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| Group Conversation | 10/21/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: Recently something has been bothering me about group conversations. I don't know how to react or ...
A: Vernon, There is a tactic that I have used for years that really works well with any age group, ...
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| Thanksgiving - Offer Accepted and then Declined | 10/19/2004 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: Gamble, A few weeks ago, I invited my cousin and her soon-to-be husband to our home for Thanksgiving ...
A: When it comes to family,I don't much believe in standing on ceremony. If you are genuinely hurt by ...
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| Thanksgiving - Offer Accepted and then Declined | 10/18/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: Manners, A few weeks ago, I invited my cousin and her soon-to-be husband to our home for ...
A: You and your husband have every right to be hurt and insulted. Your cousin has very bad manners. ...
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| good manners sites | 10/16/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: do you know any websites where i can get info about good manners and social ettiquette?
A: If you have any particular questions, you may ask me on allexperts. You may visit my website, which ...
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| Etiquette | 10/10/2004 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: We have accepted an invitation to go to a high priced charity dinner. Our hosts paid for our ...
A: That is a dilemma! Am I to assume that you already have left town and this event is in the next day ...
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| Bragging about money | 10/8/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: My brother-in-law brags constantly about how much money he makes, how much he has made and how much ...
A: So sorry that my response took so long. Your question never showed up on my e-mail and I was not ...
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| Where to Kiss | 10/7/2004 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: I do some volunteer work with a lady every week. When we greet each other we first kissed each ...
A: What country are you from,where is she from and where are you now? I ask because as you say,the ...
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| Etiquettes | 10/7/2004 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: Madam, Am Avi Nash from India. Due to multi-cultural, multi-ethnical background, we follow a set of ...
A: How much of a stranger are we talking about? Is this someone that you see across a crowded room or ...
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| Dress code | 10/6/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: What different categorisation are there in English relating to dress code. Leisure Casual Business ...
A: Van Driessche, Leisure and casual are similar in meaning. Dressy casual usually means no shorts or ...
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| wedding protocol | 10/4/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: I need to know the protocol rules for a Christian wedding. 1. Wedding by the law, who is gona offer ...
A: Roca de Haeussler, There are so many aspects of weddings that I think it would be in your best ...
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| introduction | 9/30/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: how to introduce a person in the USA
A: When introducing people in the United States a person first needs to determine precedence. ...
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| good manners | 9/30/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: what are the good and bad manners in America in the daily life?
A: Good Manners are basically treating other people the way you like to be treated, with respect, ...
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| Re: Walking in public | 9/29/2004 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: I was browsing the site and read the question "Walking in public" and your answer. I was wondering ...
A: The first part was true,the man was supposed to walk on the "outside" or closer to the street. The ...
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| engagement party etiquette | 9/19/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: I was told about a surprise engagement party for myself & fiancee 2 days before because the party ...
A: If your fiance's family members were planning the party, they should definitely apologize to your ...
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| Theatre manners | 9/10/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: I read somewhere that it was not appropriate for ladies to stand at performances when others in the ...
A: Tabacinski, I would be interested to know where you read that it was not appropriate for women to ...
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| Responsibility of Property | 9/8/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: A friend was granted use of my home over the weekend while I was away. While in her care, the home ...
A: This is as much a legal issue as it is a moral and ethical one. To begin with, your friend is no ...
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| Stirngs Attached to an Invitation | 9/7/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: An acquaintance of ours works for a company that is very generous and often buys tables or rounds of ...
A: It is tacky of your acquaintance to invite people to these functions, if he hasn't told them upfront ...
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| restaurant etiquette | 9/2/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: When eating in public, what is the proper way to eat shellfish still in the shell and prepared ...
A: Whenever shellfish is part of a stew or broth, you should eat or drink the stew or broth first,so ...
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| Tipping | 8/31/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: I figured it was ok to tip them but I am more curious if I am supposed to. Is it poor etiquette not ...
A: You are certainly not evil for not tipping them, but they do most likely make minimum wage and it is ...
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| Tipping | 8/31/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: Are you supposed to tip the car wash personnel??
A: Yes, you can tip the car wash attendants, if you like. Sometimes there is a tipping bucket at the ...
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| Bar mitzvah gift | 8/31/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: I am Chinese-American and will be attending my friend's son's bar mitzvah. What would be an ...
A: Chu, Some choices for appropriate gifts for a thirteen-year-old boy for his bar mitzvah would be: ...
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| ediquette | 8/29/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: Is it proper to remain sitting when being introduced to people, who pass by your table while you are ...
A: Dee, Large groups should not stop by tables to chat or make mass introductions. A simple nod and ...
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| Introduction of family members | 8/25/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: Allaire, I would like to know how to introduce my brother's partner correctly. They have been ...
A: Latawiec, When your brother's partner and your brother get married, then and only then will she ...
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| Place mat, table runner, table cloth, charger | 8/25/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: 1. How is a charger used in table setting? Is it necessary to use? Is it a replacement of ...
A: Many years ago, chargers were always made of metal. They were heated and then dinner plates were ...
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| Married Bridesmaid---Is this okay? | 8/16/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: Dr. Manners, My spouse of four years recently served as a bridesmaid in my cousin's wedding (my ...
A: Carter, It is very flattering for a woman to be asked to be an attendant in a wedding, whether she ...
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| Peppermill etiquette | 8/14/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: I work in a large resort hotel as a foodserver. I have worked in a fine dining establishment where ...
A: Fawcett, There is no question that food should be served from the left and removed from the right, ...
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| Dinner Party Etiquette | 8/9/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: My husband's boss has invited us to a Cocktail/Dinner party to be held at a local country club. If ...
A: It is not necessary for you to bring a host/hostess gift to the country club, even though the party ...
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| speak to someone in third person? | 8/8/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: What is the correct, respectful, way to speak to the president: Would the President like more tea? ...
A: If you are speaking directly to the President, you would look at the President and address him or ...
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| formal dinner | 8/6/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: My question is in regard to formal/invitation only lunches/dinners. I recently attended both where ...
A: Walker, When there is an invocation, the master of ceremonies should prompt the audience to rise ...
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| Addressing doctors | 8/6/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: I would like to know the proper way to address a card to 2 doctors (husband and wife) . this is of a ...
A: Fuller, The proper way to address the card, especially since the wife uses her maiden name, would ...
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| Loud and Obnoxious Person Wants to Visit!!! | 8/5/2004 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: Good Morning Amanda, Thanks for the prompt reply and sage advice! DB assumes he has had an OPEN ...
A: AH HA! So he's not just a clueless good old boy,who has no social graces-- he's a USER. He just ...
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| Loud and Obnoxious Person Wants to Visit!!! | 8/4/2004 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: Good Evening, My husband Ron's ages old drinking buddy from his military seafaring days wants to ...
A: Yes,I can see where you would want to put the brakes on reviving the 'good old days'. We all grow ...
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| Obnoxious Guest Wants to Visit | 8/4/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: Good Evening, My husband Ron's ages old drinking buddy from his military seafaring days wants to ...
A: You and Ron always have the option of letting his friend know that it is not a convenient time for ...
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| Seeking Advice on Etiquette | 7/26/2004 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: A couple from a club I go to invited me over to their place for tea and I spent an enjoyable two ...
A: Babies are a shocking amount of work. How can someting so small need so much attention and required ...
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| Seeking Advice on Etiquette | 7/22/2004 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: A couple from a club I go to invited me over to their place for tea and I spent an enjoyable two ...
A: It is wrong to correct people's grammar or the way they pronounce a word. However,as you said,you ...
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| Public display of affection | 7/21/2004 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: What is the general rule about kissing and or touching in public? Is it at all acceptable? ...
A: Ah! The wonderful but much maligned PDA! Wonderful if you're the one happy and in love,oblivious to ...
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| business etiquette | 7/21/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: -Should all dates be spelt out (i.e. September Twentieth not September 20th) on a business ...
A: Thompson, Yes, the date and time should be spelled out. For example: the event ...
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| clothes etiquette | 7/20/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: Manners, My friend was offended after asking my advice on her clothes. Please, tell me, who is ...
A: I definitely agree with you on this matter. Wearing a see-through blouse without a camisole is ...
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| business etiquette | 7/20/2004 | Fleming Allaire, Ph.D., a.k.a Dr. Manners (TM). |
Q: I am designing/printing invitations for a company function. Is it correct to write... XYZ Company ...
A: Thompson, When designing a business invitation there are several things to remember. Here is an ...
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| Bridal Shower | 7/15/2004 | Amanda Gamble |
Q: My daughter and her finance in the Navy were recently married in a simple ceremony for the immediate ...
A: Drager, No,you cannot make it a "cash shower". If you want to spread the word quietly that nothing ...
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