| Subject | Date Asked |
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| upon death of spouse when to remove wedding ring | 8/22/2008 |
Q: How soon after the death of a spouse it is considered "proper" to remove one's wedding ring?
A: The surviving spouse may take off the ring right away (some people insist that it be buried with ...
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| baby showers and grandmothers | 8/21/2008 |
Q: Our daughter will have two baby-showers, one thrown by our side of the family and one by her ...
A: Your wife is not obliged to go to both showers. She did not have enough advance notice for the ...
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| bridal shower hostess gifts | 8/20/2008 |
Q: I just recently had a bridal shower given for me. Well, I just heard from a few coworkers that I ...
A: No,the guest of honor at a shower does not give gifts,she gets them. Write each of your hostesses a ...
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| house guests | 8/20/2008 |
Q: I just finished having my sister-in-law and her 3 kids (10, 5,and 1) stay with my husband and my 2 ...
A: Having good manners is a two way street. You certainly have the right to a quiet work ...
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| Guests Inviting Guests | 8/18/2008 |
Q: Ms. Gamble - Recently, a friend of mine sent out an invitation to a few people, including me, ...
A: Call for clarification on this one. A breezy "..invite whomever you want.." could be interpreted as ...
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| appropriate color for a female guest to wear to a debutante ball... | 8/18/2008 |
Q: My daughter was invited to a debutante ball. She has an elegant floor length gown, the color of ...
A: If your daughter is over thirty,she may wear it. If she is a peer of the debutante,she should find ...
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| Problems with a neighbour not saying thank you. | 8/18/2008 |
Q: I have a neighbour who has recently moved in and is very unfriendly. I live in a studio flat on my ...
A: Not to worry,you don't sound like a victim. Not enough whining. It is not unreasonable for your ...
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| Question | 8/17/2008 |
Q: I am planning on asking 8 or 9 of my husband's close friends to dinner for his 40th birthday at a ...
A: Short answer,you don't. A hostess never gives a party that she cannot afford. If you can only give ...
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| Funeral Etiquette | 8/16/2008 |
Q: My ex-husband of 25 years' mother died. The reason for our divorce was that he was having an affair ...
A: If you were close to your former mother-in-law and truly wish to go express your sympathy to the ...
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| male-female ordering etiquette | 8/13/2008 |
Q: Who is generally expected to order first in a restaurant, the man or woman? I find the ...
A: If you are unhappy,please speak up. You should order first and should not have to 'go dutch' when ...
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| Housewarming ! | 8/12/2008 |
Q: My husband and I are having a housewarming. We have been married for four years and are pretty much ...
A: It is never correct to mention gifts in any way on an invitation. To do so is to tell people that ...
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| issue with addressing people by their names! | 8/10/2008 |
Q: My mom has an issue with people who don't use her name (at least occasionally) when talking to her ...
A: Your mother can do nothing more than she already has. She has asked that her future daughter in law ...
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| family vacation | 8/9/2008 |
Q: My family is taking a vacation together and we decided to rent a beach house. Now, there are 7 ...
A: Get a common concensus among the other families as to what "IS" a family unit. Any adult who has ...
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| social stationary uses | 8/8/2008 |
Q: lately i have been receiving correspondence cards where the sender has run a quick pen line thru ...
A: Crossing your name out is for friends and family only. People you are on a 'first name basis' with. ...
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| social stationary uses | 8/7/2008 |
Q: lately i have been receiving correspondence cards where the sender has run a quick pen line thru ...
A: Old,old custom. It shows that the letter or note has been written by the person and to a friend or ...
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| Wedding Reception | 8/7/2008 |
Q: We are caterers. our bartender brought his daughter to a function where the only children present ...
A: Unless the child was unruly or eating her weight in cake,go with the basic 'babysitting' rate for ...
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| Adult children relationship to parent's spouse | 8/5/2008 |
Q: My ex-husband remarried when our sons were in their teens, to a woman who never wanted to be a ...
A: The key phrase here is "the children are adult". Meaning they know perfectly well who did and did ...
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| Addressing Envelopes Etiquette | 8/5/2008 |
Q: I am in the process of sending out invitations for my Dad's 60th surprise party, however, I am ...
A: Don't be nervous. Make a phone call to the couple that lives together and simply ask. Apologize and ...
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| Card wordings | 8/5/2008 |
Q: I wanted to give a card to a coworker who will be having a major surgery in two weeks. I can't seem ...
A: Good call,most 'get well' cards are either too cheerful or too grim,no middle ground. Dear Tom, ...
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| broken engagement | 8/4/2008 |
Q: My daughter's fiancee' called off their June wedding back in January. They have spent several months ...
A: Your daughter and her young man received gifts to celebrate their engagement,which did indeed ...
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| Lab Coat Etiquette | 8/4/2008 |
Q: Are long lab coats for MDs only? I am an RN, and a Diabetes Education Coordinator and ordered a ...
A: On this subject I defer to my sister,Anne Gamble,RN This is from a conversation with her after I ...
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| no gifts please at wedding party | 8/4/2008 |
Q: We are having a party to celebrate our wedding, about 6 weeks after the ceremony. We are both 60, ...
A: You are correct,gifts are never to be mentioned in any way,shape or form on an invitation. It ...
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| Seating | 8/4/2008 |
Q: When dinning out should couples sit across from each other? For example in a booth. Should the ...
A: A couple may sit on the same side of the booth when (and only when) their ties to organized crime ...
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| Apartment etiquette during campaign season | 8/3/2008 |
Q: Amanda: I live on the third floor of a five-floor walkup in New York, and I'm a supporter of Barack ...
A: As long as placing something semi-permanent on your door doesn't violate the terms of your lease,go ...
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| business cards - when there is no business | 8/2/2008 |
Q: I am between teaching positions as I work on my doctoral dissertation, what information should be ...
A: As these are for 'networking' purposes,please include any information that you feel is relevant. ...
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| new neighbor's and fence | 8/1/2008 |
Q: first I would like to thank you for taking time to read this I will try to be brief but also ...
A: First arm yourself with the facts,then go speak to her or write her a letter. Where are the property ...
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| Dating a Widow | 7/30/2008 |
Q: How does one know when is the appropriate time to approach a women who has been widowed? I have been ...
A: It is still considered appropriate to give a widow or widower a full year before expecting them to ...
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| birthday gifts | 7/30/2008 |
Q: My son is have a rather large birthday party and we do not feel that he needs anymore gifts/toys. I ...
A: Smith, Normally,presents are never mentioned on an invitation in any way,shape or form. ...
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| Wedding Seating | 7/29/2008 |
Q: My brother is getting married in a few weeks and I was just informed that I will be sitting away ...
A: Speak to your brother calmly and tell him how this seating plan makes you feel. It may not change ...
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| being kick all the time | 7/29/2008 |
Q: i dated a girl that work in another department now she date my boss. i dumped her and i assume she ...
A: Begin looking for a new job or keep your head down until this storm blows over. He won't be able to ...
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| Friend's Birthday Party | 7/28/2008 |
Q: I just co-hosted a birthday party for a friend at my house. I put much of the party together and ...
A: Please go ahead and say something. "Hope,thank you so much for co-hosting Jane's birthday party with ...
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| dinner guest inviting another guest | 7/28/2008 |
Q: so dinner will be their treat. When I mentioned the dinner in front of the boyfriend's 14 year old ...
A: Please do not put your hosts in an awkward position by asking if the child can tag along. At 14 he ...
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| 50th wedding anniversary | 7/25/2008 |
Q: My in-laws will be celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary in Sept. 2009. They have 5 children. ...
A: When you and your husband married,you each left your families to form a new one. Your primary duty ...
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| Mother In-Law Gift Etiquette When She's Visiting | 7/24/2008 |
Q: My wife is very close with her mom, and I have the perfect relationship with my Mother In-Law since ...
A: Oh Gary,Gary,Gary... Have you ever heard the saying "You can be right or you can be happy"? ...
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| Etiquette concering ex | 7/24/2008 |
Q: My fiance has 2 grown children and 5 grandchildren. When the grandchildren have birthday parties or ...
A: It sounds as if you need to have a heart to heart talk with your fiance. I did not realize that he ...
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| Do I give a gift for the shower and wedding? | 7/23/2008 |
Q: My step-nephew is getting married for the second time (I attended the first wedding, but was not ...
A: Dead Diane, You are never required to give a gift for any celebration. No one ever has to pay for ...
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| 50th wedding anniversary gift | 7/23/2008 |
Q: We have been invited to a 50th wedding anniversary for parents of relatively close friends. Should ...
A: After 50 years of marriage,they have probably accumulated all of the "stuff" they need. You are not ...
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| 60th anniversary dinner | 7/23/2008 |
Q: My husband and his siblings are going to have a 60th anniv. dinner for their parents at a nice ...
A: No one should ever be required to pay for the privilege of being invited as a guest. Please consider ...
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| wedding invite | 7/22/2008 |
Q: I am invited to my cousins wedding however my 6 year old daughters soccer final and award ceremony ...
A: Explain the situation to your cousin so that there will be no room for misunderstanding or hurt ...
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| social dinner invite | 7/22/2008 |
Q: I am having a bbq dinner and inviting an associate/friend. I don't know if he has a significant ...
A: No need to overly worry about it. Just write something like this: Dear Tom, Pat and I are ...
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| Houseguests | 7/22/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have a vacation home. Each of the past 3 years, long-time friends of ours have ...
A: Good heavens no. It's your home and you may have whomever you like come to stay,especially family. ...
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| Etiquette for death of daughter's friends Father | 7/21/2008 |
Q: The father of my 11 year old daughter's friend, whose parents were recently divorced (NOT amicably), ...
A: Direct your flowers or notes of condolence to the child. She has suffered terribly with this divorce ...
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| Etiquette concering ex | 7/21/2008 |
Q: My fiance has 2 grown children and 5 grandchildren. When the grandchildren have birthday parties or ...
A: As you are planning on marrying this man,please do what you can to establish and maintain a good ...
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| Is it too much to ask of my "house guest" that he let me know when he will be around or not? | 7/21/2008 |
Q: I have a friend staying with me. He stayed with me recently for close to 2 months prior to going ...
A: First off,you are a SAINT. Two months of that with nary a word? In a studio apartment? Now he's back ...
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| Gift for Eagle Scout ceremony | 7/21/2008 |
Q: My husbands nephew,whom we rarely see will be receiving his eagle scout next weekend, is it proper ...
A: Appropriate,but not expected. In other words,only give the nephew something if you really want to. ...
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| protocol in attending bridal showers | 7/20/2008 |
Q: I am invited to my girlfriend's son's wedding. I have purchased a gift certificate, advice received ...
A: You are right not to wish to be roped into paying for this party. A hostess should never give a ...
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| Baby #2 and kids are not 2 years apart | 7/20/2008 |
Q: One of my best friends is pregnant with number 2. She just registered and is wanting a big shower ...
A: A woman should never ask for or even hint that she wants or expects a party given in her honor. ...
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| failed adoption | 7/19/2008 |
Q: I have a dear friend who less than 24 hours after bringing her newly adopted son home, received a ...
A: Letting her know that you are thinking of her would be kind. While there is nothing you can say or ...
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| wedding gift | 7/18/2008 |
Q: How much money is appropriate these days to give at a wedding? This is a close friends daughter. ...
A: As I do not know you or your financial situation,I cannot answer your question. Two dollars might ...
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| WEDDING GIFT | 7/16/2008 |
Q: It's been so long...do I remember the wedding gift is sent to the bride before the wedding? We're ...
A: Yes,please do mail the check to the bride at her home and make it out to her with her maiden name. ...
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| Bridal Shower | 7/15/2008 |
Q: As matron of honor in my friends wedding, I am hosting the bridal shower. Do I need to give a gift ...
A: Please get her a token gift at the very least. I understand that you will be spending time,energy ...
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| Bridal shower gift | 7/15/2008 |
Q: A friend of mine invited me to her bridal shower. My question is, should I buy a gift from the ...
A: A registry may be looked upon as a list of suggestions. You do not need to follow it at all. If the ...
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| wedding venue | 7/15/2008 |
Q: My daughter is engaged and living with her fiance in Atlanta. My husband and I live in the DC ...
A: As you know a bride is traditionally married in her hometown. Even as few as fifty years ago a ...
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| 25th wedding anniversary | 7/14/2008 |
Q: my sister and I are planning my parents 25th wedding anniversary. our budget is pretty tight...so we ...
A: A hostess never gives a party that she cannot afford. The friends and family who will be there to ...
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| holiday visiting etiquette | 7/11/2008 |
Q: My son and daugther in law have been married for 3 years. They live 4 hours away. We invite them ...
A: It sounds as if it is time for your husband to have a heart to heart talk with your son. There is a ...
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| Mom's 75th Birthday Party | 7/10/2008 |
Q: We would like to have a money tree at my Mom's 75th birthday party because at her age, what do they ...
A: There is never a polite way to ask for gifts. An invitation shouldn't ask that the recipient 'pay ...
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| Parents | 7/10/2008 |
Q: I have a tiny efficiency apartment in New York and my parents want to visit for a few days. When I ...
A: No it was not wrong to suggest that they stay in a hotel. You do it saying "No,I won't hear of you ...
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| houseguest | 7/9/2008 |
Q: My daughter is a full time college student home for the summer. Her boyfriend, a full-time out of ...
A: If you have spoken to her about her role and responsibilities are towards the family and all she can ...
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| etiquette - bat mitzvah addresses | 7/7/2008 |
Q: When doing a Bar/Bat Mitzvah these days, it's fairly commonplace to invite only one parent (usually ...
A: Please address her as "Mrs John Doe". It is never correct to use a woman's given first name with ...
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| thanks to neighbors | 7/6/2008 |
Q: My cul-de-sac neighbors recently hosted a party for my family complete with gifts. I have about 15 ...
A: If you have gone to the trouble to write notes to each person (or family) please follow through by ...
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| wedding gifts | 7/4/2008 |
Q: What is the proper gift/ behavior for a partially estranged father at his sons wedding? The step ...
A: If he (the biological father) is invited to be at his son's wedding,he is no different than any ...
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| how to address a sympathy card | 7/3/2008 |
Q: I worked with a gentleman who passed away and would like to send a card to his wife. Should I write ...
A: She properly remains Mrs John Doe until she remarries or dies. It does matter (although the ...
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| Retirement party | 7/2/2008 |
Q: We have an employee retiring after 38 years of service. When we send the invitation to her ...
A: Either speak to her or write her a note. Dear Janet, On July 3,we are planning to hold a ...
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| 50th Anniversary party | 6/30/2008 |
Q: My in-laws have been talking about having a 50th Anniversary party this August. The last time it ...
A: Oh good heavens. What are you? A mind reader? Why didn't your father in law take your husband aside ...
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| wedding question | 6/30/2008 |
Q: I have a question about wedding etiquette. I am my sister's matron of honor- she also has a maid of ...
A: Unless your sister is having a very formal wedding reception, there is no reason you can't sit next ...
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| Family visitors from out of the country | 6/29/2008 |
Q: My brother and sister in law moved out of the country within the past year to a lower cost area. ...
A: Well..there isn't much more that can be said,is there? You have already come to the conclusion ...
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| wording for a party invitation | 6/28/2008 |
Q: I am planning a get together for my husband's 40th, at a nice restaurant I need to know how to word ...
A: A hostess never gives a party that she cannot afford. To ask people to pay for their own dinners is ...
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| Bridal Shower Gifts | 6/27/2008 |
Q: Is is appropriate to give a bride a gift at her bridal shower which is listed on her wedding ...
A: Please go ahead and pick an item off of her registry if you wish. Since the things listed were ...
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| 4th of July Party | 6/27/2008 |
Q: I'm hosting a very small 4th of July cocktail/dinner party. After accepting our invitation, a ...
A: Please tell your friend what you have told me,that this is a very small dinner party and the guest ...
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| proper etiquette for greeting dignitaries | 6/7/2008 |
Q: I'm doing a little research trying to figure out the proper way to greet dignitaries from various ...
A: No,I am sorry I can't tell you of any particular title. If you have any specific country and ...
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| Birthday and Retirement Celebrations | 6/5/2008 |
Q: My co-workers are celebrating certain birthdays in our office. They decide on the date, place, and ...
A: Are you in a position to change the policy? If you are,do so right away. If not,then take it upon ...
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| formal dinner | 6/5/2008 |
Q: I know that the forks are on my left and the knives are on my right, and I know that you eat dinner ...
A: Your fork should be in your dominant hand. If your utensils are stainless steel you may cut the ...
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| gift for graduation of boss' son | 6/4/2008 |
Q: I just received an announcement for my boss' son's high school graduation which is in 3 days. I ...
A: Please write the young man a note of congratulation and be done with it. There is a *good reason for ...
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| Bereavement card etiquette | 6/3/2008 |
Q: My mother-in-law recently passed away and my co-worker/friends -- along with the company CEO -- were ...
A: Please know how sorry I am for your family's loss. The act of writing the thank you notes should be ...
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| How to accept donations towards restaurant meal? | 6/3/2008 |
Q: It's my partner's 50th birthday and I've organised a meal in a restaurant to celebrate with ten of ...
A: Let the friends approach you. If you ask them,it could cause embarrassment. You made the request,so ...
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| Etiquette | 6/2/2008 |
Q: An answer to yourHi, My best female friend's daughter is expecting next month...and as a single man, ...
A: The flowers will be in horrible shape if you wait around with them for 9 or 10 hours. Send (or buy) ...
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| Wedding Date with a friend... | 6/2/2008 |
Q: Ok here goes. A good friend of my recently asked me to go out as her date to a wedding that she ...
A: Valid constructive advice,huh? Well..you've come to the wrong place for that,mister. Kidding,of ...
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| Canceling a party/celebration | 6/2/2008 |
Q: we were planning my son's baptism to be held in a city that was convenient for both my parents and ...
A: You were absolutely right to change the plans to accommodate your Dad's situation. That your in-laws ...
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| Thank You Cards | 6/1/2008 |
Q: I always wondered what is the right thing to do when you receive a thank you card. Do you ...
A: You just mention to the children casually that you received the lovely thank you cards and add ...
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| Seating arrangements for couples at restaurant | 5/31/2008 |
Q: Can you please tell me the correct seating arrangements at a restaurant when 2 couples are dining. ...
A: <Error 187> INVALID RUN INVALID RUN INVALID RUN INVALID RUN INVALID RUN INVALID RUN # # ...
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| graduation party invites | 5/21/2008 |
Q: My son is graduating, and we are planning a party. In the meantime, we have been invited to several ...
A: No one ever has to 'pay for the privilege' of being invited somewhere as a guest. Ever. No present ...
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| death of ex-partner's common law spouse | 5/20/2008 |
Q: My question is a little complicated. I recently learned that that the common law spouse of a woman ...
A: If you wish to write a note to her,please do. An unexpected phone call from you would be an ...
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| Dining Etiquette-male ordering | 5/20/2008 |
Q: I have recently gone out with a man who orders dinner for me. I would assume that he was observing ...
A: In China the man does indeed do all of the ordering of the food. In 2006,Reader's Digest did a ...
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| Birthday | 5/19/2008 |
Q: My question is about creating a registry for a birthday. I'm the oldest of 8 siblings...obviously we ...
A: Thin ice here,but if your family members asked directly for you to give them a list of things your ...
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| Dinner with co-worker | 5/17/2008 |
Q: I've been invited to dinner by a former co-worker. He stays in touch with some of us at work, and ...
A: No,don't take anyone unless you would just be more comfortable at dinner having someone along. It's ...
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| graduation announcements | 5/17/2008 |
Q: We are sending announcements to all aunts and uncles, but was wondering if they should be sent to ...
A: You certainly may send the announcements to the cousins if you wish. An announcement is merely ...
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| Two Bar MItzvah Celebrations--and Gifts? | 5/17/2008 |
Q: My son has a friend whose parents are divorced and are not on great terms. The friend will have two, ...
A: Neither parent should expect your son to 'pay for the privilege' of being a guest by bringing a ...
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| Invited/Uninvited? | 5/17/2008 |
Q: My cousin invited me to a wine tasing tour and noted that she will get together with two other ...
A: Please call the cousin who made the original invitation and ask for clarification. As in "Did I get ...
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| Dress Code | 5/16/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been invited to attend "An Evening got our Members" where we golf. The event ...
A: Bergeron, All of these made up dress codes drive me mad. Stick any two words together and feel ...
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| 60th wedding anniversary announcement | 5/16/2008 |
Q: My husband's parents are celebrating their 60th wedding anniversary and we would like to put an ...
A: Thomas and Irene Doe will be celebrating their 60th wedding anniversary with a private family ...
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| Getting Married | 5/16/2008 |
Q: I am getting married in Aug 2008 and as I am currently working on the wedding invitations I would ...
A: While I understand the problem you have,it is never appropriate to mention gifts in any way on an ...
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| To cancel kid's party or not - low response? | 5/16/2008 |
Q: My 8 year old son invited all of his 2nd grade class to his birthday party at a local bowling ...
A: The worst thing you could do would be to cancel this party. Your child will be so hurt and ...
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| Graduation Party Gifts | 5/16/2008 |
Q: Our son is graduating from elementary school. One of his friend's parent is throwing a graduation ...
A: Everything you need to know is in the line "It's just and excuse to throw a party." No need to take ...
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| invitations | 5/15/2008 |
Q: I would like to invite my brother and his live in girlfriend to my son's graduation. How do I ...
A: Please use two lines: Jane Arkin Herbert Doe ...
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| graduation | 5/14/2008 |
Q: I was wondering how early you should send out high school graduation announcements ANSWER: Dear ...
A: This is a commonly confused pair of terms,so I am happy to help. An invitation asks someone to ...
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| Graduation Announcement | 5/13/2008 |
Q: We just received the graduation annoucement we are to send out for our daughters high school ...
A: Half past two o'clock is correct,two thirty o'clock is not correct. Usually with invitations almost ...
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| gift giving by 13-year-old son | 5/13/2008 |
Q: I have a 13-year-old son. I have been divorced from his mother since he was small, and we share ...
A: It has taken me nearly a full 24 hours to cool down sufficiently so that I may answer this. As ...
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| addressing a wedding invitations | 5/13/2008 |
Q: How would you address a wedding invitation to a couple who is engaged to be married in a couple ...
A: Jane Doe John Adams 123 Race Street Yourtown,ST ...
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| death | 5/13/2008 |
Q: My Uncle recently passed away. My mom asked my sister and I if we were planning on giving a card, ...
A: It is not unusual for people to give money to a family. This is usually done for a young family who ...
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| Etiquette regarding joint birthday party | 5/12/2008 |
Q: I have a close friend who is turning 60 this August. I had planned to throw her a big party but ...
A: Anyone may throw a party for any reason and at any time. I don't understand your territorial ...
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| Wedding gifts | 5/12/2008 |
Q: We are getting married and have received some cash gifts. We do not want to receive wedding ...
A: It is never appropriate to mention gifts on an invitation. So, you did the correct thing there. ...
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| cemetery etiquette | 5/12/2008 |
Q: I'm not sure this falls under the realm of etiquette or not. I might just need advice. I recently ...
A: Please know how sorry I am for your loss. It is a stressful time for you made all the worse by other ...
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| declining an invitaion | 5/12/2008 |
Q: my daughter has been invited to be a debutante and she is not sure about doing this. i feel that a ...
A: If she is really sure that she does NOT want to participate,make her write the letter herself. It ...
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| Fence Etiquette | 5/12/2008 |
Q: My neighbor wants to replace the fence that surrounds his yard. His yard is elevated above my and ...
A: I couldn't quite picture the fence before. Yes,you are correct,my answer remains the same. It's all ...
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| Fence Etiquette | 5/10/2008 |
Q: My neighbor wants to replace the fence that surrounds his yard. His yard is elevated above my and ...
A: Robert Frost wrote "Good fences make good neighbors". If the wall would benefit you as well,why not ...
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| Baby shower gift giving | 5/8/2008 |
Q: I own my own business and have 12 girls working for me. Over the last year several girls have had ...
A: For the love of mud,stay OUT of it. This kind of drama is not something a boss should be getting ...
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| Bridal Shower for Stepdaughter | 5/7/2008 |
Q: My stepdaughter is getting married in June. The shower is at the maid of honor's home but the bride ...
A: Your stepdaughter should not have any part to play in the planning of this party. It is supposed to ...
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| Receiving a Graduation Invitation LATE | 5/7/2008 |
Q: I received an invitation from my nephew's mother 2 days before the graduation, which was being held ...
A: I don't know what you were planning to give the boy,but if it was cash,please up the amount out of ...
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| Graduation Announcement | 5/6/2008 |
Q: My daughter is receiving her DVM soon. She (we) want to send out announcements to our friends. We ...
A: Either you or your daughter may send the announcements. Remember, you're just sending information to ...
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| college graduation party | 4/25/2008 |
Q: I want to plan a party for my son's graduation, but I'm not sure about the time-frame. Is is ...
A: Judy, You may have it on the day or in the weeks after the event. Everyone understands how hectic ...
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| Thinking of You card for an ex father-in-law | 4/25/2008 |
Q: I just found out that my ex father-in-law has been diagnosed with stomach cancer. I have been ...
A: Write a straight forward note to the man. "Dear Joe, Although she admitted later ...
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| Return address | 4/25/2008 |
Q: My sister and I are addressing envelopes for thank-you cards to those who acknowledged the recent ...
A: On this we must defer to the wishes of the good people at the United States Postal System. Please ...
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| House warming party | 4/24/2008 |
Q: Just moved into a new home, I will be giving a crawfish boil/house warming party. I really need some ...
A: To ever mention gift on an invitation is wrong. The only time you may ever express a wish for ...
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| College Graduation Announcement Etiquette | 4/23/2008 |
Q: In two and a half weeks I will be graduating from college. I have gone through some bad times and it ...
A: Your uncle couldn't BE more wrong. An announcement is merely INFORMATION. There is no action ...
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| co-worder | 4/23/2008 |
Q: My boss is stealing my clients by under charging them,is this ok as a boss?
A: It is highly unethical,but as he is your boss,there is probably very little that you can do except ...
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| Wedding Invitation ettique | 4/22/2008 |
Q: I am divorced and my ex wife has remarried. Our son is getting married and the invitation reads. ...
A: It would correctly read "his son",but if your son feels closer to his stepmother,then there is ...
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| Tupperware Parties | 4/22/2008 |
Q: Should you happen to decide to attend a party, are you obligated to buy at least one thing? I am ...
A: I've answered this one before,so I'll share that one with you. As to "why?"--I have no idea. I ...
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| Two dads, one bride... | 4/22/2008 |
Q: My soon to be daughter-in-law has a dilema...she has both a father and a step-father that feel they ...
A: As much as you would like to help your future daughter in law,this is one you need to stay out of. ...
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| Birthday Gifts | 4/21/2008 |
Q: We are having a first birthday party for our triplets. Due to the crazy amount of unneeded toys and ...
A: You may say that you are requesting that no gifts are given, implying that you only want to share ...
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| talking back | 4/21/2008 |
Q: hey amanda i dont know why,but i always talk back when my mom or sisters are mad at me, i just ...
A: Perhaps it is the manner and tone in which you tell them your side of the story that is the problem. ...
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| sympathy cards and email | 4/20/2008 |
Q: After the recent death of my husband I have received many cards and e-mails. I appreciate the ...
A: Please know how very sorry I am for this loss in your life. Those who have suffered a death in the ...
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| doctoral graduation announcements | 4/20/2008 |
Q: I understand that graduation announcements are traditionally "announced" by the parents. However, ...
A: Please send out the announcements in your name. It's far too cutsey to pretend the children are ...
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| Graduation Announcement--Who is the Sender--parent or Graduate? | 4/18/2008 |
Q: The inside envelope on the college graduation envelope should be addressed to the person as if you ...
A: Whomever has the pen in their hand at the critical moment makes the call. If the parents ...
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| Bridal Shower | 4/17/2008 |
Q: I am divorce and so is my spouse to be, what is the protocol regarding the type of bridal shower I ...
A: As bridal and baby showers are to be thrown by the woman's friends, you don't have to think about ...
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| Flowers vs. Plants for death of friends mother | 4/17/2008 |
Q: My co-worker and good friend's mother passed away. 1/2 of our co-workers want to chip in for a ...
A: Plants or flowers are equally acceptable. So take a vote or get a mixed basket with both live plants ...
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| mother of the bride | 4/16/2008 |
Q: I am the long time lover of the mother of the bride and I have been unavoidably invited to attend ...
A: Barker, Please decline the invitation. It would cause undue stress for the parents of the bride to ...
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| graduation gifts | 4/16/2008 |
Q: In recent years we've noticed that kids graduating from high school are expecting a monetary gift. ...
A: Frankly,what the little dears expect is not remotely important. You are never required to give ...
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| RSVP Etiquette | 4/15/2008 |
Q: I was invited to a party that requests an RSVP. To me RSVP means to reply if you are coming to ...
A: RSVP is Répondez s'il vous plaît", a French phrase that translates into "please respond". Anytime ...
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| reply card | 4/14/2008 |
Q: My husband is a physician and over the years we have recieved countless invitations with reply ...
A: Absolutely! If the ubiquitous 'M' does not apply,be ruthless with the pen! People in the ...
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| Funeral Etiquette for the family re: plants/flowers sent | 4/14/2008 |
Q: This past weekend was my Grandmother's funeral. My ex-fiance, as well as my employer both sent ...
A: Please know how sorry I am for not only the loss of a beloved relative,but for the conflict with ...
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| Gift giving | 4/13/2008 |
Q: I am recovering from a major surgery from two weeks ago and will not be returning to work for ...
A: A perfect gift (to me) would be a letter of thanks,written from the heart. Express sincerely what ...
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| funeral etiquette | 4/11/2008 |
Q: What is the proper etiquette for a funeral of your ex-husbands' mother? We have 3 grown children 6 ...
A: Please sit on the friends side of the church and look to your former in-laws for clues as to the ...
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| Mother/wedding gifts | 4/10/2008 |
Q: I was recently married and my mother is demanding to be given a copy of the list of gifts we ...
A: Just say "Well,Mom,I was too embarrassed to say it before,but once we wrote the thank you notes,we ...
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| Graduation announcements for deceased parent | 4/10/2008 |
Q: I will be sending out graduation announcements for my son's H.S. graduation. His father passed away ...
A: Thomas Ford Mitchell son of John Mitchell and Kristen Doe ...
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| introductions-guest of subtenant | 4/9/2008 |
Q: I'm divorced, middle-aged male and sub-tenant on a ranch property consisting of six acres. The main ...
A: Burns, The next time you see your landlord/friend and can casually work it in,just say "You know,I ...
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| grad gift giving | 4/8/2008 |
Q: I had someone ask me this morning if you're required to give graduation gifts to other seniors (at ...
A: You never have to give a gift for any occasion. All you need to do is consider your level of ...
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| Undergraduate Graduation | 4/7/2008 |
Q: I need help ASAP! My boyfriend, his brother, and I are all graduating in May. We are having a ...
A: After all the advice I gave you,that is what you took away from it? No,I don't have to allow for ...
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| wedding scheduling | 4/7/2008 |
Q: My daughter has been planning her JUNE WEDDING since last MAY. The brides guests will mostly come ...
A: It sounds to me as if this niece's wedding is a very convenient excuse not to spend the time and ...
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| Visiting parents bedroom assignment | 4/6/2008 |
Q: I have this idea that when a young couple receive their parents, or an older "distinguished" guest ...
A: No one should have to give up their bedroom for a guest under normal circumstances. The host and/or ...
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| Announcments for College Graduation | 4/5/2008 |
Q: My daughter will be graduating from college later this month. What is the correct etiquette for ...
A: Dawn, An announcement is merely information to be sent to those people you feel would be interested ...
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| Engagement Party Question | 4/4/2008 |
Q: My fiance and I have extremely large families. We are planning on throwing an Engagment Party and ...
A: There is simply no polite way to invite the family members to a wedding related function but not the ...
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| Rude not to invite mother to stay for dinner? | 4/4/2008 |
Q: Recently, I invited my mother (who lives a few steps across the street) to come over and spend a ...
A: Your reasons for not asking her to stay were sound and reasonable. Good manners do not require you ...
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| Surprise Party Dates | 4/3/2008 |
Q: Is it okay to throw a surprise birthday party two weeks after the persons actual birthdate? Previous ...
A: Anyone may give a party at any time and for nearly any reason. Please go ahead and have the surprise ...
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| invitations | 4/2/2008 |
Q: How soon is too soon to send out invitations to a Baby Shower I am cohosting and how late is too ...
A: Two weeks used to be plenty of time for casual parties like a shower. However,with everyone's crazy ...
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| wedding invitation list | 4/2/2008 |
Q: My son will be married in Aug. The wedding will be 3 hours from here in a small church. We have ...
A: ABSOLUTELY! Anyone can throw a party at any time and for nearly any reason. Of course you want to ...
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| Dining out etiquette | 4/1/2008 |
Q: I have a question regarding meal orders when dining out. My fiancé and I will be meeting two other ...
A: Try not to split one item. See if you can't each get a salad or other side dish. Make sure that you ...
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| Not invited to the wedding | 4/1/2008 |
Q: My uncle's daughter is getting married in June, the "Save the Date's" have already gone out and I ...
A: This sounds like a simple case of being overlooked. Accidentally. I say this because you didn't tell ...
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| Funeral Thank you cards | 3/30/2008 |
Q: My mother recently passed away and we have been debating if Thank You cards should be sent to all ...
A: While it is unnecessary to send notes of response for cards and letters of condolence,you may if you ...
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| engagement protocol | 3/28/2008 |
Q: Our son is getting engaged. What is the etiquette regarding calling the brides parents? Who gives ...
A: The bride's family usually gives the engagement party. However,if they cannot afford or have no ...
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| BAPTISM | 3/27/2008 |
Q: I WILL LIKE TO KNOW WHO PAY FOR A CHILD BAPTISM THE PARENTS OR GOD PARENTS
A: The parents take care of the expenses associated with the baptism. A Godparents are responsible for ...
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| dress code for a sweet sixteen | 3/25/2008 |
Q: the sweet sixteen young lady will be wearing red and white; she would like everyone invited to ...
A: The best way to get the word out is by using the grapevine that exists in every social group,but ...
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| Wedding etiquette | 3/24/2008 |
Q: My husband and I have been invited to my nephews wedding but my three adult children and their ...
A: Finch, You have expressed your hurt and disappointment to the groom and he is unmoved. An odd ...
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| Bad Gifts | 3/22/2008 |
Q: My Mother insists on sending my son cheaply/poorly made clothing that doesn't fit his body type or ...
A: While I certainly sympathize with your feelings,you've already answered your ownI know that I should ...
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| wedding gift when you can't attend? | 3/21/2008 |
Q: A family friend is getting married in another state (about a ten hour drive). Some of my family ...
A: Send them a letter of congratulation and offer any thoughtful insights you have learned about ...
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| Funeral etiquette | 3/19/2008 |
Q: My boyfriend's mother passed away Monday night after being in a nursing home for 3 years. I've only ...
A: Ask him. Simply say what you said to me. That you care for him deeply and want to support him in any ...
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| Wedding Invitation Ettiquette | 3/17/2008 |
Q: I understand that it's a no-no to include bridal registry and other gift information with wedding ...
A: While I understand and applaud the sentiment,it's still taboo. Soliciting gifts,even for a selfless ...
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| Proper footwear to go out to eat. | 3/17/2008 |
Q: I like to go to dinner with my husband at family type casual restaurants like Chili's, Red Lobsters, ...
A: This is not an etiquette question. It is a relationship question disguised as a conflict over what ...
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| Should I follow up people that didn't attend my party celebrations | 3/16/2008 |
Q: Last night was my hen's night. It was a fairly intimate event with less than 15 people and almost ...
A: While I am sure that you are disappointed in your friends behavior,it is best to say nothing. "We ...
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| Debutante ball invitation | 3/16/2008 |
Q: My husband and I received an invitation to the debutante ball from 3 girls.We will not be able to ...
A: While it is not necessary to send a gift,you may,if you wish send the girls flowers on or near the ...
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| 40th Birthday | 3/15/2008 |
Q: I'm planning a surprise 40th birthday for my husband at a bowling alley. Should the guests pay for ...
A: A hostess never gives a party that she cannot afford. Address the invitations specifically to the ...
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| baptism announcement | 3/15/2008 |
Q: I baptized my third child on the same day as her first birthday party. the party was a huge affair, ...
A: By all means,send out an announcement to whomever you please. An announcement is merely information ...
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| Why we say "I'm Good" or "Fine" when asked "How are you?" | 3/14/2008 |
Q: I was recently put under the microscope by a somewhat grouchy (at the time) friend, when he recently ...
A: It is just part of normal social interaction. "How are you?" "I am well,thank you,and you?" A ...
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| Wedding Invitation Parent Wording | 3/14/2008 |
Q: Gamble, I am trying to write my wedding invitation verses and I am stuck on how to word the names ...
A: Mr. and Mrs. Joe Smo Smith request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter Ann ...
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| College Graduation | 3/12/2008 |
Q: I will be graduating this August with my BS in Business administration. I am 37 years old. I also am ...
A: By all means,send invitations to your graduation if you wish. Do remember that no one but your ...
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| Whistling | 3/12/2008 |
Q: May I ask when it is rude to whistle. I was always told it is rude to whistle when not in private.
A: The 'rules' came about because most whistling is very annoying. Few people who whistle do it ...
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| baby shower's | 3/12/2008 |
Q: I recently received a message on myspace from the step-mother of my husband's best friends wife ...
A: "step-mother of my husband's best friends wife..." What? Oh, never mind,it doesn't matter. It's 20 ...
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| Conversational Etiquette | 3/11/2008 |
Q: Today I was having a conversation with my mother (86) and my son (17). In the middle of the ...
A: What matters here is that your Mother felt left out. You should have just said "I'm sorry Mom. We ...
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| Gum Chewing | 3/11/2008 |
Q: When is it considered bad manners to chew gum?
A: The penalty for smuggling gum into Singapore is a year in prison and a 10,000 dollar fine. This ...
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| son's wedding | 3/10/2008 |
Q: My son proposed 4.5 weeks after he and his fiancee started dating. They have set a date of June 20, ...
A: There really is nothing to be done. I understand that you are trying to smooth the path for your son ...
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| sympathy cards | 3/9/2008 |
Q: My sister-in-law recently died. My husband has been getting some sympathy cards addressed to both of ...
A: Please know how sorry I am for your loss. Death is an awkward and painful event for everyone ...
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| Theater | 3/8/2008 |
Q: At the theater, when one is passing in front of other patrons in order to reach his/her seat, should ...
A: Apostolou, Emily Post said you face forward,toward the stage. What her reasoning was,I do not ...
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| New neighbor | 3/7/2008 |
Q: I rented and moved into a house 2 weeks ago. Earlier this week there was a calling card in my ...
A: No 'hostess gift' required. Just show up and be charming and polite so that she knows there isn't an ...
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| Dissertation Chair Gift? | 3/7/2008 |
Q: I'm about to finish graduate school. Should I give my dissertation chair a gift? And if so, what ...
A: Congratulations! Give a gift,but make it personal. You've paid for your education,so a ...
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| paying for friend's dinner | 3/7/2008 |
Q: Recently, my husband and went out to eat with his cousin, whom we don't see very often. As we sat ...
A: There is nothing wrong with getting the matter settled before you eat. I prefer to have a word with ...
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| Wedding Shower | 3/6/2008 |
Q: I am the maid of honor for my sisters wedding. She is planning to invite only immediate family and ...
A: If you do invite these relatives to the shower but not the wedding itself,be prepared for fifty ...
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| 2 cats and 1 fiance | 3/5/2008 |
Q: Yesterday, my fiance called me to ask how my day went. I told him how it went and asked him how his ...
A: Oh dear. What is he going to do when you have kids? This isn't about the cats. Fights in ...
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| Unannounced Visitor!! | 3/5/2008 |
Q: My roommate and I are in a bit of a situation. We live in a basement suite, while the landlord and ...
A: That is a tough spot to be in. She doesn't sound as if she has much of a life and I would bet ...
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| hotel bill single vs family | 3/5/2008 |
Q: Recently we planned on ending our husbands and some of the kids painballing. I found a place and ...
A: Split the cost evenly,but see to it that the men without children get some benefits. Like maybe the ...
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| "address" for baptism reception | 3/4/2008 |
Q: My son is being baptized soon, and at our church, baptism takes place during the regular worship ...
A: "Reception to follow in Holloway Fellowship Hall immediately after the service." Lets them know it ...
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| Class Reunion Protocol | 3/2/2008 |
Q: It is time for my 30th class reunion. The class officers did the 5th, 10th, and 20th. However, ...
A: Make one last effort to contact these two class officers. Leave a message saying "If we don't hear ...
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| College Graduation | 3/2/2008 |
Q: Our eldest daughter, and the eldest grandaughter, is graduating from college in May. What is the ...
A: Announcements is merely a way of conveying information. There is no action required on the part of ...
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| Sending a birthday card to my son's ex-girlfriend | 2/29/2008 |
Q: I would like to send a birthday card to my son's previous girlfriend, who is truly sweet and whom I ...
A: While I understand why you want to do it,you have the maturity and life experience to know that it's ...
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| "Future Lawyers"? | 2/29/2008 |
Q: Gamble: I am a high school student with high hopes of becoming an attorney. I have done Mock ...
A: I can certainly see where it would annoy you,but try to let it go. The next term that you will be ...
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| Charging Guests for Friend's B-Day Party | 2/29/2008 |
Q: I'm throwing my best friend a 30th b-day party at a Karaoke bar. The private room for 2hrs is around ...
A: Never give a party that you cannot afford. People never should have to pay for the privilege of ...
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| proper word phrasing | 2/19/2008 |
Q: I am throwing a party for my father's 70th birthday. I am a poor teacher, however. So, I can pay for ...
A: It is criminal what we pay teachers,isn't it? A hostess never gives a party that she cannot afford. ...
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| anniversary party | 2/15/2008 |
Q: I will be attending a combination 25th and 50th Wedding Anniversary party. Renewing of vows will be ...
A: He should wear the tie and if he sees others are not wearing them,he can ditch it. Better to be ...
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| Recomendation letters | 2/15/2008 |
Q: I was asked to write a recommendation letter for a neighbors son for a scholarship for college. At ...
A: Most scholarship committees and private clubs that require a letter want it to be private. They want ...
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| inlaws | 2/14/2008 |
Q: My baby is due in three months and my inlaws are already planning on staying with us when the baby ...
A: Madness. You are going to be giving birth and,almost immediately after,be forced to sleep on the ...
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| Responding to an invitation to a "party that is not a party" ie tupperware, Partylite, | 2/14/2008 |
Q: Is there an obligation to respond to the RSVP of a non-party like a tupperware party? Or is it ...
A: Oh don't get me started on poorly disguised pyramid schemes. "Recruit 3 friends and become a ...
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| Mom's birthday invitation | 2/14/2008 |
Q: I'm having a birthday party for my mom at a local restaurant. I am trying to figure out how I am ...
A: A hostess never gives a party that she cannot afford. Please consider adjusting your plans to just ...
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| passed bar exam party | 2/13/2008 |
Q: I was invited to a party for a cousin who passed the bar exam. They are now officially an attorney ...
A: Send a card or a note of congratulation only. She just needs your good wishes for a successful ...
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| baby shower etiquette | 2/13/2008 |
Q: I am having my second child, which was a hard won battle at 42. My friends keep saying "When is the ...
A: An announcement is merely information that is sent to those who may wish to know it. No action is ...
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| Bridal Shower | 2/13/2008 |
Q: I would like to have a Bridal Luncheon/ Shower for my son's fiance at a lovely Inn.My son and fiance ...
A: A relative may give a party in honor of the bride to be,they may not properly host a shower. ...
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| Engagement Party | 2/12/2008 |
Q: Who should give an engagement party when the couple is paying for their own wedding? How long after ...
A: Anyone may give a party at any time and for any reason. With an engagement,the party needs to be ...
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| etiquette for a widow recently bereaved | 2/12/2008 |
Q: What is the etiquette for a widow recently bereaved regarding responding to notes of condolences, ...
A: She gets a pass on 'normal' for a solid year. No one who has suffered such a loss has to do ...
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| How to address a sympathy card after the death of a husband | 2/11/2008 |
Q: how do you address a sympathy card to the widow? Should it be Jane Smith or Mrs. Jane Smith or Mrs. ...
A: She is "Mrs Robert Smith" until she dies or remarries. She can also be properly addressed as "Jane ...
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| Getting Married | 2/11/2008 |
Q: I would like to know if it is improper to get married on your birthday. I am planning a wedding and ...
A: No,there is nothing incorrect or unlucky about getting married on your birthday. I wish you and your ...
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| Table manner early start | 2/11/2008 |
Q: I considered myself well mannered, however at a recent gathering in a restaurant, a group of 20 ...
A: One of the people who hasn't been served needs to say "I hope everyone else will agree with me ...
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| correcting others | 2/11/2008 |
Q: My Mom thinks it is bad manners if you use improper grammar or mispronounce peoples' names. So she ...
A: Your Mom should only correct those she has personally brought into this world. Everyone else she ...
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| PotLucks | 2/10/2008 |
Q: I have been called rude because I hosted a potluck dinner this fall. My husband & I are in our ...
A: In 1621,a very famous pot luck was held in this country. We now celebrate the anniversary annually ...
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| complaints | 2/10/2008 |
Q: I recently hosted a Valentines Ball for a City Wide social group. Each person paid $27.50 for a ...
A: If people paid for their tickets,you were not the hostess,you were the planner or organizer. At ...
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| how to address bridal shower invitations........ | 2/10/2008 |
Q: how do address bridal shower invitations for just women with daughters, can I say Mrs. Jane Smith ...
A: Please use two lines: Mrs Robert Smith Misses Amy & Ann Smith ...
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| Proper Etiquette when interacting with someone who rejected you | 2/10/2008 |
Q: This is my first time on your site. I am a bisexual sophomore in college and a few weeks ago I ...
A: Lauren, Asking someone over to your room is a casual thing. It wouldn't be clear to anyone that ...
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| Not be introduced | 2/10/2008 |
Q: My husband has the habit of not introducing me. If we are at a store and someone comes up and speaks ...
A: First what you do is kick him. In the shin. What? Your state and local laws don't allow for that ...
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| An adult visiting-daughter's response | 2/9/2008 |
Q: A adult daughter has been home with her parents for week one of a 16-week stay. The Dad has just ...
A: As they raised her,they may respond in pretty much any way that they see fit. The options are to ask ...
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| destination wedding invitations | 2/8/2008 |
Q: We are getting married in Las Vegas in October and will be sending out save the date cards shortly ...
A: These are special circumstances,ignore 'the rule' and do what you need to do to get a proper head ...
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| Was I wrong being upset about a birthday gift? | 2/8/2008 |
Q: I had a birthday in December and my friends and I went out for a birthday dinner. I thought that a ...
A: In short,yes,you were wrong. You over-reacted and behaved like a child. I don't know what her ...
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| Unexpected guests | 2/8/2008 |
Q: I need to know how to handle unexpected company that show up every January from out of state. These ...
A: It's your house and it's time to take it back. Having good manners does not mean you have to be a ...
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| Debutante gifts | 2/8/2008 |
Q: Our guest list for my daughter's debutante ball includes good friends of ours, but they are not well ...
A: Only very close family and friends give a deb gifts. People who are so close to the girl that they ...
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| Funeral's | 2/8/2008 |
Q: My mother passed away a few years ago. She lived in Texas and my husband’s brothers lived in ...
A: Each situation is different and as I do not know your family, there is no way to comment on the ...
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| Receving duplicate gifts from friends | 2/8/2008 |
Q: I was left in a tight spot recently regarding duplicated birthday gifts from 2 friends. Friend #1 ...
A: You meant to do a kindness by heading off a 'smart Aleck' (and don't we all have those in our ...
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| Addressing a family with different last names | 2/8/2008 |
Q: In the situation where the Mom kept her last name and kids have Dad's last name. How would you ...
A: Just use two lines,or three depending on how old the kids are. Elise Howard ...
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| Etiquette for writing thank you cards for gifts | 2/7/2008 |
Q: I've been having an argument with my mother about something. My mother insists that no matter the ...
A: Perhaps I can help you look at this situation differently. For whatever reason,this great aunt feels ...
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| Taking food to someone's home | 2/7/2008 |
Q: If someone is in town after an extended absence and you call that person and ask if you can come ...
A: Please give them a couple of options and leave it open to other suggestions. As in "I was thinking ...
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| Baby shower | 2/7/2008 |
Q: A friend is adopting a baby from China and I would like to host a shower for her. In speaking with ...
A: A hostess never throws a party that she cannot afford. Offer your guests only the coffee and dessert ...
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| 40th anniversary question | 2/7/2008 |
Q: My parents will be celebrating their 40th wedding anniversary on Feb. 17th. My father is in poor ...
A: Add a line like this one at the end of the announcement: While Mr and Mrs Thompson are unable to ...
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| TABLE SETTING | 2/6/2008 |
Q: For a formal dinner for 10, I have 10 wine glasses and only 4 water glasses. It is OK to set your ...
A: You don't say just who is coming to dinner,but I am guessing it's family and friends? Please go ...
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| when are thank you cards necessary | 2/6/2008 |
Q: A friend of mines in-laws are mad at her for not sending thank you cards to the people that came to ...
A: Good heavens NO. Listen,this friend of yours has suffered a horrible loss. She officially gets a ...
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| Vow renewals | 2/6/2008 |
Q: What is the gift giving expectations for a couple who are renewing their wedding vows after 25 ...
A: A gift is never required for any reason or any occasion. So it has to be a question of how much ...
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| wedding dress mob | 2/6/2008 |
Q: can the mother of the bride and mother of the groom wear the same color dress
A: If the dresses were of a dark color,say navy,then it would be fine,people would be looking at the ...
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| ordination of a bishop | 2/5/2008 |
Q: I was invited to a ordination of a bishop (a distant relative) I responded by rsvp date that I would ...
A: You are not required to give a gift,but if you do,the traditional route is to make a donation to the ...
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| Destination wedding etiquette | 1/31/2008 |
Q: As mother of the groom can I have a after wedding reception for our side of the family - we are a ...
A: Absolutely. Anyone may give a party for any reason and at any time. I wish your son and his bride ...
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| All expense paid wedding | 1/31/2008 |
Q: A very close friend is having a wedding in Maui, small about 50 people. He is paying for flights ...
A: It doesn't matter if they get married in the park and served you all day old donuts or have a ...
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| party invites - adults only | 1/31/2008 |
Q: How do I politely state (in a surprise birthday invitation) that party is for adults only AND ...
A: Dear Members of The Westwood Trails Group, On Saturday,February 16th there will be a surprise ...
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| wedding gown | 1/31/2008 |
Q: the back to my gown is open,but im not going braless.a strapless bra wont help because you can still ...
A: Well..not sure that this is technically an etiquette question, but I'm here to help. I Googled the ...
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| How can I get this woman to quit bothering me? | 1/31/2008 |
Q: My mother died in April 2003. A lady whom I had not seen in about 23 years came over. All she did ...
A: Losing a parent can be stressful,I know. This woman probably meant well,but if it was 'creepy' to ...
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| singing manners | 1/31/2008 |
Q: Is it bad manners to hum or sing along with recorded music in the presence of my husband, in our ...
A: Frohmader, Well..let's see..if the couple is newly wed,singing out of tune would be considered a ...
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| death of a friend's husband | 1/31/2008 |
Q: We took up a collection at work for good friend who just lost her husband and there is controversy ...
A: Have someone write her a check and include it in with a condolence note. Dear Sue, We are ...
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| appropriate gift | 1/30/2008 |
Q: Is there an appropriate for a college graduate who made All-American for football. Family having a ...
A: Mercurio, You are not required to give a gift unless you expressly wish to do so. Let your level ...
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| wedding shower | 1/30/2008 |
Q: What is the protocol on giving a shower or come and go tea for a bride who is planning a small ...
A: Please do not invite people to the shower if they have no hope of getting an invitation to the ...
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| engagement party guest list | 1/30/2008 |
Q: Our wedding is in Aspen, CO...we live in Atlanta, GA. We are having a pretty small wedding and ...
A: Please don't invite people to the engagement party if you have no intention of sending them an ...
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| Formal attire for Franco-Mexican wedding | 1/29/2008 |
Q: My husband and I are attending a 4 PM wedding in Cuernavaca on Feb. 16 (two very wealthy families). ...
A: Well..I e-mailed a few people in Cuernavaca and still have not heard anything,so I guess I will have ...
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| favors for neighbors | 1/28/2008 |
Q: I live on a street where neighbors are generally very friendly and social with each other, though we ...
A: You don't need a concrete reason to say no. The phrase "I'm sorry,it just wouldn't be convenient for ...
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| Is it appropriate to kiss on the lips? | 1/28/2008 |
Q: I've been dating a man for a year and a half. He is best friends with a woman. I accept this, ...
A: How..European of him! Look,bottom line,you are the girlfriend. If you are not okay with this,then ...
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| Baby/wedding showers | 1/28/2008 |
Q: I was taught by my mother that family members do not host showers for other family members. This ...
A: Your Mom's advice was absolutely correct. It's one thing for close friends to give you a small ...
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| Photo Christmas cards | 1/27/2008 |
Q: When sending photo Christmas cards should the whole family if they live under one roof be in the ...
A: You may have anyone in the photo that you wish. Keith Richards,if he's passing by,can be in your ...
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| Birth Congratulations | 1/26/2008 |
Q: When someone has a new baby, is it correct to congratulate just the parents? I have noticed ...
A: It is always a good idea to make a fuss over a new baby to the siblings. After all,they may not ...
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| gift registry | 1/26/2008 |
Q: How many stores should a person normally register at. I heard two but I was unsure. is it bad ...
A: Gift registries are at complete odds with etiquette. They were created by stores as a way to make ...
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| surprise party invitations | 1/25/2008 |
Q: I am planning a surprise birthday party for my fiance. The plan is for everyone to meet at a local ...
A: You are hosting the party,your young man is the guest of honor. All expenses would be paid by you. ...
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| Vacation House | 1/25/2008 |
Q: A wealthy friend who lives in the UK came into a lot of money and decided to rent a vacation house ...
A: You are correct. You cannot and should not pay her back 'in full'. This is her gift to you and let ...
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| golden anniversary gifts | 1/25/2008 |
Q: We are planning a 50th anniversary party for my parents.They never had a real wedding or honeymoon ...
A: There is never a polite way to ask for gifts. While I understand your desire to give your parents a ...
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| miscarrage | 1/25/2008 |
Q: My niece had a miscarrage, is it OK to send a sympathy card, or a plain card and write in it, don't ...
A: Please write her a note letting her know how sorry you are that this terrible loss occurred. It's ...
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| 75th Dinner Birthday Party | 1/24/2008 |
Q: A church member has asked me to print programs for her mother's 75th birthday party. The family is ...
A: You do you have any more information to share with me? This is too incomplete a question for me to ...
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| Country Club Sponsor | 1/24/2008 |
Q: A friend of mine wants to have her wedding reception at a local country club. To do this, she has ...
A: Please don't get involved in this situation. It will be miserable for you all around. Your friend ...
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| Brides maids dress | 1/23/2008 |
Q: Should parents of bride pay for BRIDESMAIDS DRESS.
A: Only if they can afford to do so. Not many people can pay for the dresses,so it is sort of ...
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| 50th Anniversary Dinner (out of town) | 1/23/2008 |
Q: My husband is planning our 50th Anniversary getaway, that includes dinner planning at an expensive ...
A: A host never gives a party that he cannot afford. Your friends should not have to 'pay for the ...
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| Wedding GIft Giving | 1/23/2008 |
Q: If I attended the Bridal Shower and gave a gift, is it ok to delay the wedding gift for a few ...
A: You never have to give a gift for any occasion. It is not 'required'. I am sure that your friends ...
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| Proper time to send Fundraiser Invitations | 1/23/2008 |
Q: How long before a fundraiser should we send the invitations? We are sending Save the Date cards ...
A: If you send the cards out too early,you run the risk of people forgetting. Six months out is ...
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| Funeral | 1/23/2008 |
Q: My friend's mother-in-law recently passed away and my sister and I (who are friends with her)sent ...
A: As politely as you can manage,please smack your sister upside the head and tell her to get over ...
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| "Black Cocktail Attire" | 1/22/2008 |
Q: I am attending a casino theme party and the attire is listed as "black cocktail". What exactly does ...
A: It's official. The world has gone mad. There seems to be a great need for people to make up these ...
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| Weddings & receptions | 1/22/2008 |
Q: I'm getting married in August 2008.. I want to know if it is considered "cheap" to make you own ...
A: It is never wrong to stick to a budget you have made or use the materials that would be best for ...
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| ex-girfriend of husband & card signing | 1/22/2008 |
Q: I would like your opinion on a touchy situation; every year on my husband's AA anniversary a card is ...
A: I think it's great that your husband has found a program that he can stick to and you shouldn't ...
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| my ex husband father died should i attend the funeral | 1/22/2008 |
Q: My ExHusband of 10yrs father is passing away. They have given him a week. This is the grandfather of ...
A: Can you not call him? You have children together,you must still speak occasionally. Just tell him ...
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| Birthday invitation - Dutch treat | 1/22/2008 |
Q: My friend is having a surprise 50th birthday party for her husband next month and would like it to ...
A: I'm sorry,but there is no polite way to tell people that they must pay for the privilege of being ...
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| Gifts from biological mother | 1/22/2008 |
Q: My husband recently received custody of his 3 children (my stepchildren) from his first marriage, ...
A: It wasn't wrong for you to have the children write thank you notes. It was very thoughtful. I do ...
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| how child address adult | 1/22/2008 |
Q: We recently moved to a new neighborhood. Two male neighbors have requested that our children call ...
A: The children should call the men by their first names. Even though it goes against what you would ...
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| Thank you notes | 1/22/2008 |
Q: If the recipient of the gift thanks you at the time you give the gift to them, is a thank you note ...
A: You don't say how old your nephew is in your question. If the person (any person) receiving the gift ...
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| parents gift for second daughter's wedding | 1/21/2008 |
Q: My daughter is planning to get married this year. She doesn't anything more than a court house ...
A: You owe her nothing. She is not entitled to anything more than you wish to give her. End of story. ...
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| thank you envelope | 1/21/2008 |
Q: How do you address a thank you envelope for a bridal shower gift from a friend or famliy member? My ...
A: If you're writing the thank you note,you get to choose. An honorific is never 'wrong' but as of the ...
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| Addressing a thank you note to a child | 1/21/2008 |
Q: Is it still appropriate to address a male child as "Master" (John Smith)? If so, at what age do you ...
A: The honorific 'Master' is appropriate to use up until the age of 13. It has fallen out of fashion,at ...
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| To use or not to use the gravy ladle | 1/19/2008 |
Q: My question may seem somewhat trivial but it is a real difference of opinion at our family "holiday" ...
A: To well, or not to well, that is theWhether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer The slings and arrows ...
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| Graduation Invitations | 1/18/2008 |
Q: My daughter would like to invite a few of her teachers from grade school,middle school,and high ...
A: As the invitations (to teachers) are going to be few in number,please have your daughter write each ...
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| Sequence or Order of Professional Designations | 1/18/2008 |
Q: Is there a sequence or order to Professional Designations that a person lists? Is it in the order ...
A: Please list them in the order they were earned by you. Makes it simple and logical for the person ...
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| Christmas thank you cards | 1/18/2008 |
Q: Is it neccesary to send a Christmas thank you card to friends and family when the Christmas cards ...
A: If you did not get the gift in the presence of the giver, please do send them a note. You are ...
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| Street Meetings | 1/18/2008 |
Q: What is the proper etiquette on acknowledging a stranger on the street? (ie-saying hello, nodding or ...
A: Depends entirely on the size of the city. What will be a friendly gesture in one place will get you ...
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| not invited to be in cousins wedding | 1/17/2008 |
Q: My husband is very hurt that he is not invited to be a part of his 1st cousins wedding party, they ...
A: We are often hurt and disappointed when other people fail to meet our expectations. Meanwhile,the ...
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| Drinking off a bottle. | 1/17/2008 |
Q: Is it good manners to drink off a soda/beer bottle at a dinning table?
A: No. It looks horrible and why people do it,I will never know. Unless someone is at the beach or ...
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| 60% Seating at a Wedding? | 1/17/2008 |
Q: I am getting married in June 08' and renting a Tent. We will have one main tent and then a side ...
A: Perhaps I should have given a straight answer. But,you guessed it,I have never heard of this ...
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| Thanks you cards at Christmas Time | 1/16/2008 |
Q: My question is, is it appropriate to send thank you cards to the people who send us Christmas gifts? ...
A: I wonder where your neighbor ever got that idea? It is never wrong to send a thank you note for a ...
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| Engagement Party Gift | 1/16/2008 |
Q: If you are invited to an engagement party, is a gift expected? This is a first for me.
A: You are never required to pay for the privilege of being invited as a guest. This applies to any ...
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| Evening Wear | 1/16/2008 |
Q: For a black tie event is it necessary to wear a long evening gown or is social cocktail length ...
A: Ah,that's the joy of being a woman. We can get away with either and not apologize for it. Yes,a ...
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| Tipping/Dinner Parties | 1/16/2008 |
Q: Gamble, I am going to host a dinner party at a restaurant to celebrate my birthday. I was wondering ...
A: Pre-paying for the valet parking is an excellent idea. Very thoughtful of you. Most restaurants ...
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| Whistling inside the house | 1/16/2008 |
Q: Is it improper to whistle inside the house and what is the reasoning for it?
A: If it is your house,you are free to whistle in it. The 'rules' came about because most whistling is ...
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| Travel Expenses for family guests | 1/16/2008 |
Q: My sister moved to Florida ten years ago. She has four daughters. I and my family live in ...
A: The only person responsible for a guest's hotel bill is the guest. If the financial burden is too ...
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| Mom's retirement party | 1/15/2008 |
Q: My mother is retiring from a long successful career in publishing. My stepfather and I felt we ...
A: Anyone may give a party at any time and for any reason. I think that celebrating your Mom's career ...
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| question on etiquette | 1/15/2008 |
Q: my question is My daughter just got engaged I am planning on making a surprise engagement party the ...
A: No,there is no polite way to ask for gifts on an invitation,I'm sorry. People never should be made ...
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| hostess gifts | 1/13/2008 |
Q: Is it better to open a bottle of wine that you receive as a gift from a friend who you have invited ...
A: As the hostess,the choice is yours. Most people do not open the wine that is brought simply because ...
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| Funeral etiquite | 1/13/2008 |
Q: One of my best friends just lost her uncle that she hasn't seen in years due to his incarceration. ...
A: By saying "This is obviously a deeply distressing event for everyone. I think it would be best if I ...
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| driving from events | 1/13/2008 |
Q: When departing a dance or social event, is a man obligated to wait for a woman in another car to ...
A: No. Once you have seen the woman to her car,your obligation has ended. It is up to the woman to ...
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| No Gift Southern custom? | 1/13/2008 |
Q: My daughter was married in the church she has attended since birth. Many of our guests did not give ...
A: A wedding is a sacrament. A solemn religious service that is one of the most important in our lives. ...
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| Thank yous | 1/13/2008 |
Q: How should I properly thank someone who has given money for a Catholic Mass?
A: Write a simple note of thanks. "Dear Mrs Simpson, Your kind donation for the Mass in ...
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| shower invitations | 1/12/2008 |
Q: Is is proper to invite a relatively "new" girl friend of the groom's dad to a shower when their ...
A: WOW. Yes,it will make for an uncomfortable situation, but if the bride wants this woman at the ...
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| tombstone | 1/11/2008 |
Q: my mom recently passed away. she was married 4 times we are not sure what to write on the ...
A: This is entirely up to you to decide. Grave markers may contain as much or as little information as ...
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| child birthday party invite etiquette | 1/11/2008 |
Q: I have a 5 year old daughter, and a girl in her class is having a birthday party but has only ...
A: Ouch. Inviting everyone in the class is the best policy. No,there is nothing to be gained by ...
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| High School Graduation Gift | 1/10/2008 |
Q: I received a high school graduation announcement from my friend's daughter whom I have never met. ...
A: An announcement is merely information. It is send to those people who might be interested in ...
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| Grieving ex-boyfriend | 1/9/2008 |
Q: My present girlfriend's ex-boyfriend of more than a year ago recently died. Prior to his death she ...
A: Let's just start out by saying this,you are always allowed to feel exactly as you do. It is how we ...
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| Special Diets and Dinner Parties | 1/9/2008 |
Q: My husband and I both have medically necessary special diets, each of us having a different disease ...
A: Decline all invitations to meals and stick to social outings that avoid all food issues. Art ...
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| birthday party etiquette | 1/9/2008 |
Q: I have always believed that if a child is invited ot a birthday party and is unable to attend that ...
A: No one is ever required to give a gift for any occasion. If they attend,if they don't...they never ...
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| manners | 1/9/2008 |
Q: Is it rude to come over to someone's house and talk about any new item they have purchased? Any ...
A: Most of us enjoy it when someone admires a new lamp or vase in our home. The comment should be ...
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| 1st communion | 1/9/2008 |
Q: We are in the process of planning our sons 1st communion, and we do not know what to do in regards ...
A: Sorry,son's life,I meant to say... Dear Carmen, This is a very serious and important day in your ...
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| timing of wedding gift | 1/9/2008 |
Q: My family is all gathering this weekend for a small wedding for my brother (36)down on the beach in ...
A: The bride and groom do not want to have to ship or haul presents back home. Please listen to the ...
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| Cat sitting for in-laws | 1/8/2008 |
Q: My question is about my in-laws cat. They are on vacation in Florida and my husband and I are ...
A: Would you really do that to your in-laws? Make them come home from a vacation to care for a cat? ...
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| picking up the meal check | 1/8/2008 |
Q: We will be visiting several cities out of state and meeting friends for a meal. Are the visitors or ...
A: The visitors and the natives are supposed to fight over who gets to pick up the check. As in ...
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| Birthday party at restaurant | 1/8/2008 |
Q: My father is going to host a surprise 70th birthday party for my mother at her favorite restaurant ...
A: No,you aren't wrong here. Your sister is the one who needs to step back and see the big picture. ...
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| retirement party | 1/8/2008 |
Q: people at work are hosting a retirement party for our secretary. She lives with spouse and 1 child ...
A: You don't say what kind of party this is,but I am going to guess that it is not an open house or ...
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| blowing your nose | 1/8/2008 |
Q: Is it bad manners to blow your nose at the table, while others are eating?
A: Yes. Some people wouldn't mind,bu |
