Expert: Amanda Gamble - 10/14/2006

Question
Please let me know what is the proper etiquette
for gift giving.  Our friend's daughter is celebrating her Bat Mitzvah.  My husband and I are invited to the ceremony and party.  What types of gifts are customary and what is the recommended amount to spend on this gift?

Answer
Dear Allison,
No guest has to 'pay for the privilege' of being invited
to a celebration.

Presents should be given with your bank account as well
as your level of affection for the person in mind.

There is no 'customary' gift for you to give  
appropriately. Her family will take care of the presents
that are significant to their faith.

13 is an age where she wants everything and needs nothing.
I would be tempted to get her a savings bond that will
mature in the future or a nice piece of jewelry that she
can wear into (genuine) adulthood.

                                    Best regards,
                                      Amanda Gamble