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Dear Cynthia, my question: holding the water glass with all fingers on the stem or not. Of course there are different shape glasses. Also the little finger should be off from the stem on any glasses (wine, champagne, etc.)
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Dear  Istvan:
Thank you for question.  The proper way to hold a glass is pretty much the same. No matter what style.
Putting your pinkies in the air is considered affected behavior and  silly- not proper etiquette.
A white wine glass is held with three or four fingers curled around the stem. The red wine glass is held with the whole hand around the bowl. Water tumblers are held the same way-.the whole hand for stability.  If the glass has stem and ice in the glass - hold it by the stem with three, four or all five fingers. It depends upon the fill and weight of the glass. Use your common sense to hold the glass safely.

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Cynthia W. Lett


Proper manners with friends,family,colleagues,neighbors and everyone else you know.


I have been an etiquette expert teaching and consulting on the subject worldwide since 1983. I started and serve as the Executive Director of the International Society of Protocol & Etiquette Professionals and am considered a leader in the field of etiquette and protocol training and execution. I edited "Etiquette for Dummies" and have recently written "Lett's Talk - Everyday Etiquette Dilemmas and What to Do about Them". My book, "That's So Annoying:An Etiquette Expert on the World's Most Irritating Habits And What To Do About Them" was published in 2009 and is available wherever books are sold. I taught the Business Protocol class to Master's level students at the George Washington University, Washington, DC for seven years I served as Chief of Protocol for MCI Telecommunications for three years.

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