AboutSuzanne Zazulak Pedro Expertise Main discourse in all aspects of social, corporate, international diplomacy and children's etiquette and protocol. Suzanne is certified in corporate and children's etiquette, as well as, certification in professional coaching for executive, leadership and personal achievement.
Experience As a Behavior Shaping Specialist and Certified Protocol and Etiquette Consultant, Suzanne has pioneered the art of social finesse with valid psychological tenets to provide her clients with an unique approach to instruction in etiquette --Avant Garde Etiquette.
Research data shows that 15% of employment and corporate success is due to intelligence or training,while the other 85% is dealing with people successfully. Conversley,the essence of dealing with people succssfully is through exceptional communication skills.
Therefore, being adapt at non-verbal communication while practising the art of etiquette is rapid power-tool in establishing rapport and inducing compliance for success.
Target Success Seminars include:
The Psychology of the First Impression,
Oculesics: Keep YOur Eyes on the Prize,
Isopraxism: Mirroring for Love and Profit,
Spatial Anchoring: The Psychology of Body Placement
Disarming Your Opponent by his Handshake
What Your Dining Manners Reveal about Your Partner's Personality
Organizations ISPEP International Society of Protocol and Etiquette Professionals
IAPC International Association Professional Consultants
IAC International Association of Coaches
NWU National Writer's Union
ABA American Bar Association Associate Member
Publications "Executive Etiquette Power" co-authored and pusblished by Power Dynamics Publising to be release September 2009.
Montly Etiquette Columnist for several publications, as well as ezineexperauthor.com with downloads for on-line journals. Also, Suzanne has a series of children's international travel etiquette books slated for completion 2010.
Education/Credentials Bachelor of Arts in Psychology
Certified Corporate and Children's Etiquette and Protocol
Certified Professional Coach (CPC)
Certified Paralegal
Graduate Studies in Forensics, law
Awards and Honors Appointed as Chief Officer of Protocol for her town.
Cambridge Who's Who Among Business Professionals, Experts & Entrepeneurs Lifetime Member
USA Honor Society
Selected in 2004, as Queen Omega XVIII for Mardi Gras.
Past/Present Clients Since individual/corporate programs are designed for areas of deficiencies, their confidence is upheld in the stictest sense of confidentiality.
She has formed a non-profit organization, BeePoised, Inc., to reach-out and teach the children and adults who are not at an advantage to learn life social skills such as dining manners and job interviewing techniques.
Question Hi, we have a bit of a situation and I am just wondering on what is the correct way to go about this.
my niece is having her 1st Birthday Party. Her cousin will be 3, 2 days before hand. The mother of the baby turning 1 has planned on a party, let people know, buying all the food and drinks and wants it to be special. My mother in-law informed me that the parents of the 3 year old were going to celebrate her birthday at the same party. I was a bit shocked and asked if the 1 year olds mother new, I was told 'no'. I said that its a bit presumptuous to think that it would be ok. This child will turn 1 only once. I also said that I didn't think it was appropriate to ask if they could join in either because that puts pressure on the parents that are paying for the party and will make them feel uncomfortable. I also pointed out to my mother in law that the 1 year olds parents are aware of the cousins birthday being 2 days before hand and if they wanted to join them together they would of suggested it themselves.
My mother in law doesn't agree and thinks that they should work something out. I did tell her I would try to not say anything until the parents of the children had spoken, however because I felt so strongly about it all I ended up mentioning it to the 1 year olds mum. I wanted her to be able to give a thought felt answer rather than put on the spot and later regret saying it was ok. Mother in law is not happy with me, but that is fine.
The family of the 3 year old don't normally have parties for their children that all of the family are invited to - unless I am the only one not invited.
My question is - is it ok to ask a mother if you can join your child's birthday in with her child's 1st birthday.
Answer Dear Joyce:
Thank you for your inquiry regarding dualing children's birthday parties. You mention several points: one being a child's first party is very special. Second, it sounds like the 1 year old's party would be an ambush, not just a surprise.
I totally understand in-laws, and relatives think it is OK or take for granted their "family" relationship just because they are family.
I would wonder would the Mom of the 3 year old do they same thing to a friend or a colleague of hers - just without even the courtesy of asking to share a birthday event, just impose her child's birthday upon another? I tend to doubt it. People seem to have more concern and respect for "outsiders" than the true family.
My question to you is what are you going to do? I think it was necessary to alert the one year old's Mother, but at a risk of family members being peeved.
The next step is mending fences. If the 1 year-old Mom doesn't care, well life goes on. However, if this causes a rift between family, then a new approach needs to be found.
The best arrangement is a compromise. Say for the first hour or half of the party, all attention is on the one year old. Then the second hour or part is for the 3 year old. I also think expenses should be shared, as well as set-up and clean-up. It would not be fair for the Mom of the 1 year old to have all the responsibility, mess and expenses, and the second Mom share in only the glory.
I hope this puts a little light on the situation and finds that the parties and the children have a wonderful birthday!!
