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Social Etiquette and Good Manners/Questions Answered by Expert Suzanne Zazulak Pedro

SubjectDate Asked
Was This Eulogy Inappropriate3/25/2012
  Q: I work in Information Technology at a university. Our department and the library are presently ...
  A: John, I actually had to go back and reread to make sure that this was an eulogy commerative speech. ...
Terminal Illness/Death3/21/2012
  Q: My father is gravely ill and all of the children are making plans to have the one last visit. I am ...
  A: First, I wish to express my deep feelings for you and your family's suffering. I think that if there ...
Death of a current board member3/8/2012
  Q: Our organization just lost a truly loved and respected board member to cancer. We do not want to ...
  A: I am not sure if he had a position of title, you may award him any title and such as Our ...
Ordering more alcohol then paying host3/4/2012
  Q: my question is My Dad, Stepmother and myself all ordered 1 bloody Mary my friend ordered a expensive ...
  A: Sorry for the delayed response, but my husband was admitted in an emergency situation this past ...
Is it rude for someone to ask a gift back?2/14/2012
  Q: My sister-in-law passed down her kid's things to us about 2 years ago. Some furniture; car seats; ...
  A: Somehow I just received this inquiry. I am not sure if it is recent because on my other e-mail, if ...
revert to maiden name for headstone2/12/2012
  Q: I am writing instructions for my children to explain that I want to revert to my maiden name for ...
  A: I don't know how I missed this email. I do apologize, however, I am not privy to the legalities or ...
2 weeks to live1/25/2012
  Q: A former employee has recently been diagnosed with lung cancer and given two weeks to live. What is ...
  A: I am sorry to hear about your colleague's critical condition. You did mention former employee, ...
Witnessing Friend's Parental Discipline12/24/2011
  Q: My question has to do with parental discipline, specifically witnessing a friend using physical ...
  A: I do apologize for the slight holiday delay, but in regard to your question about parental ...
Celebration Weekend?10/10/2011
  Q: A couple years from now, within a couple weeks time frame, my son will achieve his eagle scout, I ...
  A: Congratulations to you and your family for these milestones. I must admit, you have a splendid ...
Corporate Etiquette, re: clothing9/27/2011
  Q: I had received some wonderful advice from this forum before, so hopefully I can get some more ...
  A: I would be happy to outline the details, but I have recently had yet another sudden death in my ...
Birthday invitation9/27/2011
  Q: I am having a birthday celebration for a close friend. One of the guests has asked if she can bring ...
  A: I am sorry for the delay but I had yet another unexpected death in the family. To answer your ...
Highly Offensive CoWorkers9/10/2011
  Q: I work in a supposed "professional" office...which is anything but. There are several highly ...
  A: It sounds like you are definitely out of your element. If you can not appeal to their proper ...
Fundraising for benefit8/7/2011
  Q: Should there be a third party person keeping up with funds for donations and fundraising to help a ...
  A: For the sake of appearances and to make sure there is no impropriety or financial malfeasance, it ...
Obituary Etiquette8/5/2011
  Q: I hope you can help me with this touchy situation. My father owned a trucking business for many ...
  A: First, I wish to thank you for your inquiry, second, I wish to extend my condolences to you and your ...
Help with Grandmother/Cousin7/26/2011
  Q: I will try to give as much information as possible. The problem I'm writing about began when I went ...
  A: First, thank you for your inquiry and giving me the necessary facts of the situation. I had to ...
Social Function Etiquette7/22/2011
  Q: If you are having a conversation, at a bar lets say, with your significant other, and their coworker ...
  A: First, may I thank you for your inquiry. Second, I do know what you were feeling and empathize with ...
Conflict of a wedding to attend on same day as my 60th birthday celebration.7/22/2011
  Q: My 60th birthday falls on the same day as a very close friends wedding. The wedding hall only had ...
  A: Basically, what you have here is a priority conflict. On one hand, you, yourself have a very ...
expensive gift from close family, some way to tell them not to waste their money?7/13/2011
  Q: My sister gave me some mugs that I thanked her for, of course. Then a couple of months later, she ...
  A: Usually, I like to say honesty is the best policy but if you are not comfortable in stating that is ...
Headstone edicate7/11/2011
  Q: There is a antique cemetery on our block (actually on the corner of my parcel). And since the Boys ...
  A: You would need to find out if there is a caretaker or whose authority is it under such as the city, ...
Headstone name7/9/2011
  Q: What surname for a deceased woman who has been widowed 3 times does one put on the headstone of the ...
  A: Most times, when you divorce, you revert to your maiden name and when you remarry you assume your ...
visitors w/o a common language7/9/2011
  Q: I'm expecting Italian guests for a weekend next month.Their daughter and my son are considering ...
  A: First, I think that is a wonderful idea to have a translator at least for some of the duration of ...
Headstone Protocol7/7/2011
  Q: What surname for a deceased woman who has been widowed 3 times does one put on the headstone of the ...
  A: Karen, for some reason, I have an email stating you never received an answer from me. So I will ...
When walking with a group of women6/29/2011
  Q: I am the lone male in an office staffed almost exclusively by women (I'm talking 55 women to 5 men ...
  A: It is wonderful that you have ingrained from your southern heritage your gentlemanly manners. I ...
Thank you gifts for 25th Anniversary party6/21/2011
  Q: Several people hosted a surprise party for us and we would like to thank them with more than just a ...
  A: First, let me apologize for my delayed response but my Mother just suddenly died and my world has ...
Gift for Artist whose subject is son3/6/2011
  Q: What gift to do I bring to an old family friend who has his first art exhibit, where one of his ...
  A: How fabulous that a good family member has his first art exhibit open with a picture of your son. ...
Husband's College Graduation annuoncements2/21/2011
  Q: My husband is graduating from a university in May. We decided I would make the announcements since ...
  A: Please accept my apology. Anyway, congratulations to your husband for his benchmark day. ...
HAND SHAKE2/14/2011
  Q: When a male approaches a mixed gender group, does he shake hands with the senior male person first?
  A: If this is in a business situation where it is genderless, as with introductions, the senior person ...
wearing of a hat2/2/2011
  Q: When should a hat be removed?
  A: however, are you referring to a lady? A man? Specifically, what type of hat such as a baseball ...
Re: Mardi Gras Maid Announcement Etiquette1/31/2011
  Q: My stepdaughter will be a maid in a ball this year. Her father for 12 years of her life; she will ...
  A: Traditionally, even with wedding/ engagement announcements,couples have very little control over the ...
addressing female married to a doctor1/14/2011
  Q: Can I (and how?) address a married doctor and his wife and include her first name as well as his. ...
  A: The correct usage is Dr. And Mrs. John Smith not the usage of her first name since they are being ...
baby shower1/8/2011
  Q: I am pregnant with my second baby and a family friend has offered to host a baby shower for me, if i ...
  A: Congratulations on the impending birth on your second child. I must say you have a very nice friend ...
Door Etiquette1/4/2011
  Q: Could I check with you which is correct manners for those entering a doorway - does the person ...
  A: Who ever approaches regardless of whether exiting or entering first, has the right of way. It ...
obituary question12/28/2010
  Q: My brother-in-law passed away today-he is preceeded in death by a wife of several years of which he ...
  A: but I give my condolences for your brother-in-law's passing. I must also apologize for the delayed ...
shaking/waving one's hand at the addressee12/22/2010
  Q: Am I some how warped, or does the rest of the world also consider it rude to be shaking/waving one's ...
  A: I am not sure what the rest of the world considers rude when it comes to shaking someone's hand ...
Step Grandchildren12/21/2010
  Q: My cousin is married and has 2 sons from a previous marriage, one daughter with her husband, and one ...
  A: Whether it is a Christmas card or birthday card, traditionally the signing chain of command would be ...
Thank you notes12/20/2010
  Q: My sister hosted an open house type of Christmas gathering. She kindly asked people not to bring ...
  A: Traditionally, a host or hostess gift is a gift of thoughtfulness and appreciation of the work the ...
wine12/13/2010
  Q: We just had our Annual Xmas Party yesterday. We supply everything. Some guests brought wine as a ...
  A: I received this e-mail regarding your question. I am sorry that I did not receive it in a timely ...
Welcoming our guests from India12/12/2010
  Q: I would appreciate any and all help and suggestions. Our daughter married a man originally from ...
  A: You are very astute in realizing that there is a chism of difference between our two cultures. I ...
invitation to Christmas party with husbands ex-wife12/7/2010
  Q: Is it proper to invite brother in law and his wife and his ex-wife to Christmas so to benefit the ...
  A: I bet your brother and sister-in-law have no clue to your adamant disapproval position of the ...
step great grand children12/2/2010
  Q: writing memorial message about my dad for moms xmas cards {no obit in news)do I include sisters 2nd ...
  A: First may I extend my apologies for the delay, I had not only a family emergency that included a ...
facial expressions when conversing12/1/2010
  Q: When one has had to disagree with one's partner in conversation, or to give evidence for one's own ...
  A: First, I need to extend a sincere apology for my slight delay. I had an extreme family emergency. ...
facial expressions when conversing12/1/2010
  Q: is it permissible to smile?
  A: Yes, smiling is an important in establishing rapport with others. In fact, in customer relations ...
Canceling office football party11/18/2010
  Q: We planned to have approximately 40 customers to our office for an football tailgate party on ...
  A: Since this is a marketing event, a poor representation not to mention the cost will not be ...
Invitation Response Etiquette11/10/2010
  Q: I have received an invitation that simply says "At Home" - Champagne, Cottage Pie and Choir 6.30pm. ...
  A: It sounds like you have been invited to a unique party. Basically, "At Home" is similar to in the ...
Tipping11/9/2010
  Q: I often have people ask, " What do you tip your hair stylists?" My response is always, "nothing", ...
  A: I am amazed that someone classifies hairstylist as a professional occupation. It is still ...
Husbands retirement party/cash bar11/5/2010
  Q: Is it acceptable to put "cash bar" on the invitations for my husbands retirement party? We are ...
  A: In this economic climate, I do think it would be better for you to advise your guests prior to their ...
writing formal acceptance11/3/2010
  Q: I received a formal invitation, addressed to my husband and I, in the mail. It is from an ...
  A: If I understand you, this is not a RSVP card, but a request that your formally accept or decline - ...
Restaurant Lunch / Dinner Invitation10/11/2010
  Q: I am planning either a lunch or dinner in the private dining room of a favorite restaurant for my ...
  A: What a lovely idea and special event for your Mother's 85th Birthday. Traditionally, proper ...
Sweet Sixteen Escort9/22/2010
  Q: My daughter has been asked to be one of the escorts for her friend's Sweet Sixteen Party. My ...
  A: I have some questions that need answered to help me assist you accordingly. For instance, in your ...
etiquette9/19/2010
  Q: If a man and his woman are entering a restaurnt and other people are also entering whom should he ...
  A: The gentleman should step aside an open and hold door only if other approach at same time. Let the ...
Headstone Etiquette9/13/2010
  Q: My mother preceded my father in death and is cremated. My father is now very ill and wants to be ...
  A: Kathleen, Thank you for your inquiry regarding headstone protocol.Also, I am sorry to hear about ...
envelope addressing for clergy9/9/2010
  Q: How do I address a formal wedding invitation to a Methodist minister who is also a Ph.D? it will be ...
  A: Michelle, Thank you for your inquiry regarding honorific protocol Formally, the wedding ...
50th wedding anniversary9/6/2010
  Q: what is the proper money amount or gift for the 50th wedding anniversary we are good friends of the ...
  A: Actually, the both the traditional and modern 50th Wedding Anniversary gift is Gold. There are many ...
Birthday party for 4 boys in the same class9/5/2010
  Q: Four of the kids in my son's daycare class are hosting a joint birthday party. They all turn 4 ...
  A: I do see the problem that poses as you have four boys with the same friends which technically a ...
Recognizing special events in the workplace8/31/2010
  Q: and thank you for your time. I manage the "Sunshine Committee" at our school. Whenever there is a ...
  A: I think that is a wonderful idea that you and your Sunshine Committee participates in for the ...
Neighbor's child invites self over8/25/2010
  Q: I live in an upstairs/downstairs duplex. I have a four year old and there is a five year old living ...
  A: It seems that the parents do not reign their child in or to respect other's privacy. Does this child ...
addressing the doctor's wife8/24/2010
  Q: Can the wife of a doctor be called "Mrs. Dr. Scott Jones"??
  A: It is not appropriate if one does not hold a medical degree or a Ph.D., to be addressed as such. ...
Leaving name out of obituary8/24/2010
  Q: My husband is very angry! We own a beautiful, spacious home that I offered to my cousin, with my ...
  A: However, first Phyllis, I would like to extend my condolences to you and your family regarding the ...
Written correspondence8/22/2010
  Q: I would like to ask your opinion on writing personal notes. I have some personalized fold over cards ...
  A: There are formal dictates for your stationary wardrobe. Proper etiquette dictates that you never ...
MOH fired8/18/2010
  Q: Well the time finally arrived. The Bride called my daughter tonight and told her she would not be ...
  A: I am so glad to hear the news about "Carter." You know allot about people in the way they care ...
Attending oath of office ceremony for district judge8/16/2010
  Q: Would you please tell me the proper protocol for attending the oath of office ceremony for a ...
  A: I apologize for the delay in transmission. The ceremony is of honor and respect. You should dress ...
Proper protocol for departures in relationships8/8/2010
  Q: Please forgive me if this seems trivial, but after 3 years, this issue is really grinding at me. ...
  A: Even though you and your boyfriend have conflicting background issues, there is no reason not to ...
she wants my stuff7/27/2010
  Q: I have a friendship that I am concerned about. The friendship is worth something to me but I am not ...
  A: It sounded (past-tense) that she was truly a caring and giving individual, however, lately there, ...
buffet service7/26/2010
  Q: When I am in the buffet restaurant on a ship I sometimes find myself behind someone taking an ...
  A: It is inherent upon all in a buffet line to be respectful of others. You are correct when you say ...
Wedding Invitation Addressing7/20/2010
  Q: I have been told that wedding invitations should be hand addressed. I recently found a store that ...
  A: Etiquette is allowed to change according to the times. This hand rule was pre-computer generated ...
Hospitalization7/18/2010
  Q: My ex mother in law was recently hospitalized. My youngest daughter and I went to visit her, took ...
  A: Divorce does not necessitate an end of a bond with all family members. The use of "ex" is used when ...
Table manners7/17/2010
  Q: My girlfriends 14yr old son asked my "why is ok for women to were hats at the table but not men".
  A: gender specific. It appears that your son has a sartorial eye. Some of the reasons reflects the ...
Step-parenting7/13/2010
  Q: My question is what is the proper way for my stepchildren, ages 7 %26 9 to address me. When their ...
  A: It unfortunately sounds like the real child here is the biological mother. She not only has a ...
baby shower etiquette7/1/2010
  Q: Is it proper for a expecting mother to have a 2nd baby shower when her first child is only 3
  A: Congratulations on expecting a new bundle of joy and also, thank you for your inquiry in baby shower ...
addressing a city official6/24/2010
  Q: My former minister was recently elected to the city council, he received enough votes to be the new ...
  A: Please let me apologize first and foremost for the delay, I have been notified of the following ...
obituary etiquette6/16/2010
  Q: I am writing my fathers obituary and have a bit of a family dilemma. His mother and wife are both ...
  A: May I extend my condolences to you and your family for the passing of your father. For traditional ...
donor name listing6/15/2010
  Q: When listing donors for recognition in a newsletter, with no prefix, should the man's or woman's ...
  A: The rule of thumb is consistency. If there are no honorific, the listing could either be Mr. and ...
thank you notes6/14/2010
  Q: My mother gave my daughter some earrings for a graduation while the family was gathered and my ...
  A: When one receives a gift personally, such as a Christmas present or birthday present, usually the ...
stepmother6/11/2010
  Q: I've raised my stepson since he was 12 years old. He introduces me as his mother. He is now 39 years ...
  A: If you stopped being his stepmother because of a divorce, would that make someone who is a Mother ...
Cards6/8/2010
  Q: Is it not proper for the daughter in law to send birthday, Christmas, etc card to her husbands ...
  A: It is entirely proper for a daughter-in-law to send Christmas cards, birthday cards, etc to her ...
Business Open House6/7/2010
  Q: A good client of ours moved into a new office space. They are holding an open house one evening ...
  A: You are correct, Jennifer, it is not necessary to bring a gift for an open house. What is more ...
office diplomacy6/7/2010
  Q: I am a deputy director of a branch of a Russian insurance company. My boss every Monday after 6 PM ...
  A: It does sound like you have a very giving and caring employer and you are correct in handling not ...
Honorifics6/6/2010
  Q: Good day, I am a Corporal in the Army. Is it appropriate for me to use the title in place of the ...
  A: It is acceptable in formal writing to use Corporal with (ret.) following such as Andrew Smith, ...
Send a graduation card6/3/2010
  Q: My daughter's biological father met her at 26 years of age. He and I got engaged and all was well ...
  A: Jean, if your heart tells you to do it, then follow your heart. A card or gift should be from the ...
Boss' Wedding Anniversary6/2/2010
  Q: I am sending my Boss a bouquet of flowers for his 25th wedding anniversary on behalf of our company. ...
  A: The 25th anniversary is not only a special benchmark in life, but it is getting rare in today's ...
receiving cards6/2/2010
  Q: My friends are having a party for me as i am moving out of town. I have always wondered what the ...
  A: If someone hands you a card in person, it is a nice opportunity for you to open, read and ...
Bridal Shower Planning5/26/2010
  Q: I am a MOH for my good friend of mine. Her mother happens to be my Mom's best friend as well. I am ...
  A: Basically, you are correct and it sounds like you are dealing with a typical nervous Mother of the ...
step-parent etiquitte at high school graduation5/21/2010
  Q: my son is graduating from high school and his mom (not remarried) and my wife and he are all on good ...
  A: First, please allow me to congratulate you and your son on his great benchmark of an accomplishment. ...
Congratulatory etiquette5/20/2010
  Q: My father married a woman six years ago, I may have seen her daughter twice in my life because her ...
  A: Sending cards can be both a personal matter and an informal matter. It depends upon the situation, ...
Politely decline invitation to stay @ relative's home4/25/2010
  Q: A relative offered to "host" us when we make a visit to their city. She is orgainzing a gathering ...
  A: I have the same sentiments. Although I love to see family, it do feel more comfortable staying in a ...
Dining room etiquette4/23/2010
  Q: I run an assisted living facility in the south, several of my residents and guest wear hats in the ...
  A: I have found the following for you. Hat Protocol: ...
Wife's 60th birthday4/20/2010
  Q: My wife's 60th birthday is approaching and it's a surprise party. My wife's daughter is the hostess. ...
  A: Not knowing your personality, these tips my sound contradictory but I wanted to include every ...
Name title4/14/2010
  Q: We have a group of individuals that finished their year probation as new hires and they will be ...
  A: Davis: Thank you for your inquiry regarding honorific protocol. In addressing a mayor in ...
Disrepectfulness4/7/2010
  Q: I have an 8 year old step daughter that is very smart and loves to be around people. At times she ...
  A: Michelle, I understand your issues since I too am a step-parent and know how frustrating it is and ...
Addressing a couple in a card4/2/2010
  Q: When I write a couple a card, do I write Dear Mary and John or Dear John and Mary? Which order is ...
  A: This depends if you are writing a formal business or social note. For a social note, the older ...
cash gifts4/1/2010
  Q: What is an appropriate amount of money to give a grandchild graduating from high school.
  A: Today with the effective of our economy touching everyone, there is not a hard fast rule, but what ...
60th Birthday Party Etiquette3/26/2010
  Q: My sister is giving herself a 60th birthday party and would like to put on her invitation asking for ...
  A: An invitation is a request of asking for someone's presence at the event, not for asking for gifts ...
how to properly address a political head3/19/2010
  Q: Do I use in the mail/e-mail - may I use Hon. or must I spell it out - Honorable as in Honorable ...
  A: For formal protocol, it is always advisable to write the full title such as, The Honorable Judge ...
invitations3/17/2010
  Q: It is well know in my family that my two older sister do not get along and have not spoken for ...
  A: Congratulations on your impending daughter's first Holy Communion. This is truly the first step and ...
cake offering3/11/2010
  Q: My peer workgroup is "honoring a co-workers departure" with the hopes that this person will not ...
  A: With regards to proper etiquette, for a situation that is not pleasant such as your case, honoring a ...
Retirement due to Ilness2/26/2010
  Q: How do we word an invitation for a retirement reception when the individual is leaving the company ...
  A: What a nice gesture the company is doing for their employee! There are several different ways to ...
Toddler Birthday Party2/25/2010
  Q: I wanted to know what can I get as a gift for a toddler on his Birthday when we don't even know him. ...
  A: As I am sure you know as a mother of a toddler herself, that their skills in developmental, ...
gifts2/24/2010
  Q: Someone who sees my daughter everyday gave her a gift of pierced earrings, and my daughters ears are ...
  A: Please allow me to apologize for the delay in responding to your post. I have been experiencing ...
Formal life-long Titles2/21/2010
  Q: If someone who has had multiple elected titled positions, but failed to complete a first term of ...
  A: There is a precedence of rank both in professional and academic honorific. Technically, if an ...
Football pool etiquette2/20/2010
  Q: We won a football pool which we played at a local store in our town. Is there a tipping protocol? ...
  A: Congratulations on winning the pool! Although, there is no "official" protocol for tipping in ...
Addressing Envelope Etiquette2/19/2010
  Q: When addressing an envelope for a bridal shower, should it read: Ms. Olga Walters, Sarah Walters ...
  A: What is the relationship of these women? Mother and daughters? Sisters? If it is a Mother and ...
Inappropriate Inclusion on Invitation?2/19/2010
  Q: I am the advisor for our school's National Honor Society. Each year we hold an induction ceremony ...
  A: Palmer, A ceremony is a prestigious ritual welcoming new members/inductees. A notice of dues ...
Birthday Gift2/18/2010
  Q: For my daughter's 17th birthday, my father told her that his wife would take her shopping for a ...
  A: Lisa, I am sure you and I both remember what it felt like being a 17 year old. We were not legal 18 ...
pibcking a family reunion name2/17/2010
  Q: there seems to be a problem choosing a name for the family reunion .It was said that it should only ...
  A: In past American culture the matriarch was respected as head of the household. Then there was a ...
Charity football pool2/8/2010
  Q: My husband and I won the Superbowl pool (1st and last quarter). We played it at a charity function ...
  A: First of all, congratulations on winning the pool. I know the excitement you and your husband must ...
Thank you notes1/27/2010
  Q: Since being diagnosed and having surgery for breast cancer, I have received several "get well" and ...
  A: Shirley, you are fortunate to have loving and caring friends. They are doing acts of love out of ...
being a good houseguest with children1/26/2010
  Q: I recently had a conversation with a family member that we stayed overnight with. She told me that ...
  A: As a host or hostess, the burden to not only provide but anticipate your guests' every need is the ...
mother of the groom dress1/24/2010
  Q: Mys son is getting married in July and I want to know if its okay to wear a dress i wore for my ...
  A: Congratulations, on your son's pending nuptials. From 2008 to July 2010 has definitely been an ...
Babt Shower1/17/2010
  Q: My daughter is expecting her 1st baby, my first grandchild. Can I, the mother, give her a baby ...
  A: Traditionally, it was friends of the new mother-to-be that would proffer the baby shower. However, ...
new baby1/15/2010
  Q: As a new parent myself I know that new parents get to set the "rules" when it comes to their little ...
  A: First let me congratulate the welcoming of a new life in your family. I can feel your enthusiasm, ...
Memorial plaque1/14/2010
  Q: Our company is dedicating our board room to a former board member who passed away unexpectedly. My ...
  A: The initials of a professional degree(s) are frequently placed after the name instead of the title ...
who to invite from a family to Bar Mitzvah1/2/2010
  Q: We have several families that we are friends with that have children of several ages. The oldest is ...
  A: Faith, I must be honest and give you the textbook answer. A Bar Mitzvah is a sacred and ...
opening door at home1/2/2010
  Q: My husband and I are having a huge debate regarding my son answering the door. We had a party ...
  A: If this was an invited event, then I would have to proffer the answer that the host or hostess ...
Form of payment when dining in a group of friends1/1/2010
  Q: My daughter asked me this question, is there proper payment etiquette when dining out with a large ...
  A: Miller: Thank you for your inquiry regarding dining protocol in a large group. Technically, there ...
Personal titles or forms of address12/31/2009
  Q: It's reassuring to get confirmation of something I had learned long ago. To clarify my mention of ...
  A: I would like to extend to you the very same for 2010. It is hard to believe that it is here! I ...
Personal titles or forms of address12/30/2009
  Q: I was taught many years ago that personal titles (such as Mr., Mrs., Miss, and Ms)should not be used ...
  A: David, your assessment is absolutely correct. One should never introduce themselves with a title, ...
Christmas Gifts - extended family12/30/2009
  Q: My son has two children. They are my Grandsons. He recently re-married in July of this year to a ...
  A: Gale you are use to generously giving your two grandsons gifts for Christmas which is natural. ...
Hostess gift12/29/2009
  Q: I am a teacher, and the family of one of my students has invited me over for dinner. What should I ...
  A: What a nice invitation for dinner that your student has extended to you. Traditionally, a hostess ...
Birthday Dinner at Restaurant12/28/2009
  Q: My husband will be celebrating his 50th birthday soon and he would like to celebrate at a local ...
  A: Lynn, what a lovely idea to celebrate your husband's 50th. Traditionally, proper protocol is when ...
telephone etiquette12/27/2009
  Q: When I receive a telephone call at home, should I tell my husband who I'm talking to so that he can ...
  A: May I thank you for your inquiry regarding telephone etiquette? When receiving a telephone call, it ...
protocol for leftovers at holiday dinners12/26/2009
  Q: Several holidays/year I host dinner for 8-20 people. My sister will offer to bring things and then ...
  A: you bring the host and hostess an offering for your gratitude of their time and effort for putting ...
Manners at a house party12/26/2009
  Q: I have attended many parties at my in-laws housesn and when entering another room, I have come upon ...
  A: You cannot help what you feel. However, you may need to give people the benefit of the doubt. Is ...
Holiday Thank-You Notes12/26/2009
  Q: If my husband and I received separate gifts from a couple, do we send out separate thank you notes? ...
  A: Sending one thank-you note to the couple for your gifts is sufficient. Traditionally, a thank-you ...
marriage12/24/2009
  Q: My fiance & I have been together for over 9 years; he proposed to me on my birthday over a year ago ...
  A: May I send my best wishes to you for your impending wedding. Dee, I must say and remind you that ...
newlyweds and family traditions12/24/2009
  Q: Can a family discuss possibilities of traditions changing and/or remaining the same in order to ...
  A: A new union via marriage has been formed. It is a time to start new traditions as a couple. ...
Family Christmas Dinner12/23/2009
  Q: I am not very familiar with US customs and etiquettes, particularly holiday related, as I was not ...
  A: I wish to thank you for your inquiry regarding holiday protocol. Mika, I must admit that in the ...
Receiving wine as a gift12/22/2009
  Q: I do not drink alcohol, yet receive several bottles of wine every Christmas season from business ...
  A: Terry, not only does this issue of unwanted gifts appear around the holiday season, but all year ...
bridal shower game etiquette12/21/2009
  Q: I won a gift for a game we played at my friend's daughter's bridal shower. I was told that the gift ...
  A: Carol, I must say I am confused. You were told you won a gift then after you left you were told it ...
Christmas party fiasco...12/16/2009
  Q: I invited a 'friend' of mine to a very nice Christmas Party, it was also one of the first times I ...
  A: I must admit Leslie that this sounded like a scene from Sienfeld. However, I have a few questions ...
First names12/15/2009
  Q: In my job I get to interact with police officers a lot (I am not one myself). To address them, I ...
  A: It is always nice and polite to see a formal salutation like how you addressed me, "Dear Madam." ...
Holiday Party12/15/2009
  Q: I had my husband's family to my house for the holidays. We have 3 nieces and nephews from his ...
  A: Bruder: Thank you for your inquiry for holiday etiquette. As much fun as the holidays are, they ...
Signing a card12/14/2009
  Q: when signing a card from my family, do I put my huband's name first and then mine or does it not ...
  A: Carrie, Thank you for your inquiry regarding signature protocol. Although everyone loves to receive ...
Chidlren unwrapping other people's presents12/14/2009
  Q: My husband and I are about to spend the holidays with his family members and there is a child (aged ...
  A: I have been thinking about this issue. Do you have an older child that could pass out the presents ...
Rude or not?12/13/2009
  Q: there is an Aunt in our family that has a very annoying habit. This has happened several times and ...
  A: I must admit that requesting the host or hostess to extend an invitation for other members of the ...
Graduation Announcements12/12/2009
  Q: I graduate college in May 2010 with my Bachelors and was wondering about announcements/invitations. ...
  A: Congratulations, Jackie on your impending graduation. I am sure you and your family are very proud ...
moving from a seat12/11/2009
  Q: Me and my date were having lunch and before we left he excused himself and went to the restroom. I ...
  A: I am going to have to make some assumptions for your scenario since some facts were not included in ...
Etiquette12/9/2009
  Q: My sister in law is asking who should pay for the following; the bridal party, the rehersal dinner, ...
  A: I am not sure in what context you are asking who should pay for the bridal party? what aspect? The ...
Host or Hostess gift12/8/2009
  Q: We are invited to a dinner party at the home of the Alvernia University President in Honor of our ...
  A: Schenk, Thank you for your inquiry regarding hostess protocol. Different factors will play a part ...
Dinner Party Invitation12/5/2009
  Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating about 6 months and I have met the majority of his close friends. ...
  A: In this particular situation it does sound like there is a celebration of their reconciliation. ...
Birthday invitation12/3/2009
  Q: My husband is turning 50 and I would like to celebrate with several of his friends and spouses at an ...
  A: What a lovely idea of having a breaking of the bread with friends at an elegant restaurant in honor ...
Open House Holiday party12/1/2009
  Q: I am confused. I thought that an open house party with the times of 4-8 p.m. meant that you could ...
  A: Cristal, you are correct an "Open-House" is a flexible open-invite. Unfortunately, your hostess is ...
Death/Christmas Greetings12/1/2009
  Q: My mom died in July 2009. I currently live at the same house she had lived at. I am starting to ...
  A: Please may I extend my sympathy to you for the loss of your Mother this past July. Losing a parent ...
inviting a divorced couple to a party11/30/2009
  Q: I am friends with a couple who divorced a year ago. It wasn't a bitter ending but neither of them ...
  A: In answer to your question, No, you are not obligated to disclose your guest list. However, you ...
Excessively late for invited time11/29/2009
  Q: My niece text messaged her father, who was already at my home on time 3:00pm for Thanksgiving ...
  A: It does sound like there were several etiquette faux pas' during your Thanksgiving Dinner. I am ...
Proper address11/27/2009
  Q: How do I address an envelope to a married couple who are both Reverends, including the children?
  A: I am in need of more detail information. Is this for official, or social invitation? Do they all, ...
A grating greeting11/26/2009
  Q: When I am asked the question "How is Darryn today?", and I am Darryn, I get cranky and often don't ...
  A: First, I would wish you a Happy Thanksgiving, but I see you are from the land of down under. I ...
Unwanted Christmas Guest11/24/2009
  Q: My husband is a social butterfly and has many friends. We are planning a Christmas party and there ...
  A: It does sound like Erika that you are going to have a problem if you do not handle this carefully. ...
addressing envelopes to judges11/24/2009
  Q: What is the correct way to address an envelope to a judge and his wife? For example, Judge John Doe ...
  A: Here are a few points: "The Honorable" is never used by the person who holds the office in issuing ...
Office etiquette11/21/2009
  Q: A co-worker and his family's home was recently damaged by fire. Another co-worker collected a huge ...
  A: I am sorry to hear about you co-worker's plight. In 2004, June 13th, I and my 83 year old Mother, ...
lutheran ministers11/20/2009
  Q: Being Catholic I am used to greeting our priests as "Father Joe" or "Father Sam". I have been asked ...
  A: As, I am Catholic also, I have done a little research for you. It depends upon several things. It ...
Christmas presents11/19/2009
  Q: My husband's mother passed away a few years ago. Since then, an older woman (a lonely and unplesant ...
  A: please, may I first apologize in my delay for responding to your question. Usually, I check ...
deb ball - choosing a partner11/19/2009
  Q: my daughter is wanting to do her deb next year but is having trouble choosing a partner, well ...
  A: Congratulations to you, your family and daughter to make her presentation. I notice before ...
Protocol when referencing a judge in a speech11/17/2009
  Q: I will be giving an introductory speech at an event where I will be thanking supporters. One of the ...
  A: May I first congratulate you upon you being selected to deliver the honorary introduction for the ...
child birthday11/17/2009
  Q: My 3 children are all born within 4 days of each other and I am planning on having one party for all ...
  A: First, may I congratulate you for being an exceptional Mom and putting on a birthday party for all ...
Declining Play dates11/17/2009
  Q: My 3rd grade daughter keeps getting invited to a classmates home for a play date. They have visited ...
  A: It sounds like your daughter is a social butterfly at her tender age. However, I think I might be ...
thank yous for cards11/16/2009
  Q: I have a quick question about the proper etiquette when you receive a card. Growing up, my mother ...
  A: I must say that even though I have heard of past stories of proper etiquette requiring one to send a ...
high school graduation monetary gifts11/10/2009
  Q: I'm a disabled mother of a high school senior, so I don't get out to socialize and ask questions of ...
  A: First, may I congratulate you and your son on his success in his impending graduation from high ...
Senior graduation announcements for twins11/10/2009
  Q: I have twin daughters who are both graduating from High School this Spring 2010. Virtually ALL ...
  A: First, I must congratulate you and your daughters on their impending success graduating high school. ...
Protocol for Introductions11/7/2009
  Q: When making introductions of dignitaries at a formal event, can you share the order in which they ...
  A: Kelly, Thank you for your inquiry for protocol introductions. One of "the" cardinal rules in ...
communication methods10/21/2009
  Q: Please, I have some funds, which I want to use to buy some indoor games for the children. To ensure ...
  A: Is this group of children with diversified ages? Are you trying to please a who group of children ...
Thank you notes10/21/2009
  Q: At work we have a secret sisters. I have taken the time effort to shop and buy little gifts for her, ...
  A: Although I am not sure or even heard about secret sisters, you Sarah have a need for concern and ...
respectful communication strategies10/20/2009
  Q: I've emailed you before, and you were a huge help. Please, can you tell me five respectful ...
  A: Check your e-mail under communication. I had answered that question. I feel that I do not age ...
ballet10/14/2009
  Q: i am considering taking my lovely fiance out to the nutcracker. in the process of checking ticket ...
  A: Wow, what a nice surprise you have in store for your fiancee. What a lucky lady! Although ballet ...
Housewarming Invitations10/12/2009
  Q: Is it inappropriate to ask guests to purchase gift cards instead of actual gifts. If it is ok to do ...
  A: In these economical days, I think that the guests would welcome giving a gift card. Today,it is not ...
How to respond to a house guest with a pet10/10/2009
  Q: I am holding a abbreviated family get together for Thanksgiving. I am inviting uncles and aunts and ...
  A: Phillips: Thank you for your inquiry regarding hostess-etiquette. Kris, I have to say being an ...
Double birthday party10/5/2009
  Q: My 5 year old boy got invited to two birthday parties from two very good friends on the same day and ...
  A: It sounds like you have one popular little boy who is already a social butterfly. If there is a ...
Graduation Announcements - Credentials10/3/2009
  Q: Greetings. In May 2008 I completed a masters degree and immediately started a second graduate ...
  A: Let me first congratulate you for your amazing accomplishments. You have exceeded the normal course ...
Death of retired director10/2/2009
  Q: An emeritus member of our organization's board of directors recently passed away. His portrait hung ...
  A: Windley: Thank you for your inquiry regarding honorific etiquette. Well, it truly sounds like your ...
How to politely ask a roommate to wash more10/2/2009
  Q: A friend of ours (mine & my fiance's) is in a tough spot right now and needs a new place to move ...
  A: Lexie, I must admit you have a very delicate issue facing you and your fiance. While I commit that ...
Charging guests for Home Clambake9/19/2009
  Q: Recently my friend/neighbor had invited me to come join her family and friends for a Clambake at her ...
  A: Sue, you must have been surprised as I am that someone would subversively invite you to a party then ...
Profanity in the workplace.9/18/2009
  Q: What if anything can I do about a female co-worker who uses more profanity than I have ever heard ...
  A: Maximino, sounds like you have a sailor for your co-worker. Not only is that distracting, but ...
Introducing a daughter in law9/17/2009
  Q: When my husband and I visit his parents, my mother in law will often introduce us to other residents ...
  A: I hate to disagree with a Mother-in-Law, but, one should always mention the individual's name who ...
wearing white9/16/2009
  Q: Is it incorrect to wear white after labor day as I used to remember. Thanks
  A: I must admit, I remember my Mom telling me how inappropriate it is to wear white after Labor Day. ...
Wedding reception9/14/2009
  Q: I am befuddled and feeling kind of hurt. I was invited to a wedding reception this weekend. It said ...
  A: I would like to first thank you for your inquiry regarding wedding reception etiquette. I must ...
gift to hostess of a shower9/12/2009
  Q: I'm the mother of the bride, and my close friend gave my daughter a beautiful shower. Is it ...
  A: While there is no formal rule in etiquette requiring a thank-you gift for a hostess of a shower, it ...
Funeral Etiquette9/11/2009
  Q: We have several uncles who have divorced several time, what title do we give the 1st set of aunts ...
  A: Smith: Thank you for your inquiry regarding title/honorific etiquette. You may refer to your ...
Baby Shower Hosts/Invitation8/29/2009
  Q: On a baby shower invitation whose names should be listed as hostesses? If there are four hostesses ...
  A: Traditionally, a baby-shower was given by a family member. I would say to hold fast and true to ...
Daughter of the King Ball8/29/2009
  Q: My husband and I ministry is youth, so we are in our second year having a Ball Ages are from 9 ...
  A: Please excuse me, if I inappropriately addressed you in the salutation. From the contents and the ...
writing thanks notes8/28/2009
  Q: I work in a female-dominated field. To my wedding I invited co-workers along with their husbands. ...
  A: First may I wish you, the new bride, "Best of Luck", in your new journey. Second, I would like to ...
Party invitation problem8/27/2009
  Q: My husband is hosting a party for me and it is almost exclusively women. We were very careful to ...
  A: It sounds like you have a very thoughtful and generous husband. How delightful to give you a party ...
no shoes in the house8/24/2009
  Q: i have a do not wear shoes in the house rule, i don't tell people but i have a polite little ...
  A: I can completely agree and sympathesize with your problem of a guest not respecting your house-hold ...
funeral ettiquette8/22/2009
  Q: do you need to send thank you notes after a funeral for friends who have enrolled the deceased ...
  A: I periodically check the open question pool to see if there are any questions needing a proper ...
rides to the airport8/21/2009
  Q: Recently, my cousin, came to the city I live in, which is the Seattle Wa area, to visit other ...
  A: Marsten: Thank you for your query regarding proper guest/hostess hospitality. I must first applaud ...
adult birthday party8/20/2009
  Q: I would like to know what are the best times frames the evening are good for a birthday party for ...
  A: I wish to thank you for your inquiry regarding hostess etiquette. I am making an assumption by ...
gift giving from grandparent8/18/2009
  Q: My mother gave my daughter $1,000.00 for her wedding 14 years ago. 2 years ago when her other ...
  A: You have given me a perplexing question when it comes to answering etiquette questions for "in the ...
Gift to a mentor8/14/2009
  Q: Zazulak Pedro, I have a career mentor who happens to be an acquaintance of my father. They do not ...
  A: I think when one gives a gift out of appreciation is a bountiful act of kindness and thought. I ...
Addressing Presidents8/12/2009
  Q: I've heard several TV newscast and radio anchors refer to President Obama as Mr.Obama. Is that OK to ...
  A: Whether a past President or a sitting President, in any reference or address, the proper usage is ...
Hello8/9/2009
  Q: I'm having my 13th birthday soon and I want to invite my friends in MY AGE GROUP. BUT,my parents ...
  A: " Thank you for your question(s) regarding proper invitation etiquette. It does seem you have a ...
TURNING DOWN A BUSINESS PROPOSITION8/7/2009
  Q: How do I tell the person who is trying to get me involved into a business that I don't want to be a ...
  A: How many times have we wished to just tune "out" those fast-pitching salespeople? Or just yell, ...
Dual Party Invite8/7/2009
  Q: We are hosting a dinner party for my parents in honor of their 60th Wedding Anniversary and also my ...
  A: "L," Thank you first for your inquiry regarding Dual Party Invite. What a wonderful and special ...
monetary gifts8/6/2009
  Q: My nephew and his wife a both earning post graduate degrees this year. He last month and hers this ...
  A: I wish to thank you for your inquiry regarding post-graduation gifting etiquette. Congratulations ...
A Birthday request8/6/2009
  Q: I am sending out invitations to a birthday party in my honor and want to know if I it's ok to say ...
  A: Happy Birthday!!! I must have a wee bit more information from you. What do you mean when you say, ...
Baby Shower Invites8/5/2009
  Q: My cousin is throwing me a baby shower. My mom wants to invite a set of relatives that I haven't ...
  A: While perusing the question pool, I came across your query regarding Baby Shower Invites. What I ...
invitation etiquette8/4/2009
  Q: My sister in law asked us to come for dinner in roughly 3 1/2 weeks. We had already commited to ...
  A: I am sorry I misconstrued the tone of your sister-in-law. However, I do not know your ...
Child's Birthday Party8/4/2009
  Q: We are planning my daughter's birthday party. She will be 5 and we will be going to a local ...
  A: Let me first thank you for your inquiry regarding children's birthday party etiquette. Wow, 5 years ...
How to list 'Mike the third'8/4/2009
  Q: We have to send a thank you to a man named Mike, who is the third, as his father is Mike, Jr. How do ...
  A: I wish to thank you for your inquiry regarding proper protocol when addressing someone without an ...
car ethiquette8/2/2009
  Q: while travelling with some people, & a husband driving the car where should wife sit other than ...
  A: Car seating normally conforms to the situation and the type of vehicle, such as limousine, military ...
overnight guests - bed use8/2/2009
  Q: I have two guest bedrooms with one twin bed each which my past overnight guests (girlfriends) use. ...
  A: As it is thoughtful of you to offer your home and hospitality, one is not required or expected to ...
holding utensils at the table7/31/2009
  Q: I was taught good manners as a child and I am very surprised at the number of people that I see ...
  A: First I want to thank you for your inquiry regarding dining etiquette. Second, that is a very good ...
Child to allow visitor to use bedroom for one night while the child is away?7/27/2009
  Q: Is it reasonable to ask a child (21 yrs old) to allow a visitor to use their bedroom for one night ...
  A: There are some details that maybe you can fill-in. For example, was this a pre-planned visit? Or ...
Office etiquette with ex co-workers7/23/2009
  Q: What is the proper etiquette for this situation? An ex office co worker has called and invited me to ...
  A: My question to you is what do you think his/her motivation was for the invitation? Was it because ...
Seating etiquates while seating in a car.7/13/2009
  Q: There are two ladies & a man in a car; car driven by a lady.Who should sit in the front ?
  A: Car seating normally conforms to the situation and the type of vehicle, such as limousine, military ...
gravestone etiquette7/9/2009
  Q: Is it proper to have a second wife buried and included on the gravestone of her husband when the ...
  A: Your question not only raises social implications, but legal. If you do not mind, I need more ...
1st Birthday party7/3/2009
  Q: we have a bit of a situation and I am just wondering on what is the correct way to go about this. ...
  A: You mention several points: one being a child's first party is very special. Second, it sounds like ...
appropriate gift7/3/2009
  Q: Just need 40th birthday gift ideas for new love interest. Thanks
  A: You are wise in your careful approach to gift giving for a new love interest. Ideally, you would ...
asking guests to bring food to a party6/30/2009
  Q: My husband and his siblings are throwing a retirement party for both his parents. It will be at a ...
  A: In this economical climate, I fear that if you ask for retirement presents which those gifts cards ...
Noisy Neighbors6/28/2009
  Q: My neighbor has 3 young children who play outside all day. No matter what they are doing, it always ...
  A: You know they say the fence is your best neighbor and sometimes "they" are right. I must admit you ...
Commenting on people's weight6/25/2009
  Q: Is it ok to tell someone they have gained weight, look chubby, look full, etc...in family? My family ...
  A: Etiquette is employed to make others feel comfortable both in their own skin and in unfamiliar ...
Childs Dance Recital6/24/2009
  Q: I am going to my granddaughters first dance recital and she is 3 years old. Do I bring her a gift ? ...
  A: Traditionally, a bouquet of flowers are presented to the dancers after the recital. However, since ...
Sales Home Etiquette6/23/2009
  Q: I work in sales and sometimes I am required to make home visits. In a few of the homes I visit my ...
  A: It is true whether visiting another country or a guest in someone's house (whether domestic or ...
step grandma gift card signing for shower6/16/2009
  Q: my stepson's wife is having a baby shower, should i address the card to the baby or to the parents, ...
  A: I discovered your question regarding baby shower etiquette in the question pool. If you permit me ...
PHD GRADUATION GIFT6/14/2009
  Q: I have been invited [by phone] to a party for the son of a long time friend who graduated with a ...
  A: D. program. Traditionally unlike a graduation announcement, if you receive a graduation invitation, ...
etiquette for rehersal dinner6/2/2009
  Q: My wife and I will be hosting the wedding rehersal dinner for son at a restaurant we have selected. ...
  A: May I congratulate you and your wife on your son's impending nuptials. Traditionally, and still is, ...
Graduation gift or card6/1/2009
  Q: Quandry: an old friend of mine who I rarely see, sent us an invitation to her daughter's HS ...
  A: You have received an invitation for the daughter's graduation? Right? Invitation, not an ...
GOOD MORNING6/1/2009
  Q: I AM THE FIRST TO ARRIVE EVERY MORNING. WITHIN 2 HOURS 10 PEOPLE ARE ARRIVING FOR WORK. MY DESK ...
  A: I am assuming that you are not the receptionist, just a very very punctual employee (?) If you are ...
Baby Shower Etiquette5/30/2009
  Q: My fiance's sister in law planned her own baby showers and sent out the invitations which said they ...
  A: As you are well aware, there are rules and regulation to etiquette. We once had a ...
Self-introduction in a clique-y environment5/29/2009
  Q: Hanson, These are two questions folded into one. I occasionally find myself in an environment ...
  A: I have had the opportunity to review this question in the question pool. There are various reasons ...
dance recital5/29/2009
  Q: both my granddaughter and grandson are in the same creative movement class and will be in the same ...
  A: I came across your question regarding dance recital etiquette in the question pool. Since this is a ...
High School Graduation Party5/29/2009
  Q: My son is graduating from high school and we are having an at home party after the ceremony. We ...
  A: Beck: Congratulations on your son's high school graduation. What a remarkable milestone!!!!!! I ...
A question of modesty5/29/2009
  Q: I have a 52 year old single female friend who's been invited to a party by an aquaintance. She's a ...
  A: The hardest thing by far is telling a fiend something even if it is good for their own benefit -- it ...
Child Birthday Party - LONG DRIVE5/28/2009
  Q: A close friend that I grew up with invites me and my son to her kids birthday parties every year. ...
  A: I have come across your question regarding Children's Birthday Party -To go or not to Go and noticed ...
graduation party for more than one graduate5/28/2009
  Q: I have been invited to several graduation parties that are for 3 graduates, but I don't know all the ...
  A: Usually, the graduation gift is sent prior or brought to the home. This is usually for the close ...
Mothers checkook.5/28/2009
  Q: I have a sibling,a brother,who has our Mothers checkbook as she is incapacited & he has been using ...
  A: I think this question far surpasses etiquette. What you have here is a "change of heart"(to put it ...
Ex-husband giving son graduation gift5/28/2009
  Q: I am in a very strange situation. My ex-husband and I are involved in a lengthy and nasty custody ...
  A: Congratulations on your son's impending graduation. To be brief and to the point, divorce is NEVER ...
URGENT5/28/2009
  Q: I have a huge dilemma and I don't know what to do. My daughter is a senior in high school. We have ...
  A: I want to send a bouquet of "Congratulations" to you, your daughter and family-friends. I ...
Which bed should I offer to a guest couple?5/26/2009
  Q: A long married couple that moved out of town a few years ago has indicated they will be in town next ...
  A: The fact that you offered shows great hospitality on your part, and I feel always the best approach ...
Graduation announcement5/26/2009
  Q: Due to the fact that my daughter was waiting on results of State testing scores, we found out about ...
  A: I must congratulate you, your daughter, her family and friends to be able to share this ...
dating a widow5/25/2009
  Q: When is it even proper to let a person know you might like to see them socially after they have lost ...
  A: I came across this question in the etiquette question pool and noticed that it had not been ...
baby shower5/24/2009
  Q: Who can give a baby shower - Grandmother?
  A: I came across this question in the etiquette question pool. I notice it had not been answered and ...
Is it okay to bring a guest?5/22/2009
  Q: I was invited to a casual social affair that includes dinner on a Saturday by one of my colleagues ...
  A: In today's faced paced society, e-mails are an excellent time-and-paper consumer. However, in the ...
saying good bye5/21/2009
  Q: My husband just walks out the door with no acknowledgment I always thought that the person leaving ...
  A: " Saying "good-bye" is a human response with a multitude of expressions - both verbal and ...
Gift required when high school announcement received?5/19/2009
  Q: A young lady I've known since her birth is graduating from high school in two weeks. She sent me a ...
  A: Weston: Thank you for your question regarding graduation etiquette. Graduation is a rite of ...
Baby shower/engagement party5/18/2009
  Q: I am laying out the invitations for my boss' baby shower/engagement party. How do i word that?How ...
  A: First let me commend you on your graciousness in hosting these truly unique and remarkable events in ...
Graduation gift5/14/2009
  Q: My nephews graduation is this week my sister and I are very close she is always good to me and my ...
  A: However, please provide me with some more information concerning the graduation. Will this be a ...
candles to light or not to light5/12/2009
  Q: I was told that it is indicitive of upper class to pre-light the candles and extinguish them before ...
  A: This is truly a unique question! I am interested if you have any additional information surrounding ...
Signing Cards5/11/2009
  Q: Should I include kids names when signing/sending cards even if they no longer live at home?
  A: It is not necessary to included the children's name in a card if (1# they are over 18 and #2) no ...
asking for gifts5/8/2009
  Q: It is polite for a coworker to ask me for a gift after their birthday and then tell me when to bring ...
  A: " I feel that I might be lacking some vital information. Was this a mandate from upper management? ...

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Main discourse in all aspects of social, corporate, international diplomacy and children's etiquette and protocol. Suzanne is certified in corporate and children's etiquette, as well as, certification in professional coaching for executive, leadership and personal achievement.

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As a Behavior Shaping Specialist and Certified Protocol and Etiquette Consultant, Suzanne has pioneered the art of social finesse with valid psychological tenets to provide her clients with an unique approach to instruction in etiquette --Avant Garde Etiquette. Research data shows that 15% of employment and corporate success is due to intelligence or training,while the other 85% is dealing with people successfully. Conversley,the essence of dealing with people succssfully is through exceptional communication skills. Therefore, being adapt at non-verbal communication while practising the art of etiquette is rapid power-tool in establishing rapport and inducing compliance for success. Target Success Seminars include: The Psychology of the First Impression, Oculesics: Keep YOur Eyes on the Prize, Isopraxism: Mirroring for Love and Profit, Spatial Anchoring: The Psychology of Body Placement Disarming Your Opponent by his Handshake What Your Dining Manners Reveal about Your Partner's Personality

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ISPEP International Society of Protocol and Etiquette Professionals IAPC International Association Professional Consultants IAC International Association of Coaches NWU National Writer's Union ABA American Bar Association Associate Member

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Co-author of "Executive Etiquette Power" , "Incredible Business" and "The Power of Civility." Frequently quoted media expert for etiquette and behavior shaping. Also, monthly Etiquette Columnist for several publications, as well as ezineexperauthor.com with downloads for on-line journals.

Education/Credentials
Bachelor of Arts in Psychology Certified Corporate and Children's Etiquette and Protocol Certified Professional Coach (CPC) Certified Paralegal Graduate Studies in Forensics, law

Awards and Honors
Appointed as Chief Officer of Protocol for her town. Cambridge Who's Who Among Business Professionals, Experts & Entrepeneurs Lifetime Member USA Honor Society Selected in 2004, as Queen Omega XVIII for Mardi Gras.

Past/Present Clients
Since individual/corporate programs are designed for areas of deficiencies, their confidence is upheld in the stictest sense of confidentiality. She has formed a non-profit organization, BeePoised, Inc., to reach-out and teach the children and adults who are not at an advantage to learn life social skills such as dining manners and job interviewing techniques.

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