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Social Etiquette and Good Manners/Commenting About Someone's Relationship


Recently I ran into a former classmate from college that I hadn't seen in years.  She was very friendly.  During our conversation, she kept mentioning that she was excited because she was moving in with her boyfriend.

I strongly disapprove of cohabitation for moral reasons.  I think that she expected me to say "congratulations" or "that's wonderful" or something like that, but I just could never do that.  However, I would never tell her my beliefs.  I know that would be inappropriate.

I would greatly appreciate your advice on how I could have properly responded.  Thank you.

You did exactly the right thing.  You were polite, you kept your opinion to yourself and by not mentioning your thoughts on how wrong you thought she was, you were exactly correct without giving the false impression of approval in any way.  You handled yourself beautifully without creating a conflict in the best possible way.  This is the best example of "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all." that I have ever read.  I'm very proud of you!  

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Teri Davis Newman


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