About Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). Expertise As an author, educator, newspaper columnist and trainer in the field of manners and etiquette, I am able to answer questions on every aspect of social etiquette and good manners. I cover adult and children`s manners,introductions, dining skills, verbal and written communication (including e-mail, cell phone and regular telephone etiquette), tipping, weddings, travel, births, death and funerals, proper attire for every occasion, office etiquette, invitations, entertaining, the roles of a host and a guest, thank you notes, family life, interviews, gift-giving, graduations, good grooming, disabled persons, hotels,school manners, good sportsmanship,respect, manners in public places( the theater, movies, church, shopping, restaurants, etc.), being a good neighbor, and being considerate of others.
Experience I am the originator of national Children's Good Manners Month (September) and founder of The Good Manners Club. My school program "Manners Do Matter" is used successfully throughout the United States.
I teach manners and etiquette at the University of Connecticut, Central Connecticut State University, United Technologies Corporation, Cigna Corporation and The Archdiocese of Hartford Catholic Schools.
I wrote and recorded my Dr. Manners' Moments for Radio Disney, which aired for nearly two years. I was a regular contributor on WVIT-TV NBC30 during 2002 and 2003. I was a regular etiquette expert on WTIC (Radio)for nearly 3 years. I have been interviewed by radio stations, television stations, newspapers and other publications around the world. I recently appeared in an episode of the television show Survival Guide, on the Fine Living Network on Personal Etiquette and am a consultant for the Network. I was asked to write an article for The New York Times on Manners and Etiquette for the Summer, which was published on Sunday, May 16, 2004.
I have visited dozens of schools, public and private; worked with The Girl Scouts; various community groups (including Chambers of Commerce and Senior Citizen Groups); church groups,and more.
I am a former elementary school principal and a former elementary school teacher.
Additionally, I have authored several books and booklets on manners and etiquette.
I have been a manners advice newspaper columnist for nine years.
My education includes:
Ph.D. in Education, LaSalle University;
Administrator Certification, Sacred Heart University;
Teacher Certification, Central Connecticut State University;
B.A. in English, Nazareth College of Rochester;
Etiquette Consultant Certification
Expert: Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). - 8/6/2004
Question I would like to know the proper way to address a card to 2 doctors (husband and wife) .
this is of a personal nature- a congratulatory card on the arrival of a new baby.
She goes by her maiden name.
Still, I think it should be addressed: Dr. & Mrs.
What is your opinion?
Answer Dear Ms. Fuller,
The proper way to address the card, especially since the wife uses her maiden name, would be:
Dr. Mary Jones and Dr. John Smith (length necessitates abbreviating Doctor)
Street Address
City, State Zipcode
If the wife did not use her maiden name it would be:
Doctors Mary and John Smith.
When both are doctors, the wife's name is always used first.
If the wife is the only doctor, her name is still written first, i.e. Dr. Mary Jones and Mr. John Smith.
If the husband is the doctor, then his name is first, i.e.
Doctor (Dr.) and Mrs. John Smith or Dr. John Smith and
Ms. Mary Jones.
Thank you for writing.
Best regards,
Fleming Allaire, Ph.D.
"Dr. Manners"
