AboutAmanda Gamble Expertise I will answer any etiquette question you`d care to ask!
I will be happy to give friendly non-judgmental advice on any situation.
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Experience I have been writing a daily etiquette advice column for 8 years.
I have taught as well as given lectures on the subject.
A couple from a club I go to invited me over to their place for tea and I spent an enjoyable two hours with them chatting this afternoon. We're not close friends, just good acquaintances. I think I made a couple of etiquette no no's and like your advice so I can behave differently in the future.
1) We discussed world affairs and the host mentioned the house of 'sword' (i.e. the Saudi Arabian royal family.) I corrected her pronunciation of it (which I'm now not 100% sure of), saw she was a bit perplexed, then made an embarassed speech about how I wasn't correcting her but just wanted to make sure we were talking about the same thing.
2) I spent time glancing at a book during the conversations and noticed the host fleetingly furrowed his eyebrows at me.
Did I cross any etiquette boundaries? Any feedback welcomed. Many thanks.
Regards,
Usuff
Answer Dear Usuff,
It is wrong to correct people's grammar or the way they
pronounce a word. However,as you said,you did so out of
confusion,to verify that you were indeed speaking of the
same thing. So there is no fault there. Think of the
intention behind it,were you trying to embarass her? No!
As for glancing at the book,you don't really talk about
the circumstances. Was it a book that was pointed out to
you as part of a conversation? Did you just pick it up as
if you were bored by the host's failure to keep you engaged
and entertained? The first is not a problem,the second can
be construed as being terribly rude.
I wouldn't worry about it too much though. It sounds as
if the visit overall was a success. Next time you see one
or the other of them I would thank them again for having
you over and mention what a good time you had. That should
lay to rest any questions (if ANY) they may have about your
ability to be a good guest.
Best regards,
Amanda Gamble
