Social Etiquette and Good Manners/Serving etiquette


Hi! I hope you could kindly enlighten me on serving etiquette. I have helpers at home (maids) and they are the ones who place and remove the serving dishes from the dining table. I just wanted to know if it's alright for them to place the trays on the table before they put/remove the serving dishes? Sometimes the platter requires two hands, especially if it's big or heavy. This situation is not in a formal setting though, it's pretty informal and casual.

Just wondering if this is acceptable for them to do because sometimes we have guests over and we just want to entertain properly. Thanks so much!

Dear CRS:

Your helpers should not be placing the serving trays on the table while guests are present.   Should the platter be heavy, one can place on a wheeled cart or on a side table or sideboard.  Another idea is for one to hold while the other helper loads the tray lightly.  These suggestion are for casual and formal dining.

Social Etiquette and Good Manners

All Answers

Answers by Expert:

Ask Experts


Constance Hoffman


As a professional etiquette coach and trainer, I am able to assist with any and all of your questions pertaining to social and business skills, party manner, appearance, communication both verbal and written, tipping, email manners and social media, and of course entertaining and dining etiquette.


As owner of Social and Business Graces, I have been teaching children and adults for over 15 years.

Owner of Social and Business Graces

Owner, teacher, coach and author of "Tips on Tipping".

©2017 All rights reserved.