Social Etiquette and Good Manners/Hand Shake or Hug



There is a young female, 22 years old, who will be resigning from her job. We currently work together. Usually when someone resigns, he/she is given a comment for a job will done and best wishes to his/her future plans, etc. followed by a hand shake or hug.

Is it appropriate to extend a hand first or to extend both arms to hug the girl, or should she make the first move by extending her hand or arms for a hug?

I thank you for your reply.

Arm and Hand shake
Arm and Hand shake  

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Hand Hugs  
Thank you Kenneth for your question.  Unless there is a long term, close friendship between the parties it would be best to offer a hand shake.  A warmer jester would be to place your left hand on her upper arm while shaking hands or use both hands during the shake.  Images attached.

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Constance Hoffman


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