Social Etiquette and Good Manners/Declining a Christmas gift
My son has been dating a gal (Brenda) for 6 years. They both live 2500 Kim's away from me. I have met my son's girlfriend once in 2011.
This Xmas my son flew out to visit my husband and me. He brought along a gift from his girlfriend to us and also presented us with a $100 gift voucher from Brenda's mother.
We have never met the mother and do not want the gift card. Can we return it to her with a kind note. We don't know how to ask my son's girlfriend to stop buying us gifts either. As mentioned my son is dating, not living with Brenda.
I can understand your reticence, but encourage you to reconsider your thoughts. Relationships can be complicated emotionally and mentally and as long as we consider the intentions of bearer of gifts to be appropriate, showing gratitude is the best route to take. You are not obliged to return the favor with a gift in kind, but a hand written thank you note is in order. If you don't want or cannot use the gift certificate, regift to someone who can. I am not suggesting that this is going to be comfortable for you initially, but it is the right things to do, and will grow on you. I hope this helps, Jay