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| Dr.-Patient good manners | 11/21/2009 | Jay Remer |
Q: This may be unusual, but here it is:My chiropractor, who is younger than I, said "If I were an OLDER ...
A: I have availed myself of the expertise of chiropractors for many years. It is no secret that as we ...
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| lutheran ministers | 11/20/2009 | Suzanne Zazulak Pedro |
Q: Being Catholic I am used to greeting our priests as "Father Joe" or "Father Sam". I have been asked ...
A: As, I am Catholic also, I have done a little research for you. It depends upon several things. It ...
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| Seeing my Father for first time in 27 years | 11/19/2009 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: I am seeing my Father for the first time in 27 years. We will be meeting face to face in a ...
A: Why do you need for your father to know this information? Is it a control issue? This is a ...
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| Christmas presents | 11/19/2009 | Suzanne Zazulak Pedro |
Q: My husband's mother passed away a few years ago. Since then, an older woman (a lonely and unplesant ...
A: please, may I first apologize in my delay for responding to your question. Usually, I check ...
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| overnight guest | 11/19/2009 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: Having to fly quite some distance at quite an expense to attend my neices wedding, my sister offered ...
A: You already know the answer. You did nothing wrong. This man is an abusive ass. I can't imagine how ...
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| jewish gay wedding | 11/19/2009 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: My brother is finally getting married (58 yrs old- a dynamic intellectual and awesome guy). They are ...
A: That sounds like it is going to be a great party. My only advice is to have fun. If you have gay ...
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| Dating | 11/19/2009 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: My sister was asked out at work by her bosses boss and wants to know what is the polite way to ...
A: Your sister should simply state that she keeps her personal life and her work life separate. That ...
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| deb ball - choosing a partner | 11/19/2009 | Suzanne Zazulak Pedro |
Q: my daughter is wanting to do her deb next year but is having trouble choosing a partner, well ...
A: Congratulations to you, your family and daughter to make her presentation. I notice before ...
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| co worker bereavement | 11/18/2009 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: A co-worker's nephew passed away on Monday and our company is sending flowers. Another coworker is ...
A: You are not obligated to contribute to anything at the office if you don't want to. When someone ...
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| tipping at a hotel | 11/18/2009 | William Hanson |
Q: This question is slightly off the subject of etiquette, but would appreciate an answer. I recently ...
A: It is customary to tip all porters and bell-boys who help you during your stay. If you don't wish ...
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| Various Questions | 11/17/2009 | Jay Remer |
Q: I have been thinking of several etiquette dilemmas recently and was wondering if you could please ...
A: It is indeed rude to sip whilst chewing. Try it in the mirror sometime and you'll soon see why. In ...
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| Protocol when referencing a judge in a speech | 11/17/2009 | Suzanne Zazulak Pedro |
Q: I will be giving an introductory speech at an event where I will be thanking supporters. One of the ...
A: May I first congratulate you upon you being selected to deliver the honorary introduction for the ...
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| Surprise Birthday Party | 11/17/2009 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: I am having a surprise birthday party for my boyfriend who is turning 40. I want to send out ...
A: While it is tacky to ask guests to pay for their food and beverage at an invited event, you are ...
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| Declining Play dates | 11/17/2009 | Suzanne Zazulak Pedro |
Q: My 3rd grade daughter keeps getting invited to a classmates home for a play date. They have visited ...
A: It does give me a clearer picture of the particular dynamics of your situation. From my perspective ...
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| Christmas Party | 11/17/2009 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: I am hosting a Christmas party at my home with family and close friends. In addition, some of my ...
A: I understand your anxiety,our professional lives and our work lives can't help but to become ...
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| child birthday | 11/17/2009 | Suzanne Zazulak Pedro |
Q: My 3 children are all born within 4 days of each other and I am planning on having one party for all ...
A: First, may I congratulate you for being an exceptional Mom and putting on a birthday party for all ...
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| Declining Play dates | 11/17/2009 | Suzanne Zazulak Pedro |
Q: My 3rd grade daughter keeps getting invited to a classmates home for a play date. They have visited ...
A: It sounds like your daughter is a social butterfly at her tender age. However, I think I might be ...
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| Wedding Gift for Hairdresser | 11/16/2009 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: My hairdresser is getting married around Christmas. I always give her a generous Christmas gift. ...
A: Whatever you want to give her and can afford is what is appropriate. I cannot give you a dollar ...
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| thank yous for cards | 11/16/2009 | Suzanne Zazulak Pedro |
Q: I have a quick question about the proper etiquette when you receive a card. Growing up, my mother ...
A: I must say that even though I have heard of past stories of proper etiquette requiring one to send a ...
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| Engagement/Wedding Invitations | 11/15/2009 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: My son and his finance announced their engagement 3 weeks ago. Now they are planning on sending out ...
A: An announcement is merely information. You send them to people who might be interested in learning ...
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| Dinning out with a group | 11/15/2009 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: One evening I (age 19) happened to be out with my boyfriend (age 18) when my mother called to invite ...
A: You did exactly the right thing in thanking the woman who actually paid the bill. If your Mom had ...
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| adoption | 11/15/2009 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: do you take a gift to an adoption open house. Is the gift for the parents or the child/childern?
A: Yes, a gift is appropriate and it should be for the child. It is a welcome to their family gift and ...
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| Guest Dress Code for Debutant Ball | 11/13/2009 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: My husband and I have been invited to a Debutant Ball, My husband is wearing a tukedo, what is the ...
A: It sounds as if the invitation said formal and your husband is right to wear a tuxedo. You need to ...
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| How to return an expensive present | 11/12/2009 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: I was recently given an expensive present by a friend/exboyfriend. It was a gift certificate for ...
A: It is rude to give back a gift you have been given - no matter your perception of its worth. When ...
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| Birthday Card Etiquette | 11/12/2009 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: My husband and I sent a birthday card to his mother. She cannot see very well and relies on her ...
A: Emery: I can imagine what your thoughts are about this situation and I believe we share them to some ...
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| Introduction | 11/11/2009 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: How should my boyfriend introduce me. We have been living 3 years together, are past our ...
A: There is no official way to introduce "live in honeys" by etiquette standards. That said, you ...
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| high school graduation monetary gifts | 11/10/2009 | Suzanne Zazulak Pedro |
Q: I'm a disabled mother of a high school senior, so I don't get out to socialize and ask questions of ...
A: First, may I congratulate you and your son on his success in his impending graduation from high ...
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| invitations to colleagues | 11/10/2009 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: I wonder if I'm being oversensitive. A new colleague (she joined 8 months ago) in our very small ...
A: Often when people choose to invite only the "professionals" in a firm to an event of significance it ...
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| Senior graduation announcements for twins | 11/10/2009 | Suzanne Zazulak Pedro |
Q: I have twin daughters who are both graduating from High School this Spring 2010. Virtually ALL ...
A: First, I must congratulate you and your daughters on their impending success graduating high school. ...
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| suspenders and belts | 11/9/2009 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: I am not overweight and do not need this to hold up my pants, but I like the look of wearing a belt ...
A: I am sorry that I didn't address the question head on for you. I will do so now. This is not an ...
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| Informal Family Gathering | 11/9/2009 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: A relative and myself were discussing about getting our family together at our cousins restaurant. ...
A: Don't be hard on yourself,this is much different than sending out engraved invitations and then ...
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| in law terror, Moving out.. | 11/8/2009 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: I have been living with my future in laws for nearly two years, across the country from my home.. ...
A: W.: I am so sorry that living with your fiance's parents has been so troubling. You are right to ...
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| Dinner Invites | 11/8/2009 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: My husband and I have noticed that we always do the inviting, including friends and family. We buy ...
A: First of all, you are not doing anything wrong - you are just more savvy than your friends. Many ...
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| Thanksgiving invites | 11/8/2009 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: My brother was recently married and now his wife's family is a part of ours. For Thanksgiving I ...
A: Your new sister-in-law should not have simply invited someone else to your Thanksgiving dinner. It ...
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| 50th birthday gift - money | 11/7/2009 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: My brother in law is throwing his wife a surprise 50th birthday party at a nice restaurant which he ...
A: What you give to your sister for her 50th birthday should be something that you think she will like ...
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| Protocol for Introductions | 11/7/2009 | Suzanne Zazulak Pedro |
Q: When making introductions of dignitaries at a formal event, can you share the order in which they ...
A: Kelly, Thank you for your inquiry for protocol introductions. One of "the" cardinal rules in ...
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| salutations | 11/6/2009 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: I really never know, when writing a 'thank you' note (or any note) to friends and family, whether to ...
A: The proper way to address an envelope for two people who are living together but not married is: ...
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| 1 year old gift registry | 11/5/2009 | William Hanson |
Q: Is it appropriate to do a gift registry for a 1 year old's birthday party? Or is it only acceptable ...
A: I think a gift registry for a one year old's birthday is slightly over the top. Whilst there is ...
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| 40th b-day invites | 11/4/2009 | Cynthia Lett |
Q: Is it ever ok to sell tickets to a 40th b-day celebration like they do for stag parties? My friend ...
A: I am sorry but it is never OK to ask people to pay for attending a function that they have been ...
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| NEW IMMIGRANT FIRST DAY AT OFFICE IN CANADA | 11/4/2009 | Jay Remer |
Q: My name is Sarah and i've just moved from Pakistan to Toronto. i got a job in downtown and will ...
A: I know how difficult that alone was in addition to speaking of your situation. My advice is to ...
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