AboutAmanda Gamble Expertise I will answer any etiquette question you`d care to ask!
I will be happy to give friendly non-judgmental advice on any situation.
If your question is rude,incoherent or demands I confirm your "victim" story,
I reserve the right to refuse to answer. Life is too short.
Certain cultures and customs are not part of my personal
experience,but I will research to get the needed answer.
Time specific questions may or may not get answered by your deadline.
Experience I have been writing a daily etiquette advice column for 8 years.
I have taught as well as given lectures on the subject.
Question I have 5 boys ranging from the age of 9yrs to 9 months. I have received inquiries from strangers if we will be "trying for a girl" next time since my second was born. As you can imagine it's getting a bit old. Sometimes I answer with a chuckle and "we'll see." Sometimes I answer truthfully "I really don't know if we'll be having anymore" or "I don't think so". I usually am kind in my responses, and I don't want to be snarky or rude, but I am tired of sharing with strangers my reproductive plans. Is there a sweet but firm way to answer without answering? and perhaps indicate I don't want to pursue the subject?
Answer Dear Amelia,
It sounds as if you are doing a fine job fending off inquires on
your own! The tight smile that doesn't quite reach the eyes followed
by "We'll see" or "We will make an announcement if and when..." should
do the trick for shutting down the inquiry at hand. However,the problem
is that it's a new audience of clueless people each time. How you combat
ignorance at large I cannot say.
As for the 'trying for a girl' nonsense,say only "We are delighted
with what nature chose for us,thank you."
