Expert: Amanda Gamble - 7/4/2009

Question
Hello,  I have a good friend that is leaving the state.  He has been a big part of our community and very inspirational to the youth in our area for many years.  I would like to throw a party for him and his family so the community can show their appreciation.  I was wondering if it would be to wierd if I had some kind of money tree or gift table or donation jar to help them out on there relocation?  Please let me know if I should consider something like this.

Thank you, Jennifer

Answer
Dear Jennifer,
  While it is a wonderful idea to show this man and his family how
much they will be missed,please skip the money tree and donation jar.
No one should be made to pay for the privilege of being invited as a
guest or to feel (by seeing the jar) that they must.  

   Having a table set off to one side for any (unsolicited) gifts
and cards is not a bad idea. If this man is as important to the area
as you say he is,people will want to send him off with tokens of their
appreciation and affection. You just may not ask in advance.

                                Best regards,
                                   Amanda Gamble