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SubjectDate AskedExpert
Gifts for Twin(s)3/28/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: My son was invited to a Bas Mitvah for twins. He goes to school with one of the girls, but doesn't ...
  A: Sadowsky, Two gifts since the party is for both of them. If you wish,the second gift may be a ...
NON-PROFIT FUNDRAISER3/28/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: Our local Historical Society is hosting a dinner acknowledging the society's 100 years and honoring ...
  A: Yes,you should offer a pair of tickets to the dinner to the owners of the businesses you're ...
Thank you notes3/26/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: I recently attended a baby shower. During the shower all the guest were handed a blank white ...
  A: While the "Mother to Be" is not the hostess of the party,she should take the trouble to track down ...
MOB Pantyhose Outdoor Wedding3/26/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: I'm the Mother of the Bride.The Wedding & Reception are going to be outdoors at an Antebellum ...
  A: Whatever you do,please do not wear KNEE HIGHS! Those are fine with dress pants,but barely. As ...
Gifts3/19/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: Gamble, I have been quite ill for the past 2 months, and have been unable to work. I have been on ...
  A: Malames, I am sorry to hear of your illness but glad to know you are on the mend. I have drafted ...
birthday wishes3/19/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: Is there any "rule" or just a tradition to wish "hapy birthday" to someone THE EVENING BEFORE THE ...
  A: I have never heard of any tradition other than wishing someone a happy birthday on the actual day. ...
Dinner Invitation3/19/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: What to do when invited to dinner at someone's home but you have complicated dietary requirements? ...
  A: The polite thing to do is to let the hosts know that you don't want her to change or alter her plans ...
Meeting new people3/18/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: I am very shy and feel often quite socially awkward. Can you give me some tips on how to conduct ...
  A: This is a little too broad a subject to answer,but I will try. The trick is to stop thinking about ...
Business letter to City Council3/17/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: I have written an important letter to the members of a municipal city council. I don't know their ...
  A: Snelson, " To the members of the Anytown City Council, My name is John Snelson of 123 That ...
bridal shower gift3/12/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: Am I expected to send a gift to a bridal shower that is 3000 miles from my home? I will be attending ...
  A: No,you do not have to send (or for that matter take) a gift to any party,ever. No guest has to 'pay ...
Baby Shower Gift Giving3/5/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: I am sorry to have e-mailed you a second time within an 8-9 hour period, but I have another ...
  A: You are not required to give a gift if you do not wish to do so. There is no party of any kind ...
Thank You Notes for Wedding Presents3/4/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: My brother's wedding was at the end of July 2005. Since we are Muslim there were two parts: the ...
  A: Ariel, It was wrong of them to stick you with this job. It was up to the 'happy couple' to send ...
Okay to bring outside food to a restaurant3/1/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: Is is good manners to bring outside food or drink to a restaurant? For instance, if you bring chips ...
  A: Most restaurants forbid 'outside food' as it violates health codes,can negate their insurance and ...
An Unexpected Guest3/1/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: After I broke up with my boyfriend in early January, we decided we'd keep in touch and occasionally ...
  A: Yes,you have the right to feel that way. Since he lives four hours away he didn't just 'drop by'. ...
gift recipient etiquette2/26/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: Recently we visited young friends (28-30 years old)to meet their new baby. We'd been on the road ...
  A: It is sort of strange for them to open the gift without you there, You did hand it to them ...
Wedding etiquette2/22/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: This is an extremely embarassing situation! But here goes... I was married a year and a half ago. It ...
  A: PLEASE mail them right away! It is not too late. Since they are dated,don't open them,just mail ...
Lit candles2/21/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: Is there a rule about lighting candles on a formal table during the day. For example: If you are ...
  A: Candles have no place on a table before dusk. Not even as part of the centerpiece,if you want the ...
Gift for engagment party2/19/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: are gifts required to be given if you are invited to an engagement party for a young couple?
  A: No,you are never required to give a gift for any occasion. No guest has to 'pay for the privilege' ...
wedding invitations2/16/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: I am getting married in a few months and we are accepting monetary gifts only; how do i go about ...
  A: Any reference to gifts in any way,shape or form is by it's very nature,rude. Here's why: When you ...
wedding attire etiquette2/14/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: What should I do if I find that I am under-dressed or dressed inappropriately at a wedding?
  A: I'm sure that your friends or relatives are more interested in having you there for the joyous event ...
Wedding ring2/14/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: How long after a spouse dies can the survivor continue to wear a wedding ring?
  A: Till the day they die if they wish. Obviously,if the widow or widower hopes to date and remarry,they ...
Thank you note2/6/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: My friends and I were invited to a birthday party at a restaurant and it was absolutely beautiful ...
  A: Schirmer, No,you aren't in the wrong. She just got her notes out first. Since she had gifts to ...
question about entertaining/etiquette2/6/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: I'm not sure if you can answer this or not, but I didn't know where else I should direct this ...
  A: Yes,you and your partner/husband/etc would clear (pass the food from the left,clear from the right) ...
paying for dinner2/4/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: Amanda, My husband and I don't know the proper etiquette in who or how to pay for dinner at the ...
  A: Lackett, Have your husband take your son aside and ask if he is planning to pay for dinner. He is ...
Re: Holidaying with Friends1/31/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: We (me, my husband and two young children) have a few holidays on this year, however very dear ...
  A: Please forgive the tardiness of my reply,I kept getting error messages when I tried to send my ...
Bas Mitzvah Invitation1/31/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: I am not Jewish and my husband has not been involved in Judaism for many, many years. His niece ...
  A: Bernstein, Please forgive the tardy reply,every time I tried to send my answer through I would get ...
Engagement Dinner Invitation Etiquette1/30/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: My sister is having an engagement party for my fiancée and I at a restaurant that isn't very cheap. ...
  A: The site has been down,not allowing me to send the answers through..sorry for the delay. Dear ...
Correcting Someone's Grammar and/or Ettiquette1/28/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: Gamble, I have a brother-in-law that loves to correct other people's grammar and/or ettiquette in a ...
  A: It is considered a worse breech of etiquette to point out someone else's mistake than the mistake ...
family relationships1/26/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: Two and a half years ago an ex-lover came back into my life due to being deathly ill. I was very ...
  A: I think you've answered your own question. By rejecting her they are rejecting you. Where she is not ...
lunching together1/26/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: ------------------------- Thanks for the reply but what I find is that unless you mention the terms ...
  A: As long as you say up front how you would like the bill to be handled who could take offense? It's ...
guests and their children1/25/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: I have an on-going problem that I'm not sure how to handle. My husband and I do not have children, ...
  A: Horrible. I've also noticed a decline in the willingess of parents to properly supervise and/or ...
Baby shower1/23/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: My 17 year old daughter is expecting in March and I have planned a shower for her. My husband's ...
  A: If your daughter is keeping the baby,then a shower is not inappropriate. Her age has nothing to do ...
Ediquette manners1/21/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: I recieved flowers because of a lost love one. What is the proper way to respond?
  A: You are under no obligation to do anything,really. Those who have lost a loved one are given a pass ...
toasting for a 50th anniversary dinner1/18/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: What is the proper etiquette for toasting my parents for their 50th anniversary? The lady that is ...
  A: The woman whom you are employing to provide the venue and catering for this wonderful milestone in ...
bridal shower and wedding invites1/17/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: I am giving a local bridal shower for my daughter with local guests. Shi is having a destination ...
  A: Yes,absolutely. Even if the odds are slim to none that they will come to the wedding,you must invite ...
Yelling in the house1/13/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: My wife and I have a 10,000 square foot house and my wife is always yelling at me from one room or ...
  A: Bishop, This is one of my pet peeves as well. Typically you cannot hear the other person clearly ...
who decides what social etiquette is...society or the individual?1/13/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: I'm doing a research project on social etiquette. My thesis question is stated above. Could you ...
  A: Gina, You pose a question much like "Which came first,the chicken or the egg?" Society makes the ...
Wedding1/13/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: I sent in the response card for a wedding saying both my husband and I would be attending. The ...
  A: As the bride and her caterer are expecting you and a 'plus one',it doesn't matter if it's your ...
money instead of wedding gifts1/10/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: We are a military family living in Germany. My daughter will be married in the United States, in ...
  A: Jordan, I'm afraid you won't like what I have to tell you, but the blunt truth is you cannot ever ...
initials on stationery to be used before and after the actual wedding1/8/2006Amanda Gamble
  Q: I am recently engaged and plan to marry in December of this year. My fiancee has some questions in ...
  A: Farrell, Congratulations! 1) For the engagement and shower gifts she should write the note and ...

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I will answer any etiquette question you`d care to ask! I will be happy to give friendly non-judgmental advice on any situation. Certain cultures and religions that outside of my personal scope of knowledge but I usually know whom to ask when I have a question. Time specific questions may or may not get answered by your deadline.

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