AboutDoug Staneart Expertise Doug Staneart has over ten years experience in and can answer questions dealing with overcoming nervousness or anxiety associated with public speaking, how to become a more polished and confident speaker, how to write and organize a speech, or how to deliver effective sales presentations.
Experience
Doug Staneart has been a speaker and trainer for over ten years specializing in public speaking, sales training, and team building. Doug is CEO of The Leader?s Institute® (Public Speaking Training) based in Dallas and author of the books 40 Ways to Influence People and Fearless Presentations. He has accumulated over 700 hours of classroom coaching and training and began his career with Dale Carnegie Training® where he was recognized on numerous occasions for superior instruction.
Question iam suffering from a very bad habit of stammering after a long gap and pause while speaking of some words in front of others including my name while introducing myself to strangers and other persons. i feel very bad and low as it become my reason for shyness and introvert as i dont like to mix up very frequently. i am not able to speak fluently and i will speak some words after a long gap and pause. this starts with my name and this problem has been a very depressing factor in my life but iam trying hard to forget these and continue to live without effecting this. can u please advice me sincerely as i want solution to this problem. i want to overcome this problem as this has created a fun for me among my group of friends and today i feel very insecure of meeting anyone.please advice me as soon as possible.please tell what is this all abaout. is it disease and if it is can it be cured or do i have to live with this for my lifetime.
thanks and regards
vineet
Answer Vineet,
I'm not a psychologist, but typically, this type of thing comes from nervousness. Since it does, it is self-reinforcing. The more it occurs, the more nervous a person becomes and the more it occurs.
A couple of things might help. First realize that you are not unique because you get nervous around people. Everyone gets nervous. Second, most people are are way more concerned about themselves than you. They are afraid you won't like them. Third, most nervousness doesn't show.
After every new encounter, I want you to take out a note card or note pad and write down three things you did well in the meeting. Forget about anything that didn't go well. Before each new meeting, review your cards. You will begin to have new successes.
