Expert: Amanda Gamble - 7/9/2009

Question
Hi there,

A few days ago an envelope arrived addressed to both my wife and my eldest son. Their birthdays are two days apart and the envelope had BOTH cards in it. They were sent by my mother and I immediately took offense because in my opinion, it was bad manners (even downright rude!). Would you consider this to be rude or do you think I'm over-reacting?
Many thanks in advance and best regards,
Gavin

Answer
Dear Gavin,
 Instead of condemning your mother,applaud her! Most cards and letters
do not come close to exceeding the weight limit for first class mail.
So one stamp could (and apparently did) accommodate both cards in this
case.

  Have you ever heard the expression 'Take care of the pennies and the
dollars will take care of themselves'? Your mom is just being frugal.
Now,you may look at it as an insult if you wish,but this leaves her
more money now to take care of herself and not be a burden to her
children. Which is pretty thoughtful of her,actually.

  She cared enough to send her grandson and daughter-in-law birthday
greetings. I assume that she was sincere in sending along her good
wishes. Why not focus on that?

                             Best regards,
                               Amanda Gamble