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| red carpet attire? | 2/5/2004 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: i don't know if i'm in the right place to ask this , but i'll try... i have noticed that some movie ...
A: Sure you're in the right place! I am always happy to help. I do not know the answer BUT I have a ...
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| baby shower etiquette | 2/3/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: My daughter-in-law is expecting a baby in April. They live about one hour from us and 1 and 1/2 ...
A: Definitely include your daughter-in-law's mother in your plans. Even though she may decline, you ...
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| Wedding | 1/8/2004 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: My 26 year old cousin is getting married at the end of February. Her mom called my mom to say who ...
A: Escobar, Rude doesn't even begin to describe it. A person is never EVER expected to "pay for the ...
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| Son and girlfriend problems | 12/15/2003 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: Okay, Son and girlfriend have a major fight (several) girlfriend tells her boss my son hit her. ...
A: Phillips, Wow,dragging the boss and co-workers in to your son's relationship is a huge mistake,but ...
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| Condo Etiquette | 12/7/2003 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: If you live on the top floor of a condo complex and plan to have a party extending past 11:00pm ...
A: , Yes,it is the wisest course of action to invite the neighbors below and beside you. Instead of ...
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| Sharing or bragging? | 12/4/2003 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: I just sent a first question, then thought you might be able to help me with something that has ...
A: Dalrymple, Hello, again! When you would like to share some good or exciting news with family, ...
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| how do you help 6th graders... | 12/1/2003 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: how do you help 6th graders that are underacheivers and disrepectful to the teacher to improve their ...
A: Students of all types need to have rules set up in the classroom. Knowing what is and is not ...
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| jewish wedding - guest etiquette | 11/18/2003 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: We are invited to Jewish Wedding Ceremony and reception (black tie affair). The bride's family is ...
A: Only parents or eccentric great aunts should give the happy couple cash. Those gifts,generally very ...
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| BYOB | 11/16/2003 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: I'm having a fairly large group over for Thanksgiving dinner. In order to not have costs get too far ...
A: Kind of violates the whole spirit of the day to restrict people to only what they've brought. Can ...
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| restaurant manner | 11/1/2003 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: I have to go with friends in a medium level restaurant, for certain reasons i don't want to remove ...
A: It was never considered appceptable to wear a hat indoors, ever. But that was 50 years ago. People ...
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| Introduction | 10/28/2003 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: When introducing two people to each other, what is the correct order. For instance, do you ...
A: When introducing two people to each other, you do need to remember precedence (the order in which ...
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| Dining etiquette | 10/17/2003 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: My husband and I have invited a couple (neighbors) who are very prominent in the military and ...
A: To begin with, you need to relax and not be intimidated. Even though you want the dinner to be ...
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| Guests | 10/10/2003 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: Just some basic guidelines - When you invite people for dinner/barbeque should you be considerate of ...
A: It depends on your definiton of 'guests'. People have a reasonable expectation of being fed within ...
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| Dear Amanda,
My sister-in-law... | 9/29/2003 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: My sister-in-law insists that when gifts are given at a small christening celebration, 25 people, ...
A: No,you aren't wrong. I don't know where you get your toys,but I personally have to: drive several ...
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| baby shower | 9/27/2003 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: My only son (only child) and his wife are expecting their child in a few short weeks. They live ...
A: Of course you were hurt! This child means a great deal to you --as well he should. Of course you ...
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| Is a thank you note enough? | 9/3/2003 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: I am struggling with some college courses that I am taking. My boyfriend's sister is working toward ...
A: Who in heaven's name told you NOT to get her a thank you gift? Are the boyfriend and his sister from ...
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| Donations for birthday gift certifacate | 8/26/2003 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: Manners, We are having a small surprise birthday dinner party (10-15 people)for a friend. Some of us ...
A: Stevens, The guests, who decide to contribute to the gift certificate, should sign the card which ...
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| Introductions | 8/21/2003 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: What is considered the proper greeting after being introduced? When I was growing up "How do you ...
A: Giles, Today during introductions,the greeting "How do you do?" is used for more formal occasions ...
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| Engagement party gift | 8/19/2003 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: I am going to an engagement party this weekend and I have already sent a card of congratulations to ...
A: Engagement parties are really given more for socialization, in order for family and friends to get ...
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| Is this a delimma? | 8/6/2003 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: Monday night some friends ("Smiths")asked us over for a cook-out Friday night. It seems early, but, ...
A: Jones, The simplest way to find out if Brenda is planning to be at the cook-out is to ask The ...
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| etiquette for trips | 7/31/2003 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: If my friend invites a child to go with her daughter on a family vacation who should be expected to ...
A: The family extending the invitation should pay the expenses. Your friend is asking the child to be ...
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| Baby shower | 7/29/2003 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: Who usually gives a baby shower? Is it OK for parents to do it? And is it OK for friends and ...
A: The parents to be may not throw a shower for themselves. The whole point of a shower is for ...
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| Dr. Title | 7/25/2003 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: I appreciated your response to my question two months ago regarding Gravestone Protocol. Now I have ...
A: Simmons, I was always taught that only a medical doctor may use the honorific "Dr.". Most of the ...
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| Dog who piddles ... | 7/22/2003 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: Amanda, I have a two year-old miniature Dachshund named Bonni. She loves to greet house guests at ...
A: Wallerstein! If the disobedient house guests are friends,make them clean up Dear Bonni's accident. ...
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| hollering and or talking loud at work | 7/14/2003 | Mrs. Steven Crawford |
Q: We have a secretary up front who will holler and scream out other employees names when they have a ...
A: Each workplace has different norms of what is acceptable behavior. Your workplace appears to be a ...
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| Dear Amanda Gamble,
I am... | 6/27/2003 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: I am helping my future daughter-in-law address wedding invitations. My question regards the use of ...
A: Becker, A widow keeps her husband's name for the rest of her life or until she remarries. If her ...
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| Jr. and Sr. Usage | 6/27/2003 | Mrs. Steven Crawford |
Q: Crawford, I am helping my future daughter-in-law address wedding invitations. My question regards ...
A: Your mothers and brothers correct form of address remain the same, irrespective of your fathers ...
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| engagement party--gift? | 6/25/2003 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: Gamble, My partner and I have been invited to an engagement party taking place in two weeks time. ...
A: Out of the 600 plus questions that I have answered, only a small percent get any kind of feedback. ...
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| Children's Birthday Parties | 6/16/2003 | Mrs. Steven Crawford |
Q: My 3 year old little boy and I attended a birthday party for a little girl in his pre-school class. ...
A: The birthday child has obligations as mini host or hostess, just as guests have obligations also. ...
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| dining etiquette | 5/20/2003 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: I am wondering what to do with the butter/cracker wrappers, creamer containers etc.? After everyone ...
A: In a casual restaurant that serves crackers,butter and creamer in packets,put the empty containers ...
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| Friends | 5/17/2003 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: Hey, I am having this huge argument with a friend from work over the right to own/use 'insults' or ...
A: The owner of the newly coined insult does indeed retain rights to the insult for the duration of ...
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| Need help ASAP | 5/15/2003 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: A relative of my sister's husband rented a vacation house and invited my sister and her family ...
A: Ramos, You can not just show up and hope that you will be a welcome addition to the house party. ...
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| grauation gifts | 5/15/2003 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: My husband & I will be going to a college graduation dinner for my husband's cousin's 2 sons who ...
A: Kuzawa, If the family of the graduating sons want nothing other than you and your husband's ...
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| college graduation | 5/15/2003 | Mrs. Steven Crawford |
Q: Crawford, My husband & I will be going to a college graduation dinner for my husband's cousin's 2 ...
A: Kuzawa, If an invitation states "no gifts", the guest of honor usually means just this. They are ...
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| ex-wife | 5/7/2003 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: My boyfriend and I have lived together for over 1 year. His mothers 80th Birthday party is coming ...
A: Gargiulo, I can certainly understand why you are upset! Does the boyfriend's sister have a problem ...
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| Thank you for money | 4/26/2003 | Mrs. Steven Crawford |
Q: What is the proper way to say thank you for a wedding gift of money (cash or check)? I feel that ...
A: In your thank you note, I would write thanking the person for the "generous gift" and then write ...
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| Who pays for wedding? | 4/24/2003 | Mrs. Steven Crawford |
Q: Crawford, Hi Ms. Gamble-- This question is just for curiosity's sake. I've long been married. I ...
A: Traditionally, weddings in America are paid for by the bride's family if it is a first wedding and ...
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| Who pays for wedding | 4/24/2003 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: Gamble-- This question is just for curiosity's sake. I've long been married. I was under the ...
A: Please forgive the tardy reply.I thought that I had put myself on 'vacation status' and no questions ...
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| Engagement gift | 4/16/2003 | Mrs. Steven Crawford |
Q: My grand daughter just wrote me a beautiful letter telling me that she has become engaged to the ...
A: What wonderful news. If you are giving a gift which she would use alone (for example a piece of ...
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| Walking in public | 4/14/2003 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: I have heard that when walking with a woman in public, she is to walk on the outside during daylight ...
A: The woman walks on the "inside" of the sidewalk and does not go first up a staircase,etc. This has ...
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