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About Cynthia Lett
Expertise
Proper manners with friends,family,colleagues,neighbors and everyone else you know.
Experience
I have been an etiquette expert teaching and consulting on the subject worldwide since 1983. I started and run the International Society of Protocol & Etiquette Professionals and am considered a leader in the field. I edited "Etiquette for Dummies" and have recently written "Lett's Talk - Everyday Etiquette Dilemmas and What to Do about Them".
I taught the Business Protocol class to Master's level students at the George Washington University, Washington, DC.
Chief of Protocol for MCI Telecommunications.
Organizations
International Society of Protocol & Etiquette Professionals, ASTD, PCMA, National Speakers Association
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I have been quoted over 700 times in the past 5 years worldwide. Publications include Wall Street Journal, Washington Post, Washington Times, NY Times, Washington Business Journal, USA Today, Associated Press, London Times, Newsweek Japan edition, Newsweek US edition and many many more.
Education/Credentials
I am a Certified Etiquette Professional (CEP) and Certified Protocol Professional (CPP) earned by examination through ISPEP.
I have a Master's degree in hospitality law and undergrad degrees in Restaurant & Hotel Management and Public Relations/Interpersonal Communications from Purdue University.
Awards and Honors
Who's Who Worldwide,Who's Who of American Women, Distinguished Darden Professor (Purdue University).
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World Bank, United Nations,US Dept. of State, US. Dept. of the Army, Pentagon, Barclays Global Investors,Accenture,AT&T,Bank of America,American Association of Clinical Pharmacies,Ritz Carlton Hotels, Hilton Hotels, Marriott Hotels,Starwood Hotels,and many more.
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Expert: Cynthia Lett - 11/8/2009
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Dear Expert, I have been living with my future in laws for nearly two years, across the country from my home.. They can be very mean spirited, down putting, and caniving. My spirit suffers. I have been wanting to move out for a long time, but did not due to my fiancees legal problems. I am at my limit, and planning to leave in two weeks. I dont want to break his heart and I want him to come with me. I want him to understand that we may have to be apart for a month or so until he comes, but that I dont want to live here anymore, it is unhealthy. I refuse to keep living in a place with no jobs, and where i isolate myself from disrespectful people. How do I get him to move out?? Any input would be greatly appreciated, Thank you so much for your time and help.. sincerely. another person who cant stand their in laws with reason!
Answer
Dear A.W.:
I am so sorry that living with your fiance's parents has been so troubling. You are right to move out. Our lives are too short to put up with negative people in them. Your decision is positive but it seems that you are unsure about your fiance's commitment to you by moving out too. This requires a serious talk with him. If he is truly committed to you he will find a way to do what would make you feel most comfortable. If he takes his parents side, I venture to say that you will have a problem with him and them for as long as they live. Is that what you are ready for?
There is an apropos saying that comes to mind - "When my wife is happy, everyone is happy." This is true for fiances too.
I wish you well.
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