AboutSuzanne Zazulak Pedro Expertise Main discourse in all aspects of social, corporate, international diplomacy and children's etiquette and protocol. Suzanne is certified in corporate and children's etiquette, as well as, certification in professional coaching for executive, leadership and personal achievement.
Experience As a Behavior Shaping Specialist and Certified Protocol and Etiquette Consultant, Suzanne has pioneered the art of social finesse with valid psychological tenets to provide her clients with an unique approach to instruction in etiquette --Avant Garde Etiquette.
Research data shows that 15% of employment and corporate success is due to intelligence or training,while the other 85% is dealing with people successfully. Conversley,the essence of dealing with people succssfully is through exceptional communication skills.
Therefore, being adapt at non-verbal communication while practising the art of etiquette is rapid power-tool in establishing rapport and inducing compliance for success.
Target Success Seminars include:
The Psychology of the First Impression,
Oculesics: Keep YOur Eyes on the Prize,
Isopraxism: Mirroring for Love and Profit,
Spatial Anchoring: The Psychology of Body Placement
Disarming Your Opponent by his Handshake
What Your Dining Manners Reveal about Your Partner's Personality
Organizations ISPEP International Society of Protocol and Etiquette Professionals
IAPC International Association Professional Consultants
IAC International Association of Coaches
NWU National Writer's Union
ABA American Bar Association Associate Member
Publications "Executive Etiquette Power"
Monthly Etiquette Columnist for several publications, as well as ezineexperauthor.com with downloads for on-line journals. Also, Suzanne has a series of children's international travel etiquette books slated for completion 2010.
Education/Credentials Bachelor of Arts in Psychology
Certified Corporate and Children's Etiquette and Protocol
Certified Professional Coach (CPC)
Certified Paralegal
Graduate Studies in Forensics, law
Awards and Honors Appointed as Chief Officer of Protocol for her town.
Cambridge Who's Who Among Business Professionals, Experts & Entrepeneurs Lifetime Member
USA Honor Society
Selected in 2004, as Queen Omega XVIII for Mardi Gras.
Past/Present Clients Since individual/corporate programs are designed for areas of deficiencies, their confidence is upheld in the stictest sense of confidentiality.
She has formed a non-profit organization, BeePoised, Inc., to reach-out and teach the children and adults who are not at an advantage to learn life social skills such as dining manners and job interviewing techniques.
Question My mother gave my daughter $1,000.00 for her wedding 14 years ago. 2 years ago when her other granddaughter was getting married I asked her if she was able to do the same for her as she did for my daughter and her response was "That was 12 years ago, that is NOTHING today". (Her exact words) And she gave her $2,500.00. Well 2 months ago my son got married and she gave him $1,000.00. Although my son is not showing that he is upset, I AM. I finally questioned her how she could do for 1 grandchild so differently than the other and she told me, that it was none of my business. After she had time to think, she started coming up with alot of answers that were truly untrue. Was I wrong to ask her this. I feel that she has made my children feel that they have had to compete, and I do not like it. Was I wrong to defend my SON?
Answer Dear Jane:
Thank you for your inquiry regarding gift-giving etiquette. You have given me a perplexing question when it comes to answering etiquette questions for "in the familial(family relationships.) The reason why I say this is that what maybe entirely inappropriate in a business or social relationship, may not be regarded in the same way when it comes down to family.
I think you know what I mean. For instance, yes, if this would have been anyone else, the gift-giver, and not the grandmother, questioning the amount of the gifts to different children would have been inappropriate.
However, since there is a deeper relationship(family), hurt or bruised feelings are much harder to ignore and put aside. Curiosity and the need to find out the "whys" of the different amount the different children received, I would say in THIS case is only natural.
There could have been a multitude of reasons given why one child received more than the other, however,while each child is an individual and unique, not to treat them on an equal plane could result foreseeable in some of the children's feelings hurt(not to mention you.)
Then again, what sort of shape is the Grandmother? I mean if she is getting forgetful or heavily medicated and in a condition where she might not have know what she was doing at the time, then the family would have to understand, Granny is not like the Grandmother of the days past.
When you called her out on this, she might have forgotten and became defensive for the fact that she did not want you to know her mental status of decline. You see there are so many different factors that I do not or may never know that could I have all the facts, I might have given a totally different response.
I tried to answer you question with general implications of "what ifs" hoping to illuminate your particular query. However, if you feel like I should have additional information, please feel free to do a follow-up and I will be happy to continue our chat. Until then, I remain
