Social Etiquette and Good Manners/business etiquette


I resigned from a contract position that I had been at for 6 months. A person that I had been working closely with, sort of a supervisor, asked me what company I was going to. I did not feel comfortable with this question and said "I would rather not say". Was there something else I could have said as she seemed offended.

Dear Rosalie:
It is always difficult leaving a contracted position that has been long term because of the relationships that have been forged.  Perhaps your supervisor asked so that she could keep in touch for the future?  Perhaps not, but in the free-lance world it is always a good idea to keep your clients informed of what is going with you.  A better retort might have been something like, "I'll tell you what... when I get settled I will email or call you with my current contact information. I appreciate the opportunity I had here to work with you and look forward to staying in touch."
Whether or not you follow through is your decision of course, although I highly recommend it.  Even people you think wouldn't be able to help you in your career goals know people and talk. The more civil you are the more apt you are to receive referrals and compliments to others on your behalf.

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Cynthia W. Lett


Proper manners with friends,family,colleagues,neighbors and everyone else you know.


I have been an etiquette expert teaching and consulting on the subject worldwide since 1983. I started and serve as the Executive Director of the International Society of Protocol & Etiquette Professionals and am considered a leader in the field of etiquette and protocol training and execution. I edited "Etiquette for Dummies" and have recently written "Lett's Talk - Everyday Etiquette Dilemmas and What to Do about Them". My book, "That's So Annoying:An Etiquette Expert on the World's Most Irritating Habits And What To Do About Them" was published in 2009 and is available wherever books are sold. I taught the Business Protocol class to Master's level students at the George Washington University, Washington, DC for seven years I served as Chief of Protocol for MCI Telecommunications for three years.

International Society of Protocol & Etiquette Professionals, ASTD, PCMA, National Speakers Association

I have been quoted over 700 times in the past 5 years worldwide. Publications include Wall Street Journal, Washington Post, Washington Times, NY Times, Washington Business Journal, USA Today, Associated Press, London Times, Newsweek Japan edition, Newsweek US edition and many many more.

I am a Certified Etiquette Professional (CEP) and Certified Protocol Professional (CPP) earned by examination through ISPEP. I have a Master's degree in hospitality law and undergrad degrees in Restaurant & Hotel Management and Public Relations/Interpersonal Communications from Purdue University.

Awards and Honors
Who's Who Worldwide,Who's Who of American Women, Distinguished Darden Professor (Purdue University).

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