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| Subject | Date Asked | Expert |
| Etiquette when shopping | 4/13/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
| Q: 1) You are at the store, at the cash desk and ready to pay (cash or credit). What is the correct ... A: 1. When paying by cash, count out your money, bills and change, and then hand it to the person at ... | ||
| Dinner | 4/12/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
| Q: I invited a male friend to dinner at my apartment. We had been dating for about three months. I did ... A: Your friend sounds like he needs a little lesson in the art of being a gentleman. Don't get too ... | ||
| Dinning manners | 4/8/2004 | Amanda Gamble |
| Q: I live in Puerto Rico. I was born and raised in Ponce the second largest city in Puerto Rico. After ... A: Mayoral, As I understand it,"buen provencho" is only said once, at the start of the meal. In your ... | ||
| attire | 4/8/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
| Q: Is it socially acceptable for the father of the bride not to wear a boutenniere at his daughter's ... A: Granieri, Normally fathers of the bride and groom wear the same style of boutonniere as the ushers. ... | ||
| Two Invitations must I go with the first one? | 4/6/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
| Q: I received two invitations for events that will occur on the same date and at time. One came on ... A: As long as you have not accepted the first invitation yet, you are certainly free to go to the event ... | ||
| bridal shower invitations | 4/6/2004 | Amanda Gamble |
| Q: I'm throwing a tea party bridal shower for one of my friends, and I don't have much experience with ... A: GOOD NEWS! Since you're throwing the party,you get to make the rules. You get to decide if you want ... | ||
| bridal shower invitations | 4/6/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
| Q: I'm throwing a tea party bridal shower for one of my friends, and I don't have much experience with ... A: Theme bridal showers are common practice and your idea sounds quite thoughtful and romantic, while ... | ||
| WEDDING GIFT NOT GOING | 4/5/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
| Q: CAN YOU TELL ME WHAT IS AN APPROPRIATE AMOUNT TO GIVE FOR A WEDDING IF YOU ARE NOT ATTENDING? A: When you have declined an invitation, it is not necessary to send a gift. However, if you know the ... | ||
| invite | 4/5/2004 | Amanda Gamble |
| Q: Is it ok to invite other people to a private party that were not invited? I have a friend that ... A: Dean, No,it is not okay for a guest to invite others to a party unless told to do so by the ... | ||
| Caterery | 4/2/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
| Q: Do you add a tip to a catering job? A: Miller, When working with a caterer, he or she will give you an agreement or contract to sign after ... | ||
| Shaking hands | 4/1/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
| Q: I will be meeting an elderly couple from Iran, soon. When introduced, should I be the first to ... A: Dalrymple, Handshaking is the traditional form of greeting for Iranians. However, some sources ... | ||
| Neighborhood etiquette | 3/31/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
| Q: What is the guidelines of a respectful neighbor??? Ex. My 6 yr old and 2 yr old children were in my ... A: Ward, You need to set your neighbor straight immediately! He is taking advantage of you and your ... | ||
| Manners | 3/30/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
| Q: Can you give me examples or explain how we all use manners without even knowing? Or, why people ... A: Manners are usually taught by our parents. If taught when a child is very young, they become second ... | ||
| Graduation Announcements | 3/30/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
| Q: Greetings~ I am 51 and about to obtain my MAED. I would like to share the news of this ... A: Congratulations! By all means send out the official announcements, but include a little note that ... | ||
| Graduation Announcements | 3/30/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
| Q: I am a twenty-three year old woman about to graduate from college with a Bachelor of Science degree ... A: Stahle, I would like to begin by congratulating and commending you on your accomplishments. Your ... | ||
| Baby showers | 3/24/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
| Q: Is it expected to invite everyone who attends the baby shower to be invited to the baptism? A: Baptism invitations are extended to family members and close friends. They may be written and mailed ... | ||
| How to politely say no | 3/23/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
| Q: I have many creative hobbies, including scrapbooking and painting (specifically, faux finishing and ... A: I have been trying to answer your question for several days, but my link to AllExperts was not ... | ||
| Galantry | 3/22/2004 | Amanda Gamble |
| Q: I have a free speech to prepare about galantry for tomorrow. I have to know the origin of the ... A: We're not supposed to answer 'homework' questions,but since this for a speech...I'll make an ... | ||
| thank you gifts | 3/22/2004 | Amanda Gamble |
| Q: My 13 year old was invited to spend Spring break with his best friend at his fathers home out of ... A: Yes,you are right to want to reward this brave man! No matter how polite and well behaved the boys ... | ||
| name precedence on memorial plaque | 3/22/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
| Q: I understand you to mean that precedence in the matter of the hypothetical siblings should be given ... A: Stewart, I did some further research and spoke with the owners of memorial companies. They agreed ... | ||
| name precedence on memorial plaque | 3/21/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
| Q: In what order does one enter the first names of deceased family members on a memorial plaque ? For ... A: Stewart, If you didn't list the deceased siblings according to age or birth date, then they could ... | ||
| 50th Wedding Anniversary Announcement | 3/19/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
| Q: We have received an announcement of a 50th wedding anniversary from a couple that we rarely see but ... A: Derrick, It is common practice to send wedding announcements, if there is a small wedding; birth ... | ||
| Salt and Pepper Shakers | 3/17/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
| Q: Which shaker has the most holes, salt or pepper? There is much disagreement, please help! Thanks, ... A: Although there is no set manufacturing standard listed on salt and pepper shakers, it has always ... | ||
| Children, table manners & electronica | 3/15/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
| Q: Is it considered rude for children to bring and engage various electronica (Walkmans w/headphones, ... A: It is extremely rude for children or adults to bring electronic games, cell phones, pagers, etc. to ... | ||
| 50th Wedding Anniversary Celebration | 3/11/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
| Q: Manners, My parents will reach their 50th anniversary in a few weeks. I and my siblings are ... A: As much as you and your siblings would like to help your parents celebrate this milestone in their ... | ||
| falling asleep | 3/5/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
| Q: GOOD DAY, MY WIFE AND I HAD A FRIEND OVER FOR THE EVENING.WE WERE WATCHING A TWO AND A HALF HOUR ... A: Charles, It sounds to me as though your falling asleep was not an intentional act. If you did not ... | ||
| Thank You for Flowers | 3/3/2004 | Amanda Gamble |
| Q: My mother in law botched my son's first haircut (for me) by beginning the haircut without me. She ... A: I don't know if you will get this,but I had a conversation with some friends about the questions I ... | ||
| Etiquette experts | 3/3/2004 | Amanda Gamble |
| Q: I am trying to find an etiquette expert in my area. I am not having any luck looking in the Yellow ... A: Miller, You don't say where it is that you live. However, you can try looking under the key words ... | ||
| anniversary party ??? | 3/2/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
| Q: I am having a 20th anniversary party in late april. I have sent out invitations and response cards. ... A: Since you did not state on your invitation, "Your presence is your present" or "No presents, please" ... | ||
| Rude sister in law | 3/1/2004 | Amanda Gamble |
| Q: My sister in law really irritates me. She does the most disgusting things when we have family ... A: Cochran, This is one of my pet peeves too. New parents seem to be OBSESSED with discussing their ... | ||
| Birthday Dinner Party | 2/25/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
| Q: What is the correct time to invite guests for a casual buffet dinner through a written invitation ... A: Kennon, Two weeks to a month is a good time frame for a written invitation to be sent before an ... | ||
| acknowledging a gift | 2/23/2004 | Amanda Gamble |
| Q: What is the proper way to acknowledge a cash gift? I w ill be retiring soon, and a former co-worker ... A: The wording of your note is perfect. I might add the word 'generous' in front of gift,though. Other ... | ||
| acknowledging a gift | 2/23/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
| Q: What is the proper way to acknowledge a cash gift? I w ill be retiring soon, and a former co-worker ... A: You definitley should write a "Thank You" note to your former co-worker. You are on the right track ... | ||
| social etiquette | 2/18/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
| Q: We have a girl scout troop( 9-10 year old girls). The parents of some of the girls find it ... A: I have to agree with some of the parents on this issue. Children should always address adults ... | ||
| Thank you note | 2/16/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
| Q: My husband and I are among a group of friends/couples who have been invited to a recurring brunch at ... A: Even though this is an open invitation, I would continue to send thank you notes each time you and ... | ||
| Dinner Etiquette: When to put the napkin in your lap | 2/16/2004 | Amanda Gamble |
| Q: I'm having a friendly debate with someone about when to place the napkin in your lap. She says that ... A: Interesting dilemma when you aren't quite sure of the ? standards ? employed by the establishment ... | ||
| Tipping | 2/9/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
| Q: How much should you tip to your hairdresser A: Tipping at the hairdresser's can sometimes involve more than one person. Here are some general ... | ||
| medicines and breathing treatments in living room | 2/7/2004 | Amanda Gamble |
| Q: he takes both the medication and the breathing treatments at perscribed times of the day I feel it ... A: Hagar, Tough one. I can understand not wanting to turn your home into a hospital ward. Does your ... | ||
| Who pays for non-family invited guests at anniversary dinner? | 2/7/2004 | Amanda Gamble |
| Q: Ms. Gamble--we're planning a very small 40th anniv. fete for in-laws, just immediate family and ... A: Berry, Unfortunately,there is no polite way to ask someone to "pay for the privilege" of being a ... | ||
| social ettiqutte and manners | 2/6/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
| Q: what are some of the pointers that sould be displayed by the general public in any occasions. A: The most important thing you can remember when discussing manners and etiquette, is to always treat ... | ||
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Social Etiquette and Good Manners
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Amanda Gamble
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I will answer any etiquette question you`d care to ask! I will be happy to give friendly non-judgmental advice on any situation. Certain cultures and religions that outside of my personal scope of knowledge but I usually know whom to ask when I have a question. Time specific questions may or may not get answered by your deadline.
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I have been writing a daily etiquette advice column for 12 years.
I have taught as well as given lectures on the subject.
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