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| HOUSEWARMING PARTY | 7/10/2009 | Jay Remer |
Q: i WOULD LIKE TO HOST A HOUSEWARMING FOR MY DAUGHTER WHO IS PURCHASING HER FIRST HOME AT 26 YEARS ...
A: As I have said before, the mention of gifts on an invitation is verboten. The only way to handle ...
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| Limiting guests | 7/9/2009 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: I'm coordinating a graduation celebration for approx 100. Due to space I must limit the guest to 4 ...
A: Proper etiquette dictates that the only place on the invitation to indicate who is invited is on the ...
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| gravestone etiquette | 7/9/2009 | Suzanne Zazulak Pedro |
Q: Is it proper to have a second wife buried and included on the gravestone of her husband when the ...
A: Your question not only raises social implications, but legal. If you do not mind, I need more ...
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| Birthday cards | 7/9/2009 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: A few days ago an envelope arrived addressed to both my wife and my eldest son. Their birthdays are ...
A: Instead of condemning your mother,applaud her! Most cards and letters do not come close to exceeding ...
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| Dr and Mrs. question | 7/8/2009 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: I have scanned previous questions and answers regarding proper addressing etiquette for couples in ...
A: No,in the case of the woman being a doctor,a military officer,a judge,office holder,etc. you simply ...
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| passengers | 7/8/2009 | Jay Remer |
Q: I have a four door car and I want to know if two men and one woman are the passengers where should ...
A: In most cases, I tend to invite the woman to sit up front. In a formal situation the 'best seat' is ...
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| Etiquette of goods distribution before/after death | 7/8/2009 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: What are the positives of earmarking or giving your goods away before you do? What would be the ...
A: This really isn't an etiquette question but I will see what I can do. The upside to gifting things ...
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| Graduation Gift Thank You | 7/8/2009 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: I have a question regarding gift-giving manners and timely thank you notes. My daughter recently had ...
A: When gifts are given to others, we naturally expect to receive a positive response as soon as ...
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| Gift after weekend away with friend and her family | 7/6/2009 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: I recently spent a fabulous weekend at my friends cabin. It is her family's cabin and her family was ...
A: The best gift you can give to the family (since they were all your hosts) would be a handwritten ...
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| going away party | 7/4/2009 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: I have a good friend that is leaving the state. He has been a big part of our community and very ...
A: While it is a wonderful idea to show this man and his family how much they will be missed,please ...
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| Graduation card w/money for daughter's boyfriend | 7/3/2009 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: Is it appropriate for my husband and I to give our daughter's boyfriend more than a card for high ...
A: If you and your husband wish to give him a gift (in any form) as a token of your esteem for ...
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| Common courtesy after having dinner out | 7/3/2009 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: If some out-of-town friends meet you at your home for a drink before dinner, then you all go out to ...
A: In days gone by a complete evening with others could well have included drinks at your house, dinner ...
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| 1st Birthday Gift question | 7/3/2009 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: Is there any polite way to ask for a contribution to FLORIDA PREPAID COLLEGE FUND in lue of toys and ...
A: Gifts of any kind should never be mentioned in an invitation. No one should be made to feel as if ...
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| 1st Birthday party | 7/3/2009 | Suzanne Zazulak Pedro |
Q: we have a bit of a situation and I am just wondering on what is the correct way to go about this. ...
A: You mention several points: one being a child's first party is very special. Second, it sounds like ...
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| appropriate gift | 7/3/2009 | Suzanne Zazulak Pedro |
Q: Just need 40th birthday gift ideas for new love interest. Thanks
A: You are wise in your careful approach to gift giving for a new love interest. Ideally, you would ...
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| strangers ask "having anymore kids?" | 7/2/2009 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: I have 5 boys ranging from the age of 9yrs to 9 months. I have received inquiries from strangers if ...
A: It sounds as if you are doing a fine job fending off inquires on your own! The tight smile that ...
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| Wedding Gift Verbal Thank You. | 7/1/2009 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: Is it appropriate for the Bride and Groom after receiving and opening a gift to give a verbal Thank ...
A: Verbal thank yous are (or should be) automatically given. However, since the gift was given during ...
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| Friend visits from out of state and parents dont send compensation for expenses | 7/1/2009 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: Recently I agreed to allow my 13 year olds' school mate (who recently moved out of state), to come ...
A: I am surprised that the child's parents did not think to provide for their child's basic care. ...
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| Gifted Twice | 7/1/2009 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: My brother graduated from high school this year, and he recently had a party. A relative gave my ...
A: The best thing to do is to call the relative who gifted twice and thank him for the generous gift ...
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| introductions | 7/1/2009 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: What is the proper way to introduce a couple, to a group of people, when the wife is a doctor? Are ...
A: Introductions are done separately since it important that each person's name is said in full. You ...
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| Very late wedding invitation | 6/30/2009 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: An old friend of mine is getting married. We have barely kept in touch over the years, and I would ...
A: You seem awfully quick to assign yourself the rejected loser role on this one. Are you sure that ...
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| Boyfriend's Birthday Dinner | 6/30/2009 | Jay Remer |
Q: My boyfriend of four months has asked me out for dinner with his family for his birthday. As far as ...
A: If your boyfriend invited you out to dinner, he must pay. Do not even offer. What you might do which ...
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| asking guests to bring food to a party | 6/30/2009 | Suzanne Zazulak Pedro |
Q: My husband and his siblings are throwing a retirement party for both his parents. It will be at a ...
A: In this economical climate, I fear that if you ask for retirement presents which those gifts cards ...
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| tomstone etiquette | 6/30/2009 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: our son was living with us at the time of his death.he was separated from his wife off and on for ...
A: Please put the wife's name on the marker if they have children. Not knowing the outcome of their ...
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| Noisy Neighbors | 6/28/2009 | Suzanne Zazulak Pedro |
Q: My neighbor has 3 young children who play outside all day. No matter what they are doing, it always ...
A: You know they say the fence is your best neighbor and sometimes "they" are right. I must admit you ...
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| What is right | 6/27/2009 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: We were invited to a birthday party for a woman in her late thirties. It is a party on a riverboat ...
A: A hostess never gives a party that she cannot afford. Especially not in honor of herself. Your ...
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| proper headstone punctuation for woman married twice | 6/26/2009 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: My Mother was married, divorced and then married again. I would like to put all of her names on the ...
A: You may (correctly) either have: Lydia(Thomas)Watson Doe or ...
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| historical etiquette | 6/26/2009 | Jay Remer |
Q: I am setting a historical 1859 table to celebrate my states sesquicentennial. I am not clear as to ...
A: That puts things at around 1859. Although not scarce, paper would not likely have been used for the ...
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| Commenting on people's weight | 6/25/2009 | Suzanne Zazulak Pedro |
Q: Is it ok to tell someone they have gained weight, look chubby, look full, etc...in family? My family ...
A: Etiquette is employed to make others feel comfortable both in their own skin and in unfamiliar ...
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| In-laws unannounced overnight stay | 6/24/2009 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: My in-laws contacted my husband and told him they were going to be coming through our city and would ...
A: This is an issue that you need to discuss with your husband first and get him to respect that you ...
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| Childs Dance Recital | 6/24/2009 | Suzanne Zazulak Pedro |
Q: I am going to my granddaughters first dance recital and she is 3 years old. Do I bring her a gift ? ...
A: Traditionally, a bouquet of flowers are presented to the dancers after the recital. However, since ...
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| Received flowers for helping out | 6/24/2009 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: Recently I did volunteer- received flowers from the manager. I am preparing a note to thanks for the ...
A: A note of thanks is always appropriate but when the gift is given as a thank-you for efforts you ...
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| Gift check | 6/24/2009 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: I've sent my nephew checks for birthdays and most recently his high school graduation, and was ...
A: If you meant for the child to have the money originally,stopping the check would not be the correct ...
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| Sales Home Etiquette | 6/23/2009 | Suzanne Zazulak Pedro |
Q: I work in sales and sometimes I am required to make home visits. In a few of the homes I visit my ...
A: It is true whether visiting another country or a guest in someone's house (whether domestic or ...
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| Priviate Invite Etiquette | 6/23/2009 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: I am having a 50th birthday party and can only invite a limited amount of guest. While I have many ...
A: People are going to hear about the party. Even if you swear every last one of the invited guests ...
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| Thank you...and follow up question. | 6/23/2009 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: My orginal question was about the rude lady taking my picture without my permission. I just wanted ...
A: When the two of you are sitting down, chatting about anything, bring up the subject. It could be ...
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| school home work | 6/23/2009 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: what shoud we do during school assembly 2.what should we do running tape water
A: We don't normally help with homework questions,but I think the answers are as follows: Be quiet and ...
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| Birthday card | 6/23/2009 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: I am friends with a couple who have birthdays very close to one another(only 4 days difference). Is ...
A: I know it is tempting to send one card that takes care of two birthdays but the individuals who ...
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| What card to send a terminally ill colleague? | 6/22/2009 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: A work colleague has recently been diagnosed with Lukemia. She has been off work for a couple of ...
A: A card that expresses your appreciation of her situation and encourages her to keep up her spirits ...
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| house warming party request | 6/22/2009 | Jay Remer |
Q: I would like to have a house warming party, where guests are not to bring house warming presents but ...
A: I must tell you that I have answered upwards of 600 questions on this site and this is far and away ...
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