AboutAmanda Gamble Expertise I will answer any etiquette question you`d care to ask!
I will be happy to give friendly non-judgmental advice on any situation.
If your question is rude,incoherent or demands I confirm your "victim" story,
I reserve the right to refuse to answer. Life is too short.
Certain cultures and customs are not part of my personal
experience,but I will research to get the needed answer.
Experience I have been writing a daily etiquette advice column for 6 years.
I have taught as well as given lectures on the subject.
Expert: Amanda Gamble Date: 5/16/2008 Subject: Getting Married
Question I am getting married in Aug 2008 and as I am currently working on the wedding invitations I would like to know how one would handled the following issue: My husband to me and myself live in a studio apartment and right don't have any plans to move for over a year... with that in mind our place is not big enough or have enough storage in it for large gifts like toasters and stuff like that. He is currently a student and I just started a job that does not pay that much how would we let the guest know that in lieu of large gives we would rather receive gift cards or cash so that we can use them for things we need as we start our lives together.
Answer Dear Myrna,
While I understand the problem you have,it is never appropriate
to mention gifts in any way on an invitation. No one should be made
to feel as if they must "pay for the privilege" of being a guest.
If you get presents,you may return them to the stores for cash
or credit to be used at a better time. After the thank you notes
are written,of course.
