbq dinner and inviting an associate/friend. I don't know if he has a significant ...
A: No need to overly worry about it. Just write something like this: Dear Tom, Pat and I are ...
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| Adding Surcharge Information on Invite | 7/22/2008 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: We are having a birthday party at a private club and all beverages will have to be purchased from ...
A: You can't invite people to an event and tell them they have to pay for any part of it. It is ...
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| Houseguests | 7/22/2008 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: My husband and I have a vacation home. Each of the past 3 years, long-time friends of ours have ...
A: Good heavens no. It's your home and you may have whomever you like come to stay,especially family. ...
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| gift card for a new born | 7/22/2008 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: What is the proper saying for a card on a new born's present?
A: What you write on the card for a newborn's present is directed towards the parents, not the newborn. ...
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| restaurant manners | 7/22/2008 | Jay Remer |
Q: I am contacting you regarding two manner question.It is:What should I do with my tie during dinner ...
A: You should do nothing with your tie. I advise keeping your suit jacket buttoned to prevent the tie ...
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| Etiquette for death of daughter's friends Father | 7/21/2008 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: The father of my 11 year old daughter's friend, whose parents were recently divorced (NOT amicably), ...
A: Direct your flowers or notes of condolence to the child. She has suffered terribly with this divorce ...
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| Parents 50th approaching with sibling feud!! | 7/21/2008 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: My parents are about to have their 50th anniversary in November. My only other sibling is my sister ...
A: My suggestion is to plan something that you think your parents will enjoy. I can give you some ...
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| Etiquette concering ex | 7/21/2008 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: My fiance has 2 grown children and 5 grandchildren. When the grandchildren have birthday parties or ...
A: As you are planning on marrying this man,please do what you can to establish and maintain a good ...
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| Is it too much to ask of my "house guest" that he let me know when he will be around or not? | 7/21/2008 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: I have a friend staying with me. He stayed with me recently for close to 2 months prior to going ...
A: First off,you are a SAINT. Two months of that with nary a word? In a studio apartment? Now he's back ...
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| Gift for Eagle Scout ceremony | 7/21/2008 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: My husbands nephew,whom we rarely see will be receiving his eagle scout next weekend, is it proper ...
A: Appropriate,but not expected. In other words,only give the nephew something if you really want to. ...
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| protocol in attending bridal showers | 7/20/2008 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: I am invited to my girlfriend's son's wedding. I have purchased a gift certificate, advice received ...
A: You are right not to wish to be roped into paying for this party. A hostess should never give a ...
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| Baby #2 and kids are not 2 years apart | 7/20/2008 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: One of my best friends is pregnant with number 2. She just registered and is wanting a big shower ...
A: A woman should never ask for or even hint that she wants or expects a party given in her honor. ...
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| failed adoption | 7/19/2008 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: I have a dear friend who less than 24 hours after bringing her newly adopted son home, received a ...
A: Letting her know that you are thinking of her would be kind. While there is nothing you can say or ...
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| Etiquette for a joint occasion | 7/18/2008 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: Cynthia, I was married a few months back and at the time my wife and i were unable to have a ...
A: The key to celebrating two individually wonderful events during the same party is to call it ...
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| Engagement Gift | 7/18/2008 | Jay Remer |
Q: What is the going price for a high class engagement party. It is an engagement party with over 200 ...
A: Frankly this is an odd question. Hosting parties and the budgets that go with them are very ...
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| wedding gift | 7/18/2008 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: How much money is appropriate these days to give at a wedding? This is a close friends daughter. ...
A: As I do not know you or your financial situation,I cannot answer your question. Two dollars might ...
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| WEDDING GIFT | 7/16/2008 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: It's been so long...do I remember the wedding gift is sent to the bride before the wedding? We're ...
A: Yes,please do mail the check to the bride at her home and make it out to her with her maiden name. ...
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| Mr. Doe III? or John III? | 7/16/2008 | Jay Remer |
Q: For a full name of John Doe, III. 1. How should I be addressed or introduced formally? As “Mr. ...
A: I have a suffix, so I know what you're dealing with. In answer toy our first question, formally you ...
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| acknowledgement | 7/16/2008 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: Recently, when I arrived right before dessert to a casual business dinner for my husband's work ...
A: A spouse who attends a business function with the employee is considered part of a whole entity. ...
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| Bridal Shower | 7/15/2008 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: As matron of honor in my friends wedding, I am hosting the bridal shower. Do I need to give a gift ...
A: Please get her a token gift at the very least. I understand that you will be spending time,energy ...
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| Bridal shower gift | 7/15/2008 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: A friend of mine invited me to her bridal shower. My question is, should I buy a gift from the ...
A: A registry may be looked upon as a list of suggestions. You do not need to follow it at all. If the ...
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| Birthday wording etiquette | 7/15/2008 | Jay Remer |
Q: My niece just sent my sister a e greeting for her 60th birthday which reads "may you have good ...
A: I agree with both you and your sister. What an inappropriate way to phrase 'best wishes'. Your niece ...
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| Correct salutations for letters and mailings | 7/15/2008 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: How do I address a letter to a family of doctors Dr and Dr Joe Smith? the Doctors Smith? Dr Joe ...
A: Since both the Smiths are doctors and they share the same last name you address the envelope like ...
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| wedding venue | 7/15/2008 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: My daughter is engaged and living with her fiance in Atlanta. My husband and I live in the DC ...
A: As you know a bride is traditionally married in her hometown. Even as few as fifty years ago a ...
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| Family Get togethers | 7/14/2008 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: I need an idea for our family Christmas this year that will work. There are 17 of us including ...
A: The best advice I can offer is to speak to their mother before they come to the event. Whomever in ...
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| 25th wedding anniversary | 7/14/2008 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: my sister and I are planning my parents 25th wedding anniversary. our budget is pretty tight...so we ...
A: A hostess never gives a party that she cannot afford. The friends and family who will be there to ...
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| Family Get togethers | 7/14/2008 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: I need an idea for our family Christmas this year that will work. There are 17 of us including ...
A: It sounds like the two ill-mannered children need to have buddies with them while they are in the ...
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| Thank You Cards | 7/11/2008 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: I was recently married and am now working on our Thank You cards. I've been learning the Do's and ...
A: Congratulations on your recent nuptials. A thank you card is really quite easy. Only three ...
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| holiday visiting etiquette | 7/11/2008 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: My son and daugther in law have been married for 3 years. They live 4 hours away. We invite them ...
A: It sounds as if it is time for your husband to have a heart to heart talk with your son. There is a ...
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| Wine brought by a quest for dinner | 7/11/2008 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: When a quest brings a bottle of wine when invited for dinner, are you required to open the wine and ...
A: You are not required to open the wine for dinner. It is actually rude for the guest to insist you ...
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| Mom's 75th Birthday Party | 7/10/2008 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: We would like to have a money tree at my Mom's 75th birthday party because at her age, what do they ...
A: There is never a polite way to ask for gifts. An invitation shouldn't ask that the recipient 'pay ...
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| Parents | 7/10/2008 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: I have a tiny efficiency apartment in New York and my parents want to visit for a few days. When I ...
A: No it was not wrong to suggest that they stay in a hotel. You do it saying "No,I won't hear of you ...
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| wedding gift requirement | 7/10/2008 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: We received a wedding invitation from a former friends child whom we do not know very well. Because ...
A: Proper etiquette mandates that you send a card with your best wishes. Unless you attend the wedding ...
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| House guests | 7/9/2008 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: My husband and I have invited another couple to stay with us for a month while their new apartment ...
A: You should definitely deny the request unless you and your husband want it for yourselves after they ...
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| houseguest | 7/9/2008 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: My daughter is a full time college student home for the summer. Her boyfriend, a full-time out of ...
A: If you have spoken to her about her role and responsibilities are towards the family and all she can ...
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