AboutAmanda Gamble Expertise I will answer any etiquette question you`d care to ask!
I will be happy to give friendly non-judgmental advice on any situation.
If your question is rude,incoherent or demands I confirm your "victim" story,
I reserve the right to refuse to answer. Life is too short.
Certain cultures and customs are not part of my personal
experience,but I will research to get the needed answer.
Experience I have been writing a daily etiquette advice column for 6 years.
I have taught as well as given lectures on the subject.
Question Dear Amanda,
My daughter is a full time college student home for the summer. Her
boyfriend, a full-time out of state student has come for a visit. He has
relatives living about 45 minutes away, but because he and my daughter live
in different states the rest of the year, I previously consented to have him stay
with us. This visit, however, was an unannounced one following her return
from a study abroad. The problem is that they both are so involved with one
another that they are truly on vacation, particularly my daughter who does
not seem to understand that it is her responsibility to clean up after herself
and her guest. I've tried to talk to her about leaving the house in a shambles
because they are too busy running from activity to activity to wash a dish. The
conversation quickly turns into an argument. I've tried to put it in terms of
roommates. I am at my wits end. What can I say to her to get her to see how
inconsiderate she is being?
Answer Dear Tracy,
If you have spoken to her about her role and responsibilities
are towards the family and all she can do is argue with you,there
is really nothing that I can do for you.
The time to instill common courtesy and consideration for others
is long past. She is an adult and you cannot control her actions.
The only thing that you can do is refuse to let her stay under your
roof.
