| Subject | Date Asked |
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| Office etiquette | 11/21/2009 |
Q: A co-worker and his family's home was recently damaged by fire. Another co-worker collected a huge ...
A: Elaine, may I so, oh, my goodness, one week ! I am not sure what your co-worker is thinking, but the ...
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| Office etiquette | 11/21/2009 |
Q: A co-worker and his family's home was recently damaged by fire. Another co-worker collected a huge ...
A: I am sorry to hear about you co-worker's plight. In 2004, June 13th, I and my 83 year old Mother, ...
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| lutheran ministers | 11/20/2009 |
Q: Being Catholic I am used to greeting our priests as "Father Joe" or "Father Sam". I have been asked ...
A: As, I am Catholic also, I have done a little research for you. It depends upon several things. It ...
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| Christmas presents | 11/19/2009 |
Q: My husband's mother passed away a few years ago. Since then, an older woman (a lonely and unplesant ...
A: please, may I first apologize in my delay for responding to your question. Usually, I check ...
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| deb ball - choosing a partner | 11/19/2009 |
Q: my daughter is wanting to do her deb next year but is having trouble choosing a partner, well ...
A: Congratulations to you, your family and daughter to make her presentation. I notice before ...
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| Protocol when referencing a judge in a speech | 11/17/2009 |
Q: I will be giving an introductory speech at an event where I will be thanking supporters. One of the ...
A: May I first congratulate you upon you being selected to deliver the honorary introduction for the ...
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| Declining Play dates | 11/17/2009 |
Q: My 3rd grade daughter keeps getting invited to a classmates home for a play date. They have visited ...
A: It does give me a clearer picture of the particular dynamics of your situation. From my perspective ...
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| child birthday | 11/17/2009 |
Q: My 3 children are all born within 4 days of each other and I am planning on having one party for all ...
A: First, may I congratulate you for being an exceptional Mom and putting on a birthday party for all ...
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| Declining Play dates | 11/17/2009 |
Q: My 3rd grade daughter keeps getting invited to a classmates home for a play date. They have visited ...
A: It sounds like your daughter is a social butterfly at her tender age. However, I think I might be ...
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| thank yous for cards | 11/16/2009 |
Q: I have a quick question about the proper etiquette when you receive a card. Growing up, my mother ...
A: I must say that even though I have heard of past stories of proper etiquette requiring one to send a ...
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| high school graduation monetary gifts | 11/10/2009 |
Q: I'm a disabled mother of a high school senior, so I don't get out to socialize and ask questions of ...
A: First, may I congratulate you and your son on his success in his impending graduation from high ...
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| Senior graduation announcements for twins | 11/10/2009 |
Q: I have twin daughters who are both graduating from High School this Spring 2010. Virtually ALL ...
A: First, I must congratulate you and your daughters on their impending success graduating high school. ...
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| Protocol for Introductions | 11/7/2009 |
Q: When making introductions of dignitaries at a formal event, can you share the order in which they ...
A: Kelly, Thank you for your inquiry for protocol introductions. One of "the" cardinal rules in ...
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| communication methods | 10/21/2009 |
Q: Please, I have some funds, which I want to use to buy some indoor games for the children. To ensure ...
A: Is this group of children with diversified ages? Are you trying to please a who group of children ...
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| Thank you notes | 10/21/2009 |
Q: At work we have a secret sisters. I have taken the time effort to shop and buy little gifts for her, ...
A: Although I am not sure or even heard about secret sisters, you Sarah have a need for concern and ...
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| respectful communication strategies | 10/20/2009 |
Q: I've emailed you before, and you were a huge help. Please, can you tell me five respectful ...
A: Check your e-mail under communication. I had answered that question. I feel that I do not age ...
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| ballet | 10/14/2009 |
Q: i am considering taking my lovely fiance out to the nutcracker. in the process of checking ticket ...
A: Wow, what a nice surprise you have in store for your fiancee. What a lucky lady! Although ballet ...
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| Housewarming Invitations | 10/12/2009 |
Q: Is it inappropriate to ask guests to purchase gift cards instead of actual gifts. If it is ok to do ...
A: In these economical days, I think that the guests would welcome giving a gift card. Today,it is not ...
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| How to respond to a house guest with a pet | 10/10/2009 |
Q: I am holding a abbreviated family get together for Thanksgiving. I am inviting uncles and aunts and ...
A: Phillips: Thank you for your inquiry regarding hostess-etiquette. Kris, I have to say being an ...
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| Double birthday party | 10/5/2009 |
Q: My 5 year old boy got invited to two birthday parties from two very good friends on the same day and ...
A: It sounds like you have one popular little boy who is already a social butterfly. If there is a ...
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| How to politely ask a roommate to wash more | 10/3/2009 |
Q: A friend of ours (mine & my fiance's) is in a tough spot right now and needs a new place to move ...
A: Lexie, Thank you for your follow-up. I enjoy hearing how problems finally get resolved. As I said ...
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| Graduation Announcements - Credentials | 10/3/2009 |
Q: Greetings. In May 2008 I completed a masters degree and immediately started a second graduate ...
A: Let me first congratulate you for your amazing accomplishments. You have exceeded the normal course ...
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| Death of retired director | 10/2/2009 |
Q: An emeritus member of our organization's board of directors recently passed away. His portrait hung ...
A: Windley: Thank you for your inquiry regarding honorific etiquette. Well, it truly sounds like your ...
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| How to politely ask a roommate to wash more | 10/2/2009 |
Q: A friend of ours (mine & my fiance's) is in a tough spot right now and needs a new place to move ...
A: Lexie, I must admit you have a very delicate issue facing you and your fiance. While I commit that ...
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| Charging guests for Home Clambake | 9/19/2009 |
Q: Recently my friend/neighbor had invited me to come join her family and friends for a Clambake at her ...
A: Sue, you must have been surprised as I am that someone would subversively invite you to a party then ...
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| Profanity in the workplace. | 9/18/2009 |
Q: What if anything can I do about a female co-worker who uses more profanity than I have ever heard ...
A: Maximino, sounds like you have a sailor for your co-worker. Not only is that distracting, but ...
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| Introducing a daughter in law | 9/17/2009 |
Q: When my husband and I visit his parents, my mother in law will often introduce us to other residents ...
A: I hate to disagree with a Mother-in-Law, but, one should always mention the individual's name who ...
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| wearing white | 9/16/2009 |
Q: Is it incorrect to wear white after labor day as I used to remember. Thanks
A: I must admit, I remember my Mom telling me how inappropriate it is to wear white after Labor Day. ...
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| Wedding reception | 9/14/2009 |
Q: I am befuddled and feeling kind of hurt. I was invited to a wedding reception this weekend. It said ...
A: I would like to first thank you for your inquiry regarding wedding reception etiquette. I must ...
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| gift to hostess of a shower | 9/12/2009 |
Q: I'm the mother of the bride, and my close friend gave my daughter a beautiful shower. Is it ...
A: While there is no formal rule in etiquette requiring a thank-you gift for a hostess of a shower, it ...
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| Funeral Etiquette | 9/11/2009 |
Q: We have several uncles who have divorced several time, what title do we give the 1st set of aunts ...
A: Smith: Thank you for your inquiry regarding title/honorific etiquette. You may refer to your ...
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| Baby Shower Hosts/Invitation | 8/29/2009 |
Q: On a baby shower invitation whose names should be listed as hostesses? If there are four hostesses ...
A: Traditionally, a baby-shower was given by a family member. I would say to hold fast and true to ...
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| Daughter of the King Ball | 8/29/2009 |
Q: My husband and I ministry is youth, so we are in our second year having a Ball Ages are from 9 ...
A: Please excuse me, if I inappropriately addressed you in the salutation. From the contents and the ...
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| writing thanks notes | 8/28/2009 |
Q: I work in a female-dominated field. To my wedding I invited co-workers along with their husbands. ...
A: First may I wish you, the new bride, "Best of Luck", in your new journey. Second, I would like to ...
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| Party invitation problem | 8/27/2009 |
Q: My husband is hosting a party for me and it is almost exclusively women. We were very careful to ...
A: It sounds like you have a very thoughtful and generous husband. How delightful to give you a party ...
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| no shoes in the house | 8/24/2009 |
Q: i have a do not wear shoes in the house rule, i don't tell people but i have a polite little ...
A: I can completely agree and sympathesize with your problem of a guest not respecting your house-hold ...
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| funeral ettiquette | 8/22/2009 |
Q: do you need to send thank you notes after a funeral for friends who have enrolled the deceased ...
A: I periodically check the open question pool to see if there are any questions needing a proper ...
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| rides to the airport | 8/21/2009 |
Q: Recently, my cousin, came to the city I live in, which is the Seattle Wa area, to visit other ...
A: Marsten: Thank you for your query regarding proper guest/hostess hospitality. I must first applaud ...
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| adult birthday party | 8/20/2009 |
Q: I would like to know what are the best times frames the evening are good for a birthday party for ...
A: I wish to thank you for your inquiry regarding hostess etiquette. I am making an assumption by ...
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| gift giving from grandparent | 8/18/2009 |
Q: My mother gave my daughter $1,000.00 for her wedding 14 years ago. 2 years ago when her other ...
A: You have given me a perplexing question when it comes to answering etiquette questions for "in the ...
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| Gift to a mentor | 8/14/2009 |
Q: Zazulak Pedro, I have a career mentor who happens to be an acquaintance of my father. They do not ...
A: I think when one gives a gift out of appreciation is a bountiful act of kindness and thought. I ...
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| Hello | 8/13/2009 |
Q: I'm having my 13th birthday soon and I want to invite my friends in MY AGE GROUP. BUT,my parents ...
A: I can understand that for "appearances" sake, you can't invite one without the other. Your parents ...
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| Hello | 8/12/2009 |
Q: I'm having my 13th birthday soon and I want to invite my friends in MY AGE GROUP. BUT,my parents ...
A: I hope you had a great time on vacation. Did you get an opportunity to discuss this issue with your ...
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| Addressing Presidents | 8/12/2009 |
Q: I've heard several TV newscast and radio anchors refer to President Obama as Mr.Obama. Is that OK to ...
A: Whether a past President or a sitting President, in any reference or address, the proper usage is ...
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| Hello | 8/9/2009 |
Q: I'm having my 13th birthday soon and I want to invite my friends in MY AGE GROUP. BUT,my parents ...
A: " Thank you for your question(s) regarding proper invitation etiquette. It does seem you have a ...
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| TURNING DOWN A BUSINESS PROPOSITION | 8/7/2009 |
Q: How do I tell the person who is trying to get me involved into a business that I don't want to be a ...
A: How many times have we wished to just tune "out" those fast-pitching salespeople? Or just yell, ...
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| Dual Party Invite | 8/7/2009 |
Q: We are hosting a dinner party for my parents in honor of their 60th Wedding Anniversary and also my ...
A: "L," Thank you first for your inquiry regarding Dual Party Invite. What a wonderful and special ...
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| monetary gifts | 8/6/2009 |
Q: My nephew and his wife a both earning post graduate degrees this year. He last month and hers this ...
A: I wish to thank you for your inquiry regarding post-graduation gifting etiquette. Congratulations ...
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| A Birthday request | 8/6/2009 |
Q: I am sending out invitations to a birthday party in my honor and want to know if I it's ok to say ...
A: Happy Birthday!!! I must have a wee bit more information from you. What do you mean when you say, ...
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| Baby Shower Invites | 8/5/2009 |
Q: My cousin is throwing me a baby shower. My mom wants to invite a set of relatives that I haven't ...
A: While perusing the question pool, I came across your query regarding Baby Shower Invites. What I ...
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| invitation etiquette | 8/4/2009 |
Q: My sister in law asked us to come for dinner in roughly 3 1/2 weeks. We had already commited to ...
A: I am sorry I misconstrued the tone of your sister-in-law. However, I do not know your ...
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| Child's Birthday Party | 8/4/2009 |
Q: We are planning my daughter's birthday party. She will be 5 and we will be going to a local ...
A: I am happy to hear that the invites did not go out. In this day and age, it is understandable that ...
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| Child's Birthday Party | 8/4/2009 |
Q: We are planning my daughter's birthday party. She will be 5 and we will be going to a local ...
A: Let me first thank you for your inquiry regarding children's birthday party etiquette. Wow, 5 years ...
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| How to list 'Mike the third' | 8/4/2009 |
Q: We have to send a thank you to a man named Mike, who is the third, as his father is Mike, Jr. How do ...
A: I wish to thank you for your inquiry regarding proper protocol when addressing someone without an ...
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| car ethiquette | 8/2/2009 |
Q: while travelling with some people, & a husband driving the car where should wife sit other than ...
A: Car seating normally conforms to the situation and the type of vehicle, such as limousine, military ...
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| overnight guests - bed use | 8/2/2009 |
Q: I have two guest bedrooms with one twin bed each which my past overnight guests (girlfriends) use. ...
A: As it is thoughtful of you to offer your home and hospitality, one is not required or expected to ...
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| holding utensils at the table | 7/31/2009 |
Q: I was taught good manners as a child and I am very surprised at the number of people that I see ...
A: It does sound like it is a regional cultural manner of which they were raised. I do not have an ...
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| holding utensils at the table | 7/31/2009 |
Q: I was taught good manners as a child and I am very surprised at the number of people that I see ...
A: Please pardon my misunderstanding of your previous post. The only acceptable forms of dining were ...
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| holding utensils at the table | 7/31/2009 |
Q: I was taught good manners as a child and I am very surprised at the number of people that I see ...
A: First I want to thank you for your inquiry regarding dining etiquette. Second, that is a very good ...
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| Child to allow visitor to use bedroom for one night while the child is away? | 7/27/2009 |
Q: Is it reasonable to ask a child (21 yrs old) to allow a visitor to use their bedroom for one night ...
A: There are some details that maybe you can fill-in. For example, was this a pre-planned visit? Or ...
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| Office etiquette with ex co-workers | 7/23/2009 |
Q: What is the proper etiquette for this situation? An ex office co worker has called and invited me to ...
A: My question to you is what do you think his/her motivation was for the invitation? Was it because ...
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| Seating etiquates while seating in a car. | 7/13/2009 |
Q: There are two ladies & a man in a car; car driven by a lady.Who should sit in the front ?
A: Car seating normally conforms to the situation and the type of vehicle, such as limousine, military ...
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| gravestone etiquette | 7/9/2009 |
Q: Is it proper to have a second wife buried and included on the gravestone of her husband when the ...
A: Your question not only raises social implications, but legal. If you do not mind, I need more ...
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| 1st Birthday party | 7/3/2009 |
Q: we have a bit of a situation and I am just wondering on what is the correct way to go about this. ...
A: You mention several points: one being a child's first party is very special. Second, it sounds like ...
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| appropriate gift | 7/3/2009 |
Q: Just need 40th birthday gift ideas for new love interest. Thanks
A: You are wise in your careful approach to gift giving for a new love interest. Ideally, you would ...
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| asking guests to bring food to a party | 6/30/2009 |
Q: My husband and his siblings are throwing a retirement party for both his parents. It will be at a ...
A: In this economical climate, I fear that if you ask for retirement presents which those gifts cards ...
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| Noisy Neighbors | 6/28/2009 |
Q: My neighbor has 3 young children who play outside all day. No matter what they are doing, it always ...
A: You know they say the fence is your best neighbor and sometimes "they" are right. I must admit you ...
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| Commenting on people's weight | 6/25/2009 |
Q: Is it ok to tell someone they have gained weight, look chubby, look full, etc...in family? My family ...
A: Etiquette is employed to make others feel comfortable both in their own skin and in unfamiliar ...
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| Childs Dance Recital | 6/24/2009 |
Q: I am going to my granddaughters first dance recital and she is 3 years old. Do I bring her a gift ? ...
A: Traditionally, a bouquet of flowers are presented to the dancers after the recital. However, since ...
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| Sales Home Etiquette | 6/23/2009 |
Q: I work in sales and sometimes I am required to make home visits. In a few of the homes I visit my ...
A: It is true whether visiting another country or a guest in someone's house (whether domestic or ...
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| step grandma gift card signing for shower | 6/16/2009 |
Q: my stepson's wife is having a baby shower, should i address the card to the baby or to the parents, ...
A: I discovered your question regarding baby shower etiquette in the question pool. If you permit me ...
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| PHD GRADUATION GIFT | 6/14/2009 |
Q: I have been invited [by phone] to a party for the son of a long time friend who graduated with a ...
A: D. program. Traditionally unlike a graduation announcement, if you receive a graduation invitation, ...
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| Graduation gift or card | 6/3/2009 |
Q: Quandry: an old friend of mine who I rarely see, sent us an invitation to her daughter's HS ...
A: Sorry, I had sent you the follow-up answer but must have gotten crossed. I do apology gfor any ...
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| etiquette for rehersal dinner | 6/2/2009 |
Q: My wife and I will be hosting the wedding rehersal dinner for son at a restaurant we have selected. ...
A: May I congratulate you and your wife on your son's impending nuptials. Traditionally, and still is, ...
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| Graduation gift or card | 6/1/2009 |
Q: Quandry: an old friend of mine who I rarely see, sent us an invitation to her daughter's HS ...
A: You have received an invitation for the daughter's graduation? Right? Invitation, not an ...
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| GOOD MORNING | 6/1/2009 |
Q: I AM THE FIRST TO ARRIVE EVERY MORNING. WITHIN 2 HOURS 10 PEOPLE ARE ARRIVING FOR WORK. MY DESK ...
A: I am assuming that you are not the receptionist, just a very very punctual employee (?) If you are ...
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| A question of modesty | 5/31/2009 |
Q: I have a 52 year old single female friend who's been invited to a party by an aquaintance. She's a ...
A: I am happy to assist in helping you find a solution to oh let's just say a not so easy problem. I ...
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| A question of modesty | 5/30/2009 |
Q: I have a 52 year old single female friend who's been invited to a party by an aquaintance. She's a ...
A: As a prior jury consultant, I can tell you it is easier to change a person's opinion rather than ...
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| Baby Shower Etiquette | 5/30/2009 |
Q: My fiance's sister in law planned her own baby showers and sent out the invitations which said they ...
A: As you are well aware, there are rules and regulation to etiquette. We once had a ...
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| Self-introduction in a clique-y environment | 5/29/2009 |
Q: Hanson, These are two questions folded into one. I occasionally find myself in an environment ...
A: I have had the opportunity to review this question in the question pool. There are various reasons ...
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| dance recital | 5/29/2009 |
Q: both my granddaughter and grandson are in the same creative movement class and will be in the same ...
A: I came across your question regarding dance recital etiquette in the question pool. Since this is a ...
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| High School Graduation Party | 5/29/2009 |
Q: My son is graduating from high school and we are having an at home party after the ceremony. We ...
A: Beck: Congratulations on your son's high school graduation. What a remarkable milestone!!!!!! I ...
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| A question of modesty | 5/29/2009 |
Q: I have a 52 year old single female friend who's been invited to a party by an aquaintance. She's a ...
A: The hardest thing by far is telling a fiend something even if it is good for their own benefit -- it ...
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| Child Birthday Party - LONG DRIVE | 5/28/2009 |
Q: A close friend that I grew up with invites me and my son to her kids birthday parties every year. ...
A: I have come across your question regarding Children's Birthday Party -To go or not to Go and noticed ...
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| graduation party for more than one graduate | 5/28/2009 |
Q: I have been invited to several graduation parties that are for 3 graduates, but I don't know all the ...
A: Usually, the graduation gift is sent prior or brought to the home. This is usually for the close ...
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| Mothers checkook. | 5/28/2009 |
Q: I have a sibling,a brother,who has our Mothers checkbook as she is incapacited & he has been using ...
A: I think this question far surpasses etiquette. What you have here is a "change of heart"(to put it ...
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| Ex-husband giving son graduation gift | 5/28/2009 |
Q: I am in a very strange situation. My ex-husband and I are involved in a lengthy and nasty custody ...
A: Congratulations on your son's impending graduation. To be brief and to the point, divorce is NEVER ...
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| URGENT | 5/28/2009 |
Q: I have a huge dilemma and I don't know what to do. My daughter is a senior in high school. We have ...
A: I want to send a bouquet of "Congratulations" to you, your daughter and family-friends. I ...
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| Which bed should I offer to a guest couple? | 5/26/2009 |
Q: A long married couple that moved out of town a few years ago has indicated they will be in town next ...
A: The fact that you offered shows great hospitality on your part, and I feel always the best approach ...
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| Graduation announcement | 5/26/2009 |
Q: Due to the fact that my daughter was waiting on results of State testing scores, we found out about ...
A: I must congratulate you, your daughter, her family and friends to be able to share this ...
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| dating a widow | 5/25/2009 |
Q: When is it even proper to let a person know you might like to see them socially after they have lost ...
A: I came across this question in the etiquette question pool and noticed that it had not been ...
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| baby shower | 5/24/2009 |
Q: Who can give a baby shower - Grandmother?
A: I came across this question in the etiquette question pool. I notice it had not been answered and ...
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| Is it okay to bring a guest? | 5/22/2009 |
Q: I was invited to a casual social affair that includes dinner on a Saturday by one of my colleagues ...
A: In today's faced paced society, e-mails are an excellent time-and-paper consumer. However, in the ...
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| saying good bye | 5/21/2009 |
Q: My husband just walks out the door with no acknowledgment I always thought that the person leaving ...
A: " Saying "good-bye" is a human response with a multitude of expressions - both verbal and ...
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| Gift required when high school announcement received? | 5/19/2009 |
Q: A young lady I've known since her birth is graduating from high school in two weeks. She sent me a ...
A: Weston: Thank you for your question regarding graduation etiquette. Graduation is a rite of ...
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| Baby shower/engagement party | 5/18/2009 |
Q: I am laying out the invitations for my boss' baby shower/engagement party. How do i word that?How ...
A: First let me commend you on your graciousness in hosting these truly unique and remarkable events in ...
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| Graduation gift | 5/14/2009 |
Q: My nephews graduation is this week my sister and I are very close she is always good to me and my ...
A: However, please provide me with some more information concerning the graduation. Will this be a ...
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| candles to light or not to light | 5/14/2009 |
Q: I was told that it is indicitive of upper class to pre-light the candles and extinguish them before ...
A: I will keep this in mind while doing further research. If I find something of interest, I will ...
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| candles to light or not to light | 5/12/2009 |
Q: I was told that it is indicitive of upper class to pre-light the candles and extinguish them before ...
A: This is truly a unique question! I am interested if you have any additional information surrounding ...
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| Signing Cards | 5/11/2009 |
Q: Should I include kids names when signing/sending cards even if they no longer live at home?
A: It is not necessary to included the children's name in a card if (1# they are over 18 and #2) no ...
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| asking for gifts | 5/8/2009 |
Q: It is polite for a coworker to ask me for a gift after their birthday and then tell me when to bring ...
A: " I feel that I might be lacking some vital information. Was this a mandate from upper management? ...
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